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littleone35 -> RE: Lack of Replies? (7/19/2007 12:49:44 PM)
I know you probley don't want to hear this but takes time ans paitence to find a good woman or man for that instance. Matt's littleone

sub7boy -> RE: Lack of Replies? (7/19/2007 7:01:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressDaisy73 I think I have seen this complaint about, oh lets see... over a thousand times. I also see complaints "dissing" people who write in their profiles something like "if you msg me, please have more than one sentance" or "if you email me, please be able to constuct a proper sentence", etc. Personally, I WOULD say that in my profile, but I like to stay on friendlier footing. :) (Just call me Mistress Daisy, the friendly Domme) SO, I say none of that in my profile, and I get barely coherant one sentance emails from subs asking if I am interested. I used to reply to almost every email, regardless and just say "no thanks" but, here are my reasons I don't do that anymore: As someone already pointed out, that often gives a person the opportunity to say "why not" or otherwise continue an unwanted exchange. Thanks MistressDaisy73 And as for those who write in their profile "if you contact me be able to contsruct a sentance" I can't say I blame them in the slightest. My peeve is not that people do not respond to poorly written emails: rather that no matter how polite and articulate you are, there are swathes of women who will simply ignore you. Which is just plain rude.

Mystique567 -> RE: Lack of Replies? (7/19/2007 8:24:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sub7boy The replay rate I have had so far from women on BDSM sites is around 20%. And that 20% is by and large from women who - no offense to them - are out of my league. Honestly I'm not looking for a supermodel here, just someone I could be compatible with, and with an intelligence level at least equal to mine. What does it take to find a decent woman these days!? Wow, I think I was just offended for the 20% the women who are not in your league

maledave7 -> RE: Lack of Replies? (7/20/2007 4:09:02 AM)
It takes time to find someone. I have sent out a few emails with no replies. I have learned some things that will grab a woman’s attention. Reading all of the woman’s profile is a good thing. You can learn a lot in what a woman has written in her journal too. I find something in it to write to her about and ask her a question about it. When I act like a gentleman and sent her an email, many times she will sent me a reply.

sub7boy -> RE: Lack of Replies? (7/20/2007 4:20:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Mystique567 quote: ORIGINAL: sub7boy The replay rate I have had so far from women on BDSM sites is around 20%. And that 20% is by and large from women who - no offense to them - are out of my league. Honestly I'm not looking for a supermodel here, just someone I could be compatible with, and with an intelligence level at least equal to mine. What does it take to find a decent woman these days!? Wow, I think I was just offended for the 20% the women who are not in your league Sorry. Sometimes it can't be avoided. [:-]

ripples -> RE: Lack of Replies? (7/20/2007 5:42:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sub7boy Sorry. Sometimes it can't be avoided. [:-] Judging by your posts and your profile, I think there's going to be an awful lot of women out of your league. [8\|]

Mystique567 -> RE: Lack of Replies? (7/24/2007 7:12:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ripples quote: ORIGINAL: sub7boy Sorry. Sometimes it can't be avoided. [:-] Judging by your posts and your profile, I think there's going to be an awful lot of women out of your league. [8\|] Yes being rude and offensive can always be avoided, sometimes it just means you don't get an answer

Feliw -> RE: Lack of Replies? (7/24/2007 9:34:04 PM)
as a personal experience, since the first day i registered in collarme, i sent about 30 emails per week, really long and dedicated ones, some have like two paragraphs, and i just got 10 replies aprox. Its really sad, make me think that all the effort i put on the mail is no use, and is multiplied since my first lenguage is spanish and i am learning english. But well, in the moment i made the email i know that they maybe ignore me cause i live so damn far from everyone.

SexyRed -> RE: Lack of Replies? (7/24/2007 9:49:19 PM)
You know why there are a lack of replies? Because women like me get a ton of emails. 90% of them are unintelligible, or just say: -Hi - ou are hot! -Nice hair -Great smile -Great tits - nice profile - got anymore pics? (I have 4) and usually they have NO photo - tell me about yourself (if my profile was any longer I would have to have perfect bound) and they have NO profile written - how long in lifestyle - what do you want in a Dom - limits? - where in NJ are you at - relocate? - will you switch - Hi Ma'am and so on... the worst thing is even if the reply seems genuine and reads well, and they seem to actually have read the profile, invariably the guy is either married, has a girlfriend, too far away, wrong kinks, not my type or just disappears. therefore, while I like to say thanks to everyone who writes, it does get downright annoying and a waste of time to even offer a courteous reply.

