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Cumming on command - 7/9/2007 11:55:42 AM   
SFBaySwitch


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Status: offline 		I have heard many Masters say that they can make their slaves (female) have an orgasm on verbal command.  I am curious if any Mistresses have been able to train their slaves (male) to cum on command.  If so, how does one go about training a male slave to do cum on command?

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RE: Cumming on command - 7/9/2007 12:59:23 PM   
MstrssPassion


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I don't think its possible for a male to ejaculate "cum on command" alone & without physical stimulation (even though milking is not direct stimulation to the penis.... it is still physical stimulation)

Sorry... this is one of those things I would have to see to believe

***so yall get those home videos posted & link us <veg>

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RE: Cumming on command - 7/9/2007 1:01:30 PM   
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RE: Cumming on command - 7/9/2007 1:22:10 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		I'm right there with you.  Does anybody want salt with the popcorn?

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RE: Cumming on command - 7/9/2007 1:23:13 PM   
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RE: Cumming on command - 7/9/2007 1:44:03 PM   
LadyPact


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Does anybody else get the feeling that this thread is going to turn out to be more about the popcorn than the topic?
 
Still smiling.........

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RE: Cumming on command - 7/9/2007 1:45:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'd like some Diet Coke with mine................... popcorn always leaves me parched.

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RE: Cumming on command - 7/9/2007 1:47:16 PM   
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RE: Cumming on command - 7/9/2007 1:48:39 PM   
MstrssPassion


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Status: offline 		how about some plain, some buttered... salt & pepper to taste & I'll get busy with the kettle corn for those who have a sweet tooth

yall gotta BYOB (bring your own beverage) I'm already getting the pop corn GOSH!



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RE: Cumming on command - 7/9/2007 1:49:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		I am trained to cum when I hear a bell go off and let me tell you it’s no fun when you have to cook a microwave meal. No sur reee.

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RE: Cumming on command - 7/9/2007 1:54:04 PM   
MstrssPassion


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You can thank me later

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RE: Cumming on command - 7/9/2007 1:55:16 PM   
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RE: Cumming on command - 7/9/2007 2:00:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		If I may alter the topic somewhat to discuss what may be more of a real concern of mine...

During sessions when I am a sub--where obedience, humiliation and pain are intense--I tend to loose my connection to my sensual or sexual feelings.  I become so mentally focused on the other aspects that I sometimes have difficulty becoming aroused and able to perform sexually for my Domme.  Even moreso, when I am actually able to be aroused enough to perform, I find it incredibly difficult to climax--especially when She commands me to.  Does anyone have suggestions for how I might overcome this?  Thank you.

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RE: Cumming on command - 7/9/2007 2:00:25 PM   
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RE: Cumming on command - 7/9/2007 2:08:58 PM   
LadyPact


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To SfBay, all of the popcorn talk aside, what you mention isn't all that uncommon.  It can be something of a transitional period for some.  A period of aftercare, before being able to perform sexually isn't unheard of.  Don't let the thought trouble you.

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RE: Cumming on command - 7/9/2007 2:25:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		This came up not long ago, but I'll have to leave it to LA to find the link.  I said that I don't think it's possible for males to come on command, whereupon I was chided by someone who reminded me that orgasm and ejaculation aren't the same thing.  But that person didn't have any relevant information either.

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RE: Cumming on command - 7/9/2007 2:26:43 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SFBaySwitch

If I may alter the topic somewhat to discuss what may be more of a real concern of mine...

During sessions when I am a sub--where obedience, humiliation and pain are intense--I tend to loose my connection to my sensual or sexual feelings.  I become so mentally focused on the other aspects that I sometimes have difficulty becoming aroused and able to perform sexually for my Domme.  Even moreso, when I am actually able to be aroused enough to perform, I find it incredibly difficult to climax--especially when She commands me to.  Does anyone have suggestions for how I might overcome this?  Thank you.


OK, I haven't checked profile so you will have to confirm whether you are male or not.

Males suffer from a condition called erectile dysfunction. Sometimes there are physical reasons that contribute to this & sometimes their are psychological ones.

I've also heard of situations where men have conditioned themselves to the point where they were only able to achieve climax through solo masterbation.

The male orgasm is fairly standard when everything is in proper working order... lubrication, stimulation, ejaculation. (Lube is optimal but optional)

Have you always had issues with in this?
Do you have normal release during masturbation?
Have you had normal release during regular sexual contact?

I could continue with many more questions.

So... grab some popcorn & sit a spell, talk to us a bit & maybe we can help you narrow this down a bit. You could make the night of several of the ladies & bring in the diet pop they requested...

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RE: Cumming on command - 7/9/2007 2:35:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think that you would have more luck training someone to be unable to cum unless they recieve permission.  I've played with this sort of orgasm control, but never mastered it.

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RE: Cumming on command - 7/9/2007 3:47:57 PM   
Elorin


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Status: offline 		If you separate the concept of ejaculation - where semen spurts out of the cock (as opposed to leaking out that happens with prostate milking) - from orgasm, which is the more emotional aspect of being overwhelmed, mental "fireworks", overall body "convulsion", etc, then yes, men can be trained to orgasm on command.

Physical realities are that men physically have a period between ejaculations during which they cannot ejaculate. This time period generally gets longer the older the man is. Experiencing the emotional rush of an orgasm, however, is not limited by time.

I recommend the books The One-Hour Orgasm (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0312359195?ie=UTF8&tag=mselori-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0312359195 ) - geared towards women but with valuable information on the concepts of sexual anchoring and extended orgasms - and The MultiOrgasmic Man (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0062513354?ie=UTF8&tag=mselori-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0062513354 ) if you'd like to learn how to do this.

For the sub who loses touch with sexual desire during play, that's not all that uncommon. In fact, I have heard many a time that subspace and sexual orgasm are mututall exclusive (not an opinion I share). Sexual anchoring can be a solution to this, as it involves Pavolovian training and that "instant trigger" response rather than trying to involve the entire mind and body for the arousal and orgasm. I'm not sure if it would work for an ejaculatory orgasm, but I would think it would help to get you hard enough for your partner's uses. I've never had to work with a situation where a sub couldn't get hard when I wanted him to mostly because I don't normally engage sexually with my male play partners.

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RE: Cumming on command - 7/9/2007 3:52:00 PM   
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Status: offline 		I am a male.  Come to think of it, I have experienced some difficulty getting aroused in more normal/vanilla sexual situations usually seeming to stem from either nerves or some other form or unrest.  My emotional and mental state seem to have a great affect on my sexual desire.  Other males in my peer group tend to boast about how the physical or visual sensations are more than enough to get them and keep them aroused.  I seem to need much more of an emotional/mental connection, which I would tend to consider a more feminine trait (I sincerely mean no disrespect; please excuse me if this comes across as naive--I am here to learn).  The part of this that concerns me most is that when my Domme calls me to action, I would like to feel confident that I can perform, as frustration and doubt usually end up as show-stoppers.  Any thoughts?

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