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Hello - 7/11/2007 8:42:23 PM

angelfreakTN

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Hi A/all, I'm new here as well. I've been interested in the lifestyle for many years, but I'm married to a VERY vanilla man. Tried very hard over the years to get him to show more of a dominant side, but you can't make someone something he's not. Any ideas on how to fulfill the "freaky" (as he puts it) side of me without breaking up a marriage??

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RE: Hello - 7/11/2007 8:46:44 PM

artemisandgaia

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I'm sure you have but have you just talked to him and shared fantasy's. Yours and his?

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RE: Hello - 7/12/2007 10:27:04 AM

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Welcome Angel,

I'm not really sure what to tell you. I would ask first if you have just simply talked about the play side with Him, or if you have both sat down and actually discussed each other's fantasies.

A friend of mine were talking one night and she told me that she didn't really have any fantasies, and then thought about it and said her only fantasy was to just have one night without Their son in Their bed. (Wow what a boring sex life that must be).

I would guess that talking to him about it doesn't really work, my only thought is to put the thoughts into his mind in a not so obvious way.

~meticulous~

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RE: Hello - 7/12/2007 1:48:14 PM

kaprecia

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Buy a good book on the subject, for him maybe "The loving Dominant" and then sit and discuss his reactions. Good luck.

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RE: Hello - 7/12/2007 6:41:51 PM

angelfreakTN

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Thank you all for your advice. We have discussed it, have been discussing it for years actually, but he's still firm in his opinion that it's not for him (gee, maybe that shows a dominant side). He says that he does not have any fantasies, I just still find it hard to believe that a man can have no sexual fantasies. I will look into the book and see if that does anything...thanks again for all the advice.

angelfreak

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RE: Hello - 7/13/2007 5:27:34 AM

freedom76

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something else you might try is do not do for him.when he ask when are you going to do something(such as cook dinner)tell him you are waiting for him to tell you to do it.that might get him to be a little more assertive.good luck

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RE: Hello - 7/13/2007 5:51:41 AM

Tarisa

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welcome angelfreak

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RE: Hello - 7/14/2007 1:26:22 AM

HardnRuff

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Greetings and welcome to CM.

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RE: Hello - 7/14/2007 7:25:25 PM

MasterofDrkness

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hello and welcome angelfreaktn.

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RE: Hello - 7/14/2007 9:17:47 PM

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Hello and welcome to CM from One Tennessean to another

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