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AAkasha -> RE: Am I wierd? (7/16/2007 9:34:25 AM)
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Reality check time.
I am the first one to admit I LOVE "deflowering virgins" - I love everything about the vulnerability and ability to show a man who to make love the way I like to make love.
A man in his 20s who is still a virgin is kind of sexy and cute to me. A man in his 30s and still a virgin is a little odd and questionable. A man in his 40s and still a virgin is worrisome to me. The problem is maturity and self confidence. It's ok to be a little bit fumbling and unsure romantically in your 20s, but in your 30s and 40s, women are going to expect that you can make love with some idea of what's what.
There's also the issue of "romantic maturity" -- while a man may be a virgin when it comes to sexual intercourse, I think if he's in his 30s, he should know the basics of dating, courting, romance and intimacy appropriateness. A virgin becomes more shellshocked and terrified the older he gets, whereas a guy who lost his virginity at 15 or 16 has worked out most of the fear and insecurity.
There's a big difference, though, between a man who has "saved" his sexual intercourse virginity for the right woman, but he's a fine tuned lover in all areas. Let's face it, there's a lot more to sex than penetration. If a guy is in his 30s and has never even made out or brought a woman to orgasm manually -- ouch, he might take some work.
Akasha
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