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Those who like to serve ... - 7/5/2007 6:24:09 AM

PhilaMale1958

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Actually this is a comment on the post, "What do service slaves get out of it?", but it didn't seem to fit into being a proper comment for that topic thread.

My comment is that service slaves make me weak in the knees, and this is not about sex. I don't know what it is but to know that someone is there to serve you, and that they enjoy it, is a very powerful turn on for me. It is a ying yang relationship and that your service slaves characteristics are desirable, appreciated, and that you are respected for what you do.

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RE: Those who like to serve ... - 7/5/2007 6:52:09 AM

meticulousgirl

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Thanks for sharing Phila Male

for me as a slave i enjoy the mental aspects of servitude, so as long as i am serving i'm happy it doesn't matter if i'm cleaning toilets, the bathtub, the bathroom floor or if i'm bound and tied up somewhere. Its the mental knowledge that does it for me.

Again thanks for sharing

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RE: Those who like to serve ... - 7/5/2007 7:12:57 AM

mstrjx

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Service as a portion of submission is generally only as valuable as the service being performed. Many of the people I've been with over the years have tended to be more slovenly than I. I'd just rather do a lot of things for myself. This also goes for 'personal' service.

One of the things that I have (thankfully) found recently is that when the spirit is correct (the servant LIKES to serve) and pays proper attention to what they're doing, it's really a true joy. I've attempted to have sub/slaves dry me coming out of the shower, and usually they fail miserably, so I just handle it. My partner not only relishes the opportunity, but does an admirable job.

The other night (in chat) I commented that I have a dentist appointment next week, and that I'm not always the best at preparation. (I brush daily, but that's about it. Then again, I've had inordinately few problems in the past.) Simultaneously, as I was typing out 'Is flossing something you think you can do for me once we're together', she was typing out how she would like to take that on as one of her responsibilities.

Service has to be thought of in the same terms for both people for things to work well.

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RE: Those who like to serve ... - 7/5/2007 7:34:16 AM

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That's true- a service slave doesn't mean much if they keep saying "Well that's not how I was trained to do it" when I want them to do a particular service. Or if their internet addiction keeps them from doing what I want.

I tend to think having everyone enjoy giving service to eachother is a great mix for a relationship :)

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RE: Those who like to serve ... - 7/5/2007 8:18:01 AM

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I identify as a service submissive. I get several things out of it.

One personal thing if the simple pleasure of seeing a job done. I don't see the end results in my employment, so there is this always hanging feeling on it was successful or not in the long run. But when i do a simple service i can see the end and know it is done and i did well.

Another is the feeling of knowing i have assisted someone else in doing better or more. By doing thing that might seem mundane or simple, i am freeing up the other person do something else that they either do better, more, or just have more time to enjoy what they like. Kind of like an executive assistance.

To my Master is it more a deep connection feeling i get. I am giving him more then just my paycheck or more then my body for play and sex. I am giving myself, my time and talents, and he benefits and his life is improved by it. I give him time to pursue his hobbies more, and do thing he wants.

And i get a lot of happiness from the occasional “good girl" that i get. While i am not doing service for them, when they do come they make a difference and fill a need to be recognized and appreciated.

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RE: Those who like to serve ... - 7/5/2007 9:35:31 AM

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Thank you, goodpet, I think you really hit the nail on the head for me as well. The only thing I'd add is that for me, submission often expresses itself in nurturing ways. When I love someone, am focused on and devoted to them, I take care of them. And I think that's where a lot of my service aspects come from.

And thank you, Master, for that little 'good girl'.

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RE: Those who like to serve ... - 7/5/2007 2:46:50 PM

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I consider myself service oriented. I don't identify as slave but servant. And it works for me very simply...I'll do whatever it is she wants the way she wants me to do it. And her pleasure equates to mine. She chooses to show her appreciation in the manner of play and sex and we both happen to enjoy that. If it weren't for that fact....if she wasn't enjoying herself...I wouldn't want to do it. It's about her enjoyment and ease in life.

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RE: Those who like to serve ... - 7/7/2007 1:46:04 AM

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Not to be overlooked here, Please realize that it is very difficult for some Dominants to relinquish these duiteis to someone else, be it a submissive or anyone. For me, i receive satisfaction in knowing that i am trusted enough to be assigned these tasks.

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RE: Those who like to serve ... - 7/7/2007 7:33:09 AM

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Every morning Master awakes to hot coffee and me suckling and nuzzling his nether regions. He moans softly and tells me that he is the luckiest man alive. I can not tell you how much this affirmation of his approval for me affects me except to say that it gives me goosebumps and a euphoria that carries me to work. Simple things that another might take for granted are appreciated because they are done with joy and devotion. Make no mistake, I did this in a vanilla marriage also, but never got the satisfaction I do here.

Best of luck to all of you.

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