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Traveling to meet others - 7/11/2007 4:18:56 PM   
latexbarbiets


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Status: offline 		Why is it I find that most folks are to lazy to travel a minor distance to meet others? They seem to want to find their perfect playmate within 5 miles of themselves, which is highly unlikely. Since moving to nowhere KS, I've spoken with scores of folks with 100-120miles of me that always talk about wanting to meet but just cant seem to commit to the 2 hour drive to meet at a club or whatever. If your serious and interested in a person distance shouldnt matter(to an extent). Buck up and travel to meet folks, whats the worst that can happen, you waste 25bucks in gas or so. And the best that can happen is you find a partner your compatible with!!!

I get asked all the time if i travel, and yes i do. I'm traveling to 3 states this summer to meet folks or go to events. Yes i understand folks have work, financial situations and such but it can be done. And my budget is very low for traveling. I myself am finding that alot of folks just like the idea of potentially meeting someone yet they are afraid to take the next step, which is actually doing it.

Peace and Take Care,

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RE: Traveling to meet others - 7/11/2007 4:22:11 PM   
fadedlace


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Status: offline 		Some can't travel due to crappy vehicles, the cost of a trip, childcare issues or taking care of elderly parents, job responsibilities, etc.  It's not always laziness.  For those people who can't travel, I say that getting out locally and meeting people in person is the best way to socialize.

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RE: Traveling to meet others - 7/11/2007 4:23:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hi Barbie,

You appear to be venting, not asking for solutions. Not a bad thing, I just want to tell you I hear your frustration :)

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RE: Traveling to meet others - 7/11/2007 4:55:29 PM   
latexbarbiets


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Status: offline 		Yeah i am venting just a tad. And i do understand folks have issues with traveling. But there are many that can yet they are afraid to. I guess my question would really be why if you have the time and resources would someone not travel a small distance to meet others?  

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RE: Traveling to meet others - 7/11/2007 5:14:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		haha moved to offtopic, gee thanks mods.

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RE: Traveling to meet others - 7/11/2007 5:18:50 PM   
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RE: Traveling to meet others - 7/11/2007 5:24:16 PM   
angelsub642


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Status: offline 		i have an SUV, which of course eats up gas with these new gas prices.

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RE: Traveling to meet others - 7/11/2007 6:04:12 PM   
uwinceismile


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Status: offline 		hey barb,
ya got to realize,,not everyone is into actually meeting r/t.
many here are only interested in online,,its a diversion for them etc...
unfortunately,,many like thet, wont tell you,, they will simply string ya along....
we have to accept the good with the bad (and dont flame me,,i didnt say online was bad)  lol

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RE: Traveling to meet others - 7/11/2007 10:51:20 PM   
latexbarbiets


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Status: offline 		oh i know the whole online thing. Just rather annoying that folks play people like that. Would be nice if folks were just honest with one another, But thats in a ideal world:)

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RE: Traveling to meet others - 7/11/2007 11:46:50 PM   
leakylee


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Status: offline 		i know that i dont mind traveling, but i get annoyed with constantly being the one expected to do the traveling. after spending a year driving to philly from the pitts on a more than regular basis, i am ready for somebody to haul thier butts to orlando for a change..

lee

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RE: Traveling to meet others - 7/12/2007 12:20:57 AM   
petdave


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Status: offline 		It strikes me as odd too. Even more so are the people involved in LDRs for YEARS who never meet despite being only a few hundred miles apart. Couple weekends from now i'll be in Ohio (~1500mi round trip) just to look at some old motorcycles. For the sake a of a D/s relationship, as rare and special as they are? Hell, i might even hop a plane. Git 'er done!

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RE: Traveling to meet others - 7/12/2007 3:10:39 AM   
Quivver


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Status: offline 		I have never minded traveling when I have found someone I wanted to meet. 
Although a couple times I have had other things keep me from it.
Such as the unreliable wheels or lack of cash for a plane ticket. 
But when it's within my reach, I go.




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RE: Traveling to meet others - 7/12/2007 3:29:54 AM   
meatcleaver


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Status: offline 		I get the impression most people on the internet are fantasists and use the internet to live out their fantasies and are scared of real life. I've been willing to fly out and meet someone but there were always reasons why we shouldn't meet. I then came to my senses and realised if someone wasn't going to meet in a public place within a couple of weeks they weren't going to meet at all. Hell, where I live I don't need to bother so I really don't take the internet seriously anymore. It is a bit crap if one lives out in the wilds and have to rely on the internet to meet like minded people because the chances are small, even on a dedicated BDSM site.

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RE: Traveling to meet others - 7/12/2007 7:15:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		One of my slaves lives in NY (I live in Georgia) and I see him several times a year, either myself traveling there or him traveling to me.   Since I moved here 3 years ago, I've met a number of subs, but maybe only one who lived within 50 miles of where I live.   Atlanta has a thriving scene, so I meet more people there - at 100 mile drive one way, I'm not zipping over there for lunch every day, but it's certainly workable.

I agree that the internet is a tough place to meet people, and I don't spend much time online on personals sites since I do a lot of professional work online.   What determines if I'll meet someone is if they live somewhere that I travel to anyway (I'm a voracious traveler for both work and pleasure, going out of town at least one week of every month), and if in a short amount of time he's able to catch my interest and keep it long enough that we meet after a short period of time.

I think I've been very lucky - I don't often run into issues with no shows, and I've met some wonderful people.  But if I were only willing to look in my backyard, then it's unlikely I would have ever met them.

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RE: Traveling to meet others - 7/12/2007 11:59:46 AM   
popeye1250


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Status: offline 		I'm willing and able to travel anywhere in the country.
I have a new car, plenty of money and I'm retired so there's no problem.
And I live in a nice area with nice weather in my own condo so I can have someone come here too for an extended period like in the winter to get out of the cold up North.
No pushing and shoving ladies!

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RE: Traveling to meet others - 7/12/2007 12:41:55 PM   
texancutie


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Status: offline 		I don't mind meeting others as friends.  But I wouldn't meet play partners outside of my area.  It would be pointless for me.  I am real time, and enjoy being able to see someone on a regular basis.   Meeting to scene every few months, or even once a month wouldn't keep me happy or content.  So its not laziness, its practicality for me.  I just know what I enjoy is all.  Also, Houston is a huge city with an active community.  There is simply no need to look out of state.  Besides I guess I am one of the lucky ones...I met someone that lives maybe 3 miles from me.  Just worked out that way, when I wasn't looking.

I did give meeting someone not local, a shot.  It just didn't work out well when I did it.  So, in time I learned that was not what I wanted to do.

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RE: Traveling to meet others - 7/12/2007 1:03:59 PM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		If they will be willing to travel and eventually move to me, I am willing to travel for them.

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