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salleesweet -> RE: seattle & the wet spot (7/7/2007 9:12:39 PM)
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so I am going to be one of the people who is going to post a negative about the place - but with a qualifier.
I came to Seattle from the Bay Area and the dungeons there were a bit different than the WS is. That isn't a slam, it is just a fact.
I could and did go to the dungeons there alone all the time with ZERO issues. I have been to the WS a number of times now in the last four years that i have lived here. I have never gone alone and each and every time I have been there, I was pretty glad I was not alone frankly.
I had no "serious" issues - just a few people feeling it was perfectly fine to cross into my personal space and limits on my person without bothering to even ask (I was kissed once, had my ass slapped once, had it pinched once as well, had someone actually reach for my boob - which was marked - I stopped her rather quickly - that sort of thing).
The issues that i have had, have NOT been with men, they seem to be pretty well mannered and know the boundaries with women who are not theirs. The issues have come with women. As I was there with Dominant men each time this occurred, that put them in the position of either looking like an asshole for stepping up and telling the women who did this they were out of line - or looking like a bit of a pussy because I dealt with it so they did not look like assholes. Niether of which they liked being put in, you know? Niether of which I liked being put in either. So it was truly a lose-lose sort of situation each time.
Fact is within the scene in any place I have gone to, I have had more issues with other women than I have ever had with men and I tend to think what I just mentioned is the reason. Women get away with it more often than men simply because if a man had done any of those things to me, the men I was with would have stepped up as well as my stepping up and setting them straight and most likely a few men I did not know would have as well - it simply is not tolerated. But make it a woman that does it and you are not so assured of having that occur. Women know that - and take advantage of that.
So the only thing i would tell you is that IF you choose to go alone, be aware and be prepared to speak up and let others know they have crossed your lines if they do so is all.
BTW, I DO believe that if I had taken my complaints to the DM's or those in charge, they would have at minimum spoken to the women who did what they did, I chose not to do that at the time. However, should it ever occur again, I will most definitely do so.
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