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LadyHugs -> RE: Female perspective in BSDM/subordinates (7/8/2007 8:15:34 PM)
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Dear kiyari, Ladies and Gentlemen;
It is my belief that you are asking if others in a submissive/subserviant role are seen as invisible by the other person in their life and or the Dominant figure in their life. If this is correct, then I will express what my mind's eyes see.
It is often a case where communication lacks where validation of what you do and what you are, that you feel under appreciated and not appreciated for the talents you bring to the relationship. Perhaps like a man's 'street rod' and made for high performance and its driven gently to and from church.
That said, not all women are nurturing -- my mummy (mother) is a clear example of that yet, to others she is the epitome of the supportive, nurturing wife like "Father Knows Best." I took more from my father's personality--he was a kind soul, very giving to a fault.
If you have problems in communicating to your spouse/partner, perhaps a note will work or send him a letter in the mail and list things that bother you; such as lack of attention sexually in the bed and how it makes you feel and or other things that he would at least mention, as to let you know he sees you and appreciates you; and for what you add in so many ways to the relationship.
There is little difference between Dominance/submission and marriage/relationships; no matter what role you are in or choose for yourself --that is to be acknowledge, to be respected and to feel some sense of appreciation and--feeling secure.
Just some thoughts.
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
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