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Gentlemen, I'm Up Here - 7/5/2007 12:15:59 PM

NakedOnMyChain

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As I sauntered back in from getting the mail earlier I pondered why the mailman can't look me in the eyes. He's younger, fairly attractive, and as far as I can tell from talking to others on my block, professional. But for some reason when he gets around me, even with my UM in tow, he becomes extremely flirty and simply will not look anywhere except my breasts. I have a decent rack and a nice body, so it was a little flattering, sure. But mostly it was just irritating. I think it's because he is so obviously leering that it goes up on the insulting quota. Not to be conceited, but he's one of many men who have less than met my eyes in the past. Usually it is the creepy stalker type, but occasionally there have been one or two that were actually attractive. Provided it is simply appreciative I find it flattering and take it well. When they don't look anywhere else or it's particularly lascivious or solicitous (from strangers, mind you. It can be fun coming from that sexy someone.) I tend to take it very poorly.

So, ladies and gentlemen, cats and kittens, how do you feel about being ogled? At what point does the flattery become insult? Does it have to do with how long it continues, where they are looking, where it takes place, who it is coming from, what they are doing at the time, who you are with when it happens? At what point is that line crossed for you? If you care to give examples, I would be interested to hear them.

Edited to add: I am not complaining. I'd be an ingrate to complain that someone found me attractive.

I'm simply asking for input and your opinions on your own similar situations.

< Message edited by NakedOnMyChain -- 7/5/2007 12:49:17 PM >

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RE: Gentlemen, I'm Up Here - 7/5/2007 12:18:11 PM

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Send me a picture of your tits, I will try and see if I can work out what is going on there, for you.

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RE: Gentlemen, I'm Up Here - 7/5/2007 12:19:20 PM

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LMFAO

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RE: Gentlemen, I'm Up Here - 7/5/2007 12:21:01 PM

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Thank, Ron! I can always rely on you

... to exacerbate the situation.

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RE: Gentlemen, I'm Up Here - 7/5/2007 12:26:07 PM

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when i worked behind the bar, i had a few pairs of leather pants tailored with a sleeve and cockring in order to fully accentuate my shape and size; so in that instance i was simply flattered and amused when a woman (and sometimes a man) would pretend to not have just been staring blatantly at my package... but i do get irked and uncomfortable, when in everyday situations someone would continually stare at me in a suggestive manner... like i am more than hair and a butt, dammit... i think it all depends on the atmosphere and how i dress

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RE: Gentlemen, I'm Up Here - 7/5/2007 12:34:03 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: NakedOnMyChain

As I sauntered back in from getting the mail earlier I pondered why the mailman can't look me in the eyes. He's younger, fairly attractive, and as far as I can tell from talking to others on my block, professional. But for some reason when he gets around me, even with my UM in tow, he becomes extremely flirty and simply will not look anywhere except my breasts. I have a decent rack and a nice body, so it was a little flattering, sure. But mostly it was just irritating. I think it's because he is so obviously leering that it goes up on the insulting quota. Not to be conceited, but he's one of many men who have less than met my eyes in the past. Usually it is the creepy stalker type, but occasionally there have been one or two that were actually attractive. Provided it is simply appreciative I find it flattering and take it well. When they don't look anywhere else or it's particularly lascivious or solicitous (from strangers, mind you. It can be fun coming from that sexy someone.) I tend to take it very poorly.

So, ladies and gentlemen, cats and kittens, how do you feel about being ogled? At what point does the flattery become insult? Does it have to do with how long it continues, where they are looking, where it takes place, who it is coming from, what they are doing at the time, who you are with when it happens? At what point is that line crossed for you? If you care to give examples, I would be interested to hear them.

Not trying to devalue your situation here NakedOnMychain, but men do look at women.

I work with a load of women, and quite frankly it's fuckin' superb. They're like a pack of cats on heat. Most of the time I don't have the first clue what they're going on about, anything from bikinis to low fat yoghurts, but they're a game lot, always flirting.

Where's the line crossed? It's not.

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RE: Gentlemen, I'm Up Here - 7/5/2007 12:36:18 PM

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I never said there was anything wrong with looking. But when you look to the point of completely ignoring a person while they're talking to you, I would say a line has been crossed. Typically. Then again, from the right person it can be flattering. That's what I'm trying to get at: personal boundaries.

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RE: Gentlemen, I'm Up Here - 7/5/2007 12:44:10 PM

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I have this 17 year old step son who quite frankly, we're a bit worried about...he doesnt do much but play video games and hang out in books-a-million, he's terrified of learning to drive, or going to the movies with friends (probably cause he really doesnt have any) and is absolutly horrified by the fact that a girl from his class actually called him on the phone. In fact, a few years ago..ok..longer than a few, he was 13 I think, he found one of our adult videos...his only reaction? "Dad....do girls actually DO that?" "uhm, yea son".."ewwwwwwwwwwww"

Ok, and no he isnt gay either, thinks thats gross too...id be happy if he was, at least I knew he was something...

