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PairOfDimes -> RE: fetish wear for "average" sized women (7/8/2007 2:52:34 PM)
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Although I'm a few sizes smaller than you, like you I find clothes that leave something to the imagination sexier than very, very revealing outfits, so I think my experience might be applicable. I'm also a bit of a clotheshorse and fashion junkie, and I'd love to see more mingling of mainstream and fetish choices.
If you don't care for the cuts and styles of clothes made by fetish designers and sold in fetish stores, don't buy "fetish" clothes. Buy clothes that can give off a fetishy vibe that are sold in "normal" stores. Often, those clothes have better quality fabric and fit than dedicated fetish stuff (unless, you know, you enter the high-end Rose Algren, Stormy Leather kind of market) and, especially, if you shop consignment and bargain stores like TJ Maxx, they are generally less costly. You can find leather skirts and pants in department stores easily--I've got a pair of suede pants from Lord and Taylor, and several leather skirts in lengths from mini to below the knee, mostly pencil and a-line cuts because those suit me, although I've seen other shapes. PVC and shiny synthetics can be had, too. I also like silk, velvet, and other touchable, interesting fabrics, ideally with a bit of a sheen to them to make the item a little more festive. Buy clothes that have a little sheerness, or lace, or fishnet, if that suits you. Essentially, choose sexy, pretty clothes, maybe a little more femme, maybe a little more revealing, fitted, or brightly colored than you would ordinarily wear. Buy clothes that make *you* feel beautiful, and that suit your aesthetic and your desired image while still being appropriate for the event.
Now, some concrete examples and advice. I have a leather pencil skirt that has gone to work on casual days in winter with tights and a sweater, and by changing to heels or fuck-you boots and a different top, I get a look for parties. In winter, those suede cigarette pants go to play parties with a velvet jacket fastened up over a bra (so, you see deep plunge and cleavage, but little other skin) and the same outfit goes to holiday parties with the jacket open and a top under it. Changing shoes, bras (i.e. push-up or seamless) and other accessories has made the same wrap dress appropriate for play parties, other parties, and, with a jacket or sweater over and a camisole under, for work on casual days. While some of my play party outfits are just festive or sexy and not really fetish wear, when I do want an overtly fetishy look or when I need to meet a dress code, I wear leather.
You might think about a body part that you like and can display comfortably--I know a woman who has a very well turned upper back/shoulders/arms region, and while she often wears clothes that give a little more room around the midriff, I don't think I've ever seen her in a top with sleeves. If you like the shape of your body, but you're worried about cellulite, veins, scars, or other skin issues, you can wear snug clothes that don't actually show skin--catsuits are a great option, and can be especially stunning if you're tall. Even though stockings are somewhat "out" in mainstream fashion, kinky people haven't tired of them, and I'm glad of it--patterned ones are particularly fun.
Whew, that was a long post. I just recently had an "I'm going to a party, and I haven't a thing to wear!" moment, so perhaps that's why I have a lot to say. I hope some of this was helpful.
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