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RE: Masters, do you have a submissive personality "... - 7/28/2007 3:50:16 PM

Padriag

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I would think everyone has a certain personality type they find appealing, just as we all have certain physical characteristics we find appealing. So for me the answer is yes, I do have certain personality types I tend to watch for. More specifically specific traits that attract me and others that are turn offs. Generally you could say I prefer someone who is laid back and easy going. But I do enjoy someone who is also inquisitive, adventerous, and enjoys new experiences. Likewise there are somethings I very much dislike and have tended to be deal breakers. Someone who seems perpetually angry, confrontational, demanding, aggressive, etc. They just don't work for me in building a healthy relationship. Even as a dominant, I'm not an angry person. I may be strict and firm, but I don't seek confrontation nor am I particularly demanding (I may make demands, but I'm pretty reasonable in what I expect).

As for someone who is submissive at their core...yes, I think you could say I look for that. I don't personally believe someone could be part of a lasting relationship as a submissive (slave to me) if they were not submissive by nature.

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RE: Masters, do you have a submissive personality "... - 7/28/2007 9:48:55 PM

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I was just thinking of this today. As I was wondering around the discussion boards I found this thread, strange how things happen, no?

At any rate, no one, outside of my acquaintances here and those directly involved in it, know of my status as a submissive. Those I work with, my family, and friends would be quite surprised were I to reveal this aspect of my personality (which I will do at some point, being quite new to this lifestyle, I am not quite ready). I am opinionated, I do tend to speak my mind and am not afraid to engage in discussion on many topics (respectfully of course). However, that is balanced by my desire to be the hostess, to serve and to make sure that people have what they need. I also want to make sure the man, the Dom is taken care of. I want to cook for him, clean, take care of him, his house, his children, everything. My friends and family wouldn't believe that. So there is an interesting paradox between my outward personality and the fact that inwardly I am submissive...

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RE: Masters, do you have a submissive personality "... - 7/29/2007 7:46:34 AM

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Mia,
I have dealt with varying personality types, and I have found that the specific "type" is not so important to me. Some have struggled with their submission, some have eagerly accepted it. Some have been shy, some have been bold.

The one trait they all had in common is sensuality (whether they knew it or not. lol). Extreme sensitivity to stimulation to the simplest things, be it mental or physical. The wonderful thing about this kind of woman is that they are often an open book when it comes to their feelings. Whether they want to or not. If you were to imagine right now reactions to sensations are plainly evident in their facial expressions, in your voice as you moan, whimper, cry, in the helpless motions of your body as you squirm and writhe under my touch. Can you imagine how that might feel now with me I think it is one of the most exquisite journey two people can take together.

It gives me a terrible advantage, and I use it shamelessly.

My limits are more important to me than theirs. I won't do a cyber relationship. I don't do play parties. Nothing wrong with them, but I want a more personal, intimate, ongoing interaction. I have little use for brats. I love a woman struggling with her need to submit, but she is not fighting me, she is fighting herself.

Namaste, Sir Dominic

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RE: Masters, do you have a submissive personality "... - 7/30/2007 8:37:08 AM

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RE: Masters, do you have a submissive personality "... - 7/30/2007 8:39:06 AM

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I believe in any relationship both people ned to develop, if there is no development there are no dynamics. A dynamic perrsonality to me is about being able to see how your partner is wanting to develop and to help them with their own development. In the course of such a relationship both are giving to the other, no one ever gives more than the other, thats when the dynamics stop. I as a submissive want to help the Domme that i hope eventually "to belong to" to develop her inner strngths and weaknesses. I believe very much in "adoration" but dont think that this is neither a vanilla nor a D/s relationship characteristic. For sure live and let live, with no judgement, to accept another with their faults as i hope they will accept me with mine, but to be able to work on ourselves, and help our partner be who she wants to be, to accpet her as she is, for her to know that the more natural she can be the more dynamic our relatioship will also be.

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RE: Masters, do you have a submissive personality "... - 7/30/2007 8:07:39 PM

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Wonderful post SirDominic, as always.
You have a wonderful way of expressing yourself,
and then those eyes......

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