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PairOfDimes -> RE: First steps (7/17/2007 7:07:55 PM)
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Where to go from here like what activities you should do? From your playing around, and perhaps indulging in some videos or erotic novels, you probably ascertained that some things are hotter than others to you, yes? Do more of those kinds of things. Figure out what about those activities makes you excited, and then try to find that in other activities.
You should also explore the young but vibrant world of kinky blogs. Some writers are quite thoughtful and articulate. Bondage Blog and Spanking Blog are good metafilters. Two blogs I like are mistressmatisse.blogspot.com and ondominance.blogspot.com
Meeting people online can work, although I've had more success with people who are moderately active in local BDSM groups, even when I connected with them online rather than at a group meeting.
I don't know whether Wales has any significant BDSM community, nor whether there are groups convenient to you, but you can google around. "BDSM," "BDSM resources," "leather," "bondage," "spanking" plus the names of cities around you might be good. If you can't find anything, look for polyamory groups, swinger groups, or LGBT groups, if you could see yourself being remotely comfortable in any of those categories. Then email, or attend an event, and ask around. While obviously there will be plenty of poly/swinging/queer people who aren't kinky, alternative sexualities do tend to have some overlap.
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