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Putting aside - 6/18/2005 12:40:08 AM

RiotGirl

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The whole question with "bi" and how you'd handle it, startled me into a realization. i keep hearing about "i'd do it if it makes Master/Mistress/Owner/Dom/Domina happy" "thats all care about" "thats all that matters" blah blah blah and more blahs. for some reason thats just always seemed SILLY to me and it never clicked. (really i thought it was a bunch of make believe people said to look good) In writing a response to the "bi" thread, i FINALLY got it. LOL my BIGGEST issue is being with another man, yet i was going to, happily, because i knew it would make Master happy. Even if i hated every minute of it, i'd of still done it happily. i'm sure, its not the "first" time i've thought like this (LOLOL) but its the first time its really struck me.

So the question being... When did you first realise or even start putting aside your "qualms" about doing something to make your Top happy? (Notice i also said "realise") Granted that is what this is all about, but i'm speaking more on a deeper level. i dont mean what shows you watch or food you eat, or all the little things.. i mean on a deeper level, a bigger level. Like, being able to put aside my biggest issue.

Note:: Emerald you dont need to respond cos i already know what you're going to say. Something very matter of factly about how this has always been the way for you.

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RE: Putting aside - 6/18/2005 8:55:15 AM

EmeraldSlave2

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ORIGINAL: RiotGirl

Note:: Emerald you dont need to respond cos i already know what you're going to say. Something very matter of factly about how this has always been the way for you.

Yeah but that doesn't always mean it's easy. In the relationship where I lived with my owners, it was months and months before I realized I was being stifled and not feeling any emotional support and slowly less able to TO serve and please. In turn I was becoming resentful and frantic- no state for a slave to be in. In the end I asked for released, because I knew I was unable to please as they needed to be. Not fun at all.

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RE: Putting aside - 6/18/2005 12:13:35 PM

littleone35

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I am not bi at all and my late Master knew that so that was one of my hard limits no other woman. He would have liked to see it but he respected my limits.

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RE: Putting aside - 6/18/2005 1:52:34 PM

feline

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This is the question, right?

So the question being... When did you first realise or even start putting aside your "qualms" about doing something to make your Top happy?

Actually for me it was just recently. It was a gag thing. And it was more of a compromise