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ORIGINAL: Lockit

Hello NoVacancy and Everyone…

Thank you for your post NoVacancy! 

I have had to deal with this for a great number of years.  I haven’t always been where I am today in my financial situation and with my son, so I was viewed differently.  Now most men will run as quickly as they can from my situation.  A friend of mine said to me… ‘Lockit, you are an amazing person and I have watched men reject you over and over and I know it hurts you… but you know… I feel sorry for them because they are missing out.’

Lockit, the wonderful thing is, you would not want a human being that is so insensitive and shallow.  I know I would not want a human being
like that, no matter what my situation is.

We can’t know what we are missing until we know someone and although there might be things that we couldn’t live with in a relationship, we could have some amazing friendships if we gave some people a chance.

People sum up my situation very quickly and rule me out as a human being in some cases… often times feeling I did something wrong in life or make poor choices or cannot do certain things or that my illness is a poor attitude.  All are misconceptions.  When people do get to know me, they are typically glad they did.

There is something that I haven’t seen mentioned on this thread and that is that many who are ill or disabled are often preyed upon, in and outside the lifestyle, in relationships.  Some will ‘accept’ them only to use or abuse them.  They will expect us to move into something quicker for the relief… accept less than what we know is best for us or even want to change whether we are dominant or submissive to suit their needs.  All of this seemingly on the premise that we will accept anything at all to have something because we can’t have it all or much of anything,
I understand what you are saying Lockit.  I just want to interject that many woman are preyed upon, regardless what their situation is.
Believe me, I know this for a fact.  People actually also prey on people that they think may be financially solvent.
I can't think of any class of people that are not prey, the key is to be aware and on the look out for predators.
 

 Also there are those that we have relationships with that must decide whether they can maintain a relationship with us or not.  That is in itself a challenge on top of the typical things one must consider and sometimes it takes time and many will seemingly go the distance only to back out at the last minute.  We tend to get people playing hard with our lives.  I have found in my own situation that men want me so badly that they convince themselves that they can handle what I have going on… promise all the right things and do all the right things… when all along they have hidden the fact that there is some aspect that they cannot handle.

There is no substitute for getting to know someone for a long time and well before playing.  I think you are smart and know what types of people to avoid, and the right man will eventually come along.
Good luck.

I am just very glad to hear that some will consider all things and give some of us a chance… because even we have desires and needs and can be a blessing to someone else.