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Orgasm Denial/Control - 7/14/2007 11:39:37 AM

nickymaz

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This is a huge fetish for many people, especially on this site. I wanted to get a thread started about this topic.

What do you find so appealing about this? I love the power exchange, the idea of someone else controlling something so personal and private, something most people that totally for granted. It is an amazing thing to turn that over to someone else.

What is the longest period of time you have gone without orgasm? Mine was two weeks, great experience.

Everyone is welcomed to post, I'd love to here the opinions of Dommes as well.

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RE: Orgasm Denial/Control - 7/14/2007 1:49:32 PM

gregor2001us

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I am into this 24/7/365. I used to think it was my main kink, but am now thinking it is is as you say a wonderful way to exert power and control. So now i am beginnning to think my main kink is being controled...

I have gone a little over 3 months. After the first month, things sort of settle into a desperate groove that slowly gets worse. And i have found that over time i seem to get horny and needy quicker, i mean the build up to feeling desperate moves along more quickly.

cheers!

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RE: Orgasm Denial/Control - 7/14/2007 2:30:50 PM

hana20

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i find it difficult not to have an orgasm after a period of 3 weeks because it hurts so much down there that i cannot stund the pain!

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RE: Orgasm Denial/Control - 7/14/2007 2:39:52 PM

GhitaAmati

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My previous Sir wasnt into orgasm denial, but was into control....learning to not cum until he told me to. No I dont see this as the same thing as cumming on command. I cant put down the dishes and have an orgasm just because someone told me to, but I mean during a session, when stimulation was already occuring, teaching me to hold off having an orgasm until told to, and then immediatly having one. I think it definantly led to more intense orgasms, and the control aspect was definantly a big plus for me. I have no idea what the longest Ive gone without orgasm. I go for quite a while when the hubby is overseas with the Military, I dont usually masterbate everyday, and honestly dont do it all that often while he is away. So Id say its probably somewhere around 2 or 3 months.

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RE: Orgasm Denial/Control - 7/14/2007 4:12:44 PM

nickymaz

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Thanks for everyone's response for far. I'm glad to hear from you all and read about your experiences, its interesting to hear from women too. Looking forward to reading more.

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RE: Orgasm Denial/Control - 7/14/2007 6:40:55 PM

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hmmm... the longest time without an orgasm? can't say that asha honestly remembers. But asha would like to put out here that if one is trained to cum on command, and then also trained in orgasm control, not being allowed to cum until told to.. well, lets just hope the Owner remembers that! Otherwise it could be a very long and painful duration between orgasms, however intense the final result may be!

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RE: Orgasm Denial/Control - 7/14/2007 7:22:02 PM

arayofsunshine55

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He controls my orgasms mostly by making me cum over and over and over and over and over again. He doesn't do denial much, maybe once a year for a particular reason. But I've gone weeks without an orgasm cause it didnt cross my mind. None the worse for the wear.

As to the repeated orgasms what it does is make me almost always on, ready to cum at almost the drop of the hat. And we have used that pleasure to get over some of our more difficult humps. Having trouble doing something? A few orgams, suck his Cock, and whatever it is starts looking a helluva lot better.

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RE: Orgasm Denial/Control - 7/15/2007 1:02:05 AM

yaqeta

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I'm unusually orgasmic normally, so its an amazing part of my training to have learnt to control this on Master's command. The longest I've not had one for was only a few days, but that was a massive acheivement for me and the day I was finally allowed was one of the biggest rewards of my life.

I have also recently reached the point where I am able to orgasm on his command without any warning or sexual stimulation. I'm curious about whether anyone else here can do this...?

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RE: Orgasm Denial/Control - 7/15/2007 1:29:44 AM

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yaqeta,
asha has been trained to cum on her Masters signal, which is Him doing a whip-or-will call...no prior stimulation or warning, etc... and He loves to do this say in the grocery isle, or while we may be in a nilla gathering, just to see if asha might stumble *g*

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RE: Orgasm Denial/Control - 7/15/2007 2:46:52 AM

subiugo

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Of course chastity and organsm control can be part of a play. But i think the mean reason for a Female Dominant to control the chastity as well as the climaxes of a male sub is that the male sub is trained in that way to concentrate on the Superior Needs of his Mistress and no longer on the lowly desires of his penis. Chastity is becoming a part of my lifestyle now, and i feel i am entering a next stage where my chastity and climaxes have a spiritual meaning too. See these articles on my blog... Or just to share with you my last climax experience, just last night. Supreme Goddess Lorena granted me Her permission to climax in Her honour during the New Moon worshipping ritual i had outdoors. It was a beautiful, and peaceful night, and i had found a very quite and natural spot. Having my climax in such a wonderful environment really made it a ritual that linked me to my Goddess and to nature.

And in general, i don't think chastity is a 'sport' and that you can be the world champion in chastity by counting the days or weeks you are in chastity. It is the feeling of submission and the knowledge that you give control to another person that matters. And it is up to your Mistress to use that control for the mutual benifit of Mistress and slave.

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RE: Orgasm Denial/Control - 7/15/2007 11:37:28 AM

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Master has never denied me orgasam but he has totaly control over them. e takes me to the edge and leaves me there as long as he likes Thank God it is usually not that long. The longest time i have went wiothout one was 4 weeks after my surgery i was not allowed to play at all. Ususlly it is only 1/2 hour to an hour tops. Unless Master wants to do it the other way and make me cum over and over. It is as always his choice.

