TheSpaceTrucker
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Greetings whatever;
As an experienced Master and a man who loves his women submissive, let me start by saying that not all men or women will ever understand or indulge in our lifestyle.
There are however things that you can do to bring some of it into a Vanilia relationship.
I took the liberty of looking at your profile since you hadn't stated here if you were Dom/sub.
Here is one sugestion for you.
First of all take a little time to perpare for a special night.
If you have kids or others living with you get them out of the house for the night.
Take some time to make the living room over into a place where you can be comfortable on the floor while providing him a comfortable chair to sit in that makes him the center of attention.
Gather things you know he likes. Snacks, drinks, his favorite music (try to keep the music light and playful if possible)
Light the room with candles and sent it with incense or the perfume you know he likes.
(I think you can start to see where this is going. This is his night.)
Secound If you cook prepare some of his favorite foods in small quantities. (You don't want to stuff him just tantalise) Keep them in the kitchen out of sight till needed.
Third Prepare the bed room with your favorite toys, ropes, oils, silk scarves and anything else you wish to introduce to play. (Here again set the mood with lighting, music and sents)
Optional You might wish to prepare the bathroom to give him a sensual bath. Have handy wash cloths lofas a pitcture to rinse him with and some good manly smelling soap. (Yet again set the mood with lighting, music and sents) If you do this do it right from outside the tub and in the nude wash his arms legs chest and stomach then ask him to slide forward and slip into the tub behind him to wash his back after compleating that much reach around and wash his genitals. The Idea here is to relax and arouse but not to get sexual. You are trying to build sexual tention.
Finaly Prepare yourself for him. Make youself as sexy as you can. Make yourself into his little slave girl. You should know by now what he likes. Make it a step or two MORE sensual.
Prepare yourself mentaly as well. You should be prepaired to do what ever he might ask while never getting out of your role as his servent/slave. You should try only to make eye contact when asking for aproval or answering a question.
When he arrives greet him at the door kneeling. Bow to the floor and welcome him home. Ask him if you may take his shoes and any burdons he might have. Let him know that you are there to serve him and that he should feel free to tell you if you displaese him in anyway. Let him know he should forget the troubles of the world and enjoy this time with you. Kiss his feet as you remove his shoes and if you have prepaired a bath for him direct him to it but let him lead. Once he is in the bathroom excuse yourself for a moment to give him time to relive himself and get into the bath. Optionaly you may wish to undress him before leaving him. Well he is settling in gather some of his foods and drink to serve him while in the bath. When you return strip for him slowly as you serve him food and drink. (Never let him touch a thing other then you and try only to tease him with your body Do not deny his touch but keep it short)
If you opt not ot give him a bath then show him to his chair make him comfortable message his feet and legs. Get him his foods and drink and feed it to him as sensualy as you can.
Ask him for permission before speaking and let him know how much he makes you feel that he desirves this treatment and why. Let him know you are his to do with as he wishes. If he protests any of this look down and ask how you have displeased him. Offer him ways that you can mke it up to him. You stated that there were things that he admitted wanting to do. Those sould be among the things you offer him as ways to disipline you. If there are items needed for these desires they should be handy.
The idea is to play on all the surpressed desires. You want to bring them forward.
Be prepaired for any reaction and don't let it shake you. He may jump on the chance to play out some of those desires or he might reject the idea at first. Play hurt and sorry for displeasing him if he resists. Press the sexual nature as needed to keep his interest and you may soon find you have a full blown Dom on your hands.
One thing I will add here just because he is a man does not automaticaly make him a Dom.
He may well be submissive himself in which case no matter what you do he will not becomfortable in a dominant role. If that is the case you might have to take a dominant role or find Dom to play with to satisfy your desires.
This is only one idea but it should put you on the right track. Feel free to contact me with any questions or comments.
Let me know how things work out.
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