Feliw -> RE: Lack of Replies? (7/24/2007 9:57:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SexyRed You know why there are a lack of replies? Because women like me get a ton of emails. 90% of them are unintelligible, or just say: -Hi - ou are hot! -Nice hair -Great smile -Great tits - nice profile - got anymore pics? (I have 4) and usually they have NO photo - tell me about yourself (if my profile was any longer I would have to have perfect bound) and they have NO profile written - how long in lifestyle - what do you want in a Dom - limits? - where in NJ are you at - relocate? - will you switch - Hi Ma'am and so on... the worst thing is even if the reply seems genuine and reads well, and they seem to actually have read the profile, invariably the guy is either married, has a girlfriend, too far away, wrong kinks, not my type or just disappears. therefore, while I like to say thanks to everyone who writes, it does get downright annoying and a waste of time to even offer a courteous reply. Well, that some usefull info i will consider before mesaging someone.

leatherorlace -> RE: Lack of Replies? (7/24/2007 10:15:51 PM)
HEXZACTLY! I suspect hat this boidawg is seeking another or fresher fantasy for masturbatory fodder. Gentry

dawntreader -> RE: Lack of Replies? (7/25/2007 7:18:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sub7boy I see a lot of complaints from women in the online BDSM world that the men that message them are not genuine, or are simply looking for a quick fling. I sympathise with the problem, and with the complaints, but also see that very few women in the online communities are willing to make much effort to change this. If you do find a message from a genuine guy, it doesn't take long to write back "thanks for your message, but you are not what I'm looking for right now" or "thanks for you message, lets chat" but instead it seems that if you are a male who is genuinely interested in BDSM, you will be ignored by women no matter what. The replay rate I have had so far from women on BDSM sites is around 20%. And that 20% is by and large from women who - no offense to them - are out of my league. Honestly I'm not looking for a supermodel here, just someone I could be compatible with, and with an intelligence level at least equal to mine. What does it take to find a decent woman these days!? This rant is like so many others... but to the OP i would say - if you are looking for a partner/hook-up, post a picture. You are most likely sending messages to submissives that have photos up, so do the same. And before retorting about a fear of posting a picture, i will say you can certainly send one with your first c-mail to a girl. In regards to finding a "decent" girl, based on Webster's definition, i would suggest that what you find decent would be subjective to your opinion ~

MisPandora -> RE: Lack of Replies? (7/25/2007 8:42:14 AM)
I'd be responding to, on average, 10+ emails a day on here if I were to do as you suggest, 99% of which were one liners, foreigners, or folks significantly outside of my stated parameters. Why answer those who shouldn't have written in the first place if I've made it SO UTTERLY CLEAR what I seek. My bottom line is that if you respect me and don't waste my time, pay attention, read, and do what's asked of you, you'll garner a reply whether I like you or not.

feastie -> RE: Lack of Replies? (7/25/2007 8:57:35 AM)
I'd have to ask you about the content of your emails. Aside from that, the fact that you are getting a few replies is pretty good. Not many people get a reply to an email at all, not that one is always deserved.

Stephann -> RE: Lack of Replies? (7/25/2007 5:47:27 PM)
I'll say something shocking.... I usually get replies to my messages. Not always, mind you, but a good 50-75%. I do, because I rarely (read once in a blue moon) write random people. I almost always write people whom I've interacted with or shared an idea with on the message boards here. I also suspect I receive more email from women than the average joe schmuck on here, because I know I post (or in the past posted) regularly. Frankly, people don't change their profiles often. Most people - women especially - worth writing don't spend eight hours a day writing random people. Just because a woman has an ad, doesn't mean she's availible, single, or interested in meeting; add all that up to how much email they get from...well...idiots, and you can see how excited they are to wade through dozens of clone emails. To be dissappointed less, men need to share more, here, in public, and expect nothing more than friendship over there, in private. The results might even surprise you. Stephan

onegoodgirl -> RE: Lack of Replies? (7/25/2007 6:03:53 PM)
I'm surprised so many have responded to this obvious (badly executed) trolling attempt. I wont respond to the OP because.. well.. I've not nothing that hasn't already been said.. but I will share with the ladies something I've always done on here... If I do respond to a message I've received with "Thanks, but no thanks"... (for whatever reason) I immediately block them to prevent any of those pesky "whine-whine-whine-but-whyyy" responses from coming back to me. Edited to fix a typo. Cause I'm anal like that.

feastie -> RE: Lack of Replies? (7/25/2007 10:16:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Stephann To be dissappointed less, men need to share more, here, in public, and expect nothing more than friendship over there, in private. The results might even surprise you. Stephan I'm not sure whether to congratulate you, faint, or drool. Regardless ... "PERFECTLY SAID!"

Stephann -> RE: Lack of Replies? (7/25/2007 10:30:37 PM)
No congratulations are necessary; while I've learned a great deal online, I've never...never... had a BDSM relationship transition from online to offline success. The last woman I dated, wrote me first on collarme, I wrote her back, and never heard from her again... till I literally bumped into her at a play party. I didn't even know who she was, until she asked me if I was on the site. That didn't even turn out well. On the other hand, I do believe that relationships from online to offline can work; they just need to progress from online to offline very quickly; more than two months, and that person becomes a chat buddy with a next to nil chance of becoming something more. Anyway...yeah... thanks though :) Stephan

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