Anyway, last week, my best friend calls me up "hey, i ran into C***** today in books-a-million, I dont think he even realized it was me though, he was standing at the rack of books next to me staring at my tits" (and my best friend has a rather endowed pair) I went running through the house cheering, the hubby asked me whats up? I told him we finally found out the boy was human!

So, yea, sometimes its a bit annoying, but its a typical male thing...they all do it....

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RE: Gentlemen, I'm Up Here - 7/5/2007 12:45:49 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: NakedOnMyChain

I never said there was anything wrong with looking. But when you look to the point of completely ignoring a person while they're talking to you, I would say a line has been crossed. Typically. Then again, from the right person it can be flattering. That's what I'm trying to get at: personal boundaries.

Fair enough, but take away the layers of civilisation, and we're animals. "after you" isn't always observed in the animal kingdom.

< Message edited by NorthernGent -- 7/5/2007 12:48:26 PM >

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RE: Gentlemen, I'm Up Here - 7/5/2007 12:47:20 PM

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ORIGINAL: NorthernGent

Fair enough, but take away the layers of civilisation, and we're animals. "after you" isn't always obeserved in the animal kingdom.

except, pehaps, in order to get behind her

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RE: Gentlemen, I'm Up Here - 7/5/2007 12:52:33 PM

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Very true. But while we are, in fact animals, and I truly enjoy that side of a good man, we aren't just animals. For most, intellectual stimulation is as much, if not more important than physical prowess and its trappings.

And LMAO, darchChylde!

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RE: Gentlemen, I'm Up Here - 7/5/2007 12:53:55 PM

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I was staring at some woman’s thighs on the way home tonight and I think she caught me. Obviously I then didn’t know where to look so quickly looked away and ended up staring at her chest, then out the window. We were in a tunnel so I had no reason to be looking out the window either. Then I noticed I could see her thighs reflected in the black window. Success!

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RE: Gentlemen, I'm Up Here - 7/5/2007 12:54:24 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: NakedOnMyChain

Very true. But while we are, in fact animals, and I truly enjoy that side of a good man, we aren't just animals. For most, intellectual stimulation is as much, if not more important than physical prowess and its trappings.

And LMAO, darchChylde!

True, we are more than animals, but why do we have that conversation, and why do we buy music and clothes, and conform to a certain mindset, look and attiude?

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RE: Gentlemen, I'm Up Here - 7/5/2007 12:55:20 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: NakedOnMyChain
I never said there was anything wrong with looking. But when you look to the point of completely ignoring a person while they're talking to you, I would say a line has been crossed. Typically. Then again, from the right person it can be flattering. That's what I'm trying to get at: personal boundaries.

Have you thought about getting one of those t-shirts that has eyes painted at the places the guys are looking? Kind of makes a statement.

Sheesh! Now if I ever meet you, I'll be soooo self-conscious about staring!
**must...not...stare...at breasts...(pant)...must NOT...stare...at...the...ohSO delicious...breasts...oh fuck it!**

Bob

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RE: Gentlemen, I'm Up Here - 7/5/2007 12:58:51 PM

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ORIGINAL: NorthernGent
True, we are more than animals, but why do we have that conversation, and why do we buy music and clothes, and conform to a certain mindset, look and attiude?

because it carries us through the ancient mating rituals used to attract the females of the species... it is merely our own form of butting our horned skulls against each other for dominance and the right to mate, or displaying our bright and colorful feathers

we really are not that far from beasts when it comes to the mating dance

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RE: Gentlemen, I'm Up Here - 7/5/2007 12:58:56 PM

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For me, it is because I enjoy the conversation, those clothes or that music. I can't speak for everyone else, and I'm sure quite a bit of it is just from breeding, and for breeding, if you will. But we've all learned to play the game. The game makes it that much more fun when we are stripped down to our most animalistic selves. Seeing the transition from an intelligent, capable member of society to a lusting, needful animal is one of life's true joys. It may be fun to jump the gun once in a while, but it would be deprivation to deny that as a norm.

Edited to add: I am definitely going to have to pick up one of those shirts, Bob. Oh, the awesomeness of it! And I may even post it as my new pic.

< Message edited by NakedOnMyChain -- 7/5/2007 1:01:15 PM >

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RE: Gentlemen, I'm Up Here - 7/5/2007 1:01:06 PM

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Hmm i've had a chest since i was 13. I was accused of stuffing by the flatter girls in my grade. I got used to the stares especially once i became all jingly and bouncy. At this poitn i have just stopped caring mainly a ball grab tends to get their attention back up to ones face

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RE: Gentlemen, I'm Up Here - 7/5/2007 1:01:51 PM

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Have you considered the mail man might have plates in his neck due to an unknown accident and is unable to look up? I dunno some people are so judgemental.

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RE: Gentlemen, I'm Up Here - 7/5/2007 1:04:15 PM

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It's possible that it's one of those gender-coded plates that lets him look at my tits and still be able to look my husband in the eye. Stranger things have happened. LOL.

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RE: Gentlemen, I'm Up Here - 7/5/2007 1:05:11 PM

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Is your husband short?

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