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Meeting a Mistress for the first time.... - 6/23/2005 7:42:02 AM

stevek128

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How can a Mistress see a slaveboy for the first time without any type of ongoing communcation first? He might be a killer or she might be a person who cuts off your balls????

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RE: Meeting a Mistress for the first time.... - 6/23/2005 9:08:01 AM

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How can a Mistress see a slaveboy for the first time without any type of ongoing communcation first? He might be a killer or she might be a person who cuts off your balls????

Get down to Earth... stevek128

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RE: Meeting a Mistress for the first time.... - 6/23/2005 11:41:58 AM

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Your question doesn't make much sense. I don't know anyone who doesn't talk to a sub for a time before meeting them. But even still, you've no guarantees, which is why you meet in public and get to know someone before being private with them. There are lots of sites with first meeting hints, including safe calls.

And you can know someone for years and have no clue who they are inside. Does the phrase.. He seemed like such a quiet/nice man.. sound familiar? We hear it on the news all the time from someone-being-arresteds neighbor of 20 years. Are you going to quit meeting people at all or making friends because one of them may turn out to have evil in their heart of hearts?

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RE: Meeting a Mistress for the first time.... - 6/23/2005 2:02:52 PM

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I am with Beach on this. I am not sure how you are being approached for a meeting or under what circumstances that meeting is supposed to take place. I always take time for email and telephone. In addition, I always meet in a public place, and have other safety measures in force.
I have had boys ask to come to Me with little or no information, and they expect to move right in. As a Dominant I would not allow this. It is foolish. And maybe I have lost some good boys because of that, but I am not going to just allow some unknown quantity into My household and My life. If they have to move that quickly, and can't provide Me with the necessary time and comfort level, then I probably didn't want them anyway. As a submissve, you should not consider this arrangement either. No system is perfect, but W/we should always apply the best common sense possible.

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RE: Meeting a Mistress for the first time.... - 6/24/2005 6:32:01 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BeachMystress

Your question doesn't make much sense. I don't know anyone who doesn't talk to a sub for a time before meeting them. But even still, you've no guarantees, which is why you meet in public and get to know someone before being private with them. There are lots of sites with first meeting hints, including safe calls.

And you can know someone for years and have no clue who they are inside. Does the phrase.. He seemed like such a quiet/nice man.. sound familiar? We hear it on the news all the time from someone-being-arresteds neighbor of 20 years. Are you going to quit meeting people at all or making friends because one of them may turn out to have evil in their heart of hearts?

Your question doesn't make much sense. I don't know anyone who doesn't talk to a sub for a time before meeting them==
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with all due respect? please.
i have had many a domme, i answer 'an' ad, and there is little talking involved. it is mostly come see me for a weekend and i will think on it.
i have begged for emails and i am told i am asking for too much.
go figure.
maybe a couple of phone calls on my cell. but overall very little communication with anyone.
i do not understand.
thank You

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RE: Meeting a Mistress for the first time.... - 6/24/2005 8:24:12 PM

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I have never met anyone without talking with them first. I trust my instincts in all cases, as they have yet to fail me.

As for how much I talk to them, as long as I need plus a little extra if they need more.

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RE: Meeting a Mistress for the first time.... - 6/24/2005 9:33:52 PM

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with all due respect? please.
i have had many a domme, i answer 'an' ad, and there is little talking involved. it is mostly come see me for a weekend and i will think on it.
i have begged for emails and i am told i am asking for too much.
go figure.
maybe a couple of phone calls on my cell. but overall very little communication with anyone.
i do not understand.
thank You

Anyone who bothers to travel to someone who isn't willing to take the time to get to know them a bit via e-mail or a msging program first, deserves what they get. I am active in my local community and am sure I know many more actual Domme (women who do practice BDSM rather than just put up ads or play on line) than you do, and not one of them would meet someone the way you claim these Domme are asking to meet you.

As for why you seem to find all the ones who want no communication before meeting, look inside yourself. I suspect you are finding a type, because of something that draws you about the profile of the woman who is like that.