Matt's littleone

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RE: Orgasm Denial/Control - 7/15/2007 12:22:58 PM

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I can't orgasm on one word out of the blue, but I have cum in public from Master just talking to me and using certain trigger words. He has placed post-hypnotic suggestions in my mind and it makes it quite easy for Him to bring me to the brink with a few words and a tone of voice.

His main entertainment in orgasm denial is bringing me to the brink and holding me over the edge. I am not allowed to cum without permission, so the dangling is excruciating. He says He can't decide which He enjoys more- watching me cum or not cum.

I am afraid that if I were put on orgasm denial for a long period of time, I would switch off that part of me in order to survive and it would become difficult or impossible TO orgasm when the restriction was lifted. I have had friends who have experienced this.

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RE: Orgasm Denial/Control - 7/15/2007 1:06:33 PM

maledave7

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What I find so appealing about it is that my future Mistress might require this of me. That I focus all of my energy and talent on taking care of her needs and desires. I feel that I would draw such strength and power from turning control of my body over to her.

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RE: Orgasm Denial/Control - 7/21/2007 6:57:53 AM

sirsprincess

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My Dom regularly uses orgasm control to discipline me, in fact my normal state is one of constant arousal. The longest I have gone without being able to touch myself has been a week and it was one long week. Before being involved with this Dom, it was not uncommon for me to play with myself several times a day. I am not allowed to wear a thong or even to go without panties as that is too arousing for me, if I'm lax in getting the laundry done and don't have a light colored pair of panties to wear with a light colored pair of pants for example, he'll tell me to put the dirty ones back on (they are usually just wet from my constant arousal). Must always wear panties *sigh*

So when I'm finally granted permission, it's like an amusement park for me, don't know which ride to go on first! But lately, I just can't seem to get the release I need/want. Many times Sir will tell me to cum just to relieve my tension and he's not just giving me permission, it's an order to cum and I can't or when I do, it isn't very good. Like I can't get rid of this control and I feel like i shouldn't be doing this even though I was granted permission.

I am allowed what I call pseudo cums, anyone ever done that? I'm sorry if all of this is posted already, but I was just given permission to seek out other subs to chat with and I can only be online 30 mins at a time searching and so I don't have time to read it all. Anyway, I've been taught to cum without touching sometimes, it's not the same as the regular Os, and actually it makes things harder as after I pseudo cum, then I'm more horny and of course, release may or may not be coming anytime soon. Recently I was allowed to cum, but only by humping the corner of the bed. No hands anywhere on my body, not my nipples and not my cunt for sure.

hope I posted ok, I'm a "virgin" poster and very nervous. have a great day.

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RE: Orgasm Denial/Control - 7/21/2007 10:53:57 AM

jayded34

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One word........from 4thousand miles away.......no matter where i am, with nothing more than his voice.
complete bliss.

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RE: Orgasm Denial/Control - 7/22/2007 1:36:18 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: hejira92

His main entertainment in orgasm denial is bringing me to the brink and holding me over the edge. I am not allowed to cum without permission, so the dangling is excruciating. He says He can't decide which He enjoys more- watching me cum or not cum.

Yeesh, I swear sometimes I think they're the same man.

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RE: Orgasm Denial/Control - 7/22/2007 4:25:12 AM

adoracat

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Sir has me cum with his permission. now, i cant cum without permission. not solo (which he allows since he isnt able to be with me as often as he wishes) not at all.

kitten, who shrugs

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RE: Orgasm Denial/Control - 7/22/2007 7:39:56 AM

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I'm in a steel chastity device, i come out once a day to shave and shower which is of course supervised, i'm milked once every 10 days!

What do i get from it?

the best i can describe it is, you know when your with a great and thoughtful lover who takes you to the brink then away again then to the brink and away again so your body is in that floaty euphoric state.....thats what i get out of it i feel like that all day every day....

Last year i was allowed to orgasm/cum 4 times this year i've been cut down to 2....this might sound harsh to some people but for me, I wouldn't have it any other way!

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RE: Orgasm Denial/Control - 7/22/2007 11:27:33 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: onthenosetone

I'm in a steel chastity device, i come out once a day to shave and shower which is of course supervised, i'm milked once every 10 days!

What do i get from it?

the best i can describe it is, you know when your with a great and thoughtful lover who takes you to the brink then away again then to the brink and away again so your body is in that floaty euphoric state.....thats what i get out of it i feel like that all day every day....

Last year i was allowed to orgasm/cum 4 times this year i've been cut down to 2....this might sound harsh to some people but for me, I wouldn't have it any other way!

your Domme is a Goddess....Where's the bowing emote when you need one? dream gets to orgasm on weekends only...(started with every other day now to just the weekend). I can only hope right now for success like Hers down the road. 4 times this year wow awesome!

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RE: Orgasm Denial/Control - 7/22/2007 11:46:28 PM

charlotte12

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I used to imagine being denied orgasm when playing with myself becuase it made me even more turned on. In practice it still turns me on though it's not as "fun" as i thought it would be. All i can say is it leaves me feeling about as controlled and helpless as i ever have, which is a good thing. It actually took me a little while to feel as submissive when he allowed me to cum as when he denied me. Now just the knowledge that he will give or deny me pleasure as he sees fit gets me all excited.

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