It's sad to hear you're not finding lasting relationships, but I do see why. Your comment " with all due respect? please." is intended to convey that no respect is intended or deserved. Rather than trying to denigrate me, perhaps you could have said "In my experience." With that type of general attitude, it tends to show when you try with Domme you want to meet. It takes more than just wishing to be a slave.

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RE: Meeting a Mistress for the first time.... - 6/24/2005 10:05:02 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: lonewolf05

Your question doesn't make much sense. I don't know anyone who doesn't talk to a sub for a time before meeting them==
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with all due respect? please.
i have had many a domme, i answer 'an' ad, and there is little talking involved. it is mostly come see me for a weekend and i will think on it.
i have begged for emails and i am told i am asking for too much.
go figure.
maybe a couple of phone calls on my cell. but overall very little communication with anyone.
i do not understand.
thank You

garylee, I am surprised to hear of this because when you contacted Me originally, you were in a very big hurry to relocate. you told Me you needed to move immediately and had nowhere to go. I did eventually (after a couple of weeks of attempted correspondence), advise you that if your situation was that desperate you could consider the option of relocating to My area, but you could not live-in. At that point, W/we did cease communication because you advised that you could not afford to live on your own.
I am sorry you are having so many problems, but perhaps you need to take another look, as BeachMystress, stated, at how you present yourself, and how you approach in the first place.
I certainly had many more questions, and wanted more time. you were the one who didn't seem to have that time.

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RE: Meeting a Mistress for the first time.... - 6/25/2005 5:35:01 AM

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I stand firm with many of My "Sisters" here---We see more and more the prey of greedy women on unsuspecting submissives-- well let Me rephrase that-- greedy Dominants as it is gender neutral- happening with Doms and Dommes-a true Dominant will not simply run off to see you or want you to do the same, if they do they are either new--or the growing number of wannabes---most good Dominants can give you references, or postings or groups that they are part of---safety safety safety, do not let your hmmm burning desire drive you to a flame out!

edited for typo-- pesky nails!

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RE: Meeting a Mistress for the first time.... - 6/26/2005 12:52:53 AM

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garylee, I am surprised to hear of this because when you contacted Me originally, you were in a very big hurry to relocate. you told Me you needed to move immediately and had nowhere to go. I did eventually (after a couple of weeks of attempted correspondence), advise you that if your situation was that desperate you could consider the option of relocating to My area, but you could not live-in. At that point, W/we did cease communication because you advised that you could not afford to live on your own.
I am sorry you are having so many problems, but perhaps you need to take another look, as BeachMystress, stated, at how you present yourself, and how you approach in the first place.
I certainly had many more questions, and wanted more time. you were the one who didn't seem to have that time.
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People actually do this? Just up an relocate at a whim? i just can't imagine it.. even when you've built trust and really want to.

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RE: Meeting a Mistress for the first time.... - 6/26/2005 1:39:40 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika
I have never met anyone without talking with them first. I trust my instincts in all cases, as they have yet to fail me.
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I almost hate to admit it, but same here... If I listen to my body/mind/soul, I generally read people well, so have never felt in danger...
I definitely would not meet someone without first talking to him. M

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RE: Meeting a Mistress for the first time.... - 6/26/2005 9:13:24 AM

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I almost hate to admit it, but same here...

I'm not picking M. I'm just curious as to why you say that you almost hate to admit it?

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RE: Meeting a Mistress for the first time.... - 6/26/2005 1:04:06 PM

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f I listen to my body/mind/soul, I generally read people well, so have never felt in danger...

This sounds similar to Anthrosub's tagline: "Stop thinking, and end your problems."

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RE: Meeting a Mistress for the first time.... - 6/27/2005 1:00:41 PM

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Hello Mistresses

I am loveit69 and I am trying to find a mistress close to the pottsville pa area. I would to serve a hot woman or a hot woman witha big dick. Can anyone help me out there.

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RE: Meeting a Mistress for the first time.... - 6/28/2005 6:53:19 AM

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This is NOT the place for personals. please use your profile as indicated or conduct a search, this area is for discussion, NOT trolling-

edited for typo, damn nails!

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