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Difficulties for female dommes looking for female sub/s... - 7/20/2007 4:18:20 PM

preciousdesign

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I am not new to the site, but I am new to the forum. My question is geared towards both female dominants and female subs/slave. How many of you have found your partners from here, or had been seriously interested in someone from here? Did it work out for you? Why or why not? How difficult is it to find a sub/slave here? How do you rate your experince?

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RE: Difficulties for female dommes looking for female s... - 7/20/2007 4:41:34 PM

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I had briefly thought about just going for females because I was getting sooooo annoyed at the males on this site. The majority of females on this site, are already owned, usually by Masters. so that makes it a weeeee bit difficult. And me trying to look for a Mistress of my own? Argh!! lol

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RE: Difficulties for female dommes looking for female s... - 7/20/2007 5:40:04 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: preciousdesign

I am not new to the site, but I am new to the forum. My question is geared towards both female dominants and female subs/slave. How many of you have found your partners from here, or had been seriously interested in someone from here? Did it work out for you? Why or why not? How difficult is it to find a sub/slave here? How do you rate your experince?

I am a man, but I feel your pain, if you are serious, rather than grab and go, you will be anywhere, even in real life, a long long time unless a serrendipitous happenstance confronts you---------------

to find the one you want, that has a real shot, well, it just ain't like what Disney says------------

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buck up and show your ass, and good luck.

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RE: Difficulties for female dommes looking for female s... - 7/20/2007 7:13:46 PM

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Um, not easy. And I don't even need a slave or a sub, I'm open to playmates/friends and seeing where it goes...but I'd like a femme within a 100 mile radius who turns me on and I click with.

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RE: Difficulties for female dommes looking for female s... - 7/20/2007 7:14:35 PM

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I think I've been lucky here on finding female subs/bottoms that have been interested in me. Most have responded particularly well to the part of my profile in which I'm very active in the fetish scene. I've taken one to several events around the US with me and it's been a good experience. A few I've met for some "happy fun times" and that's been okay too.

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RE: Difficulties for female dommes looking for female s... - 7/20/2007 8:01:27 PM

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I have yet to meet someone of any gender or sex that became a serious relationship....well, actually, not even a casual relationship. But then, I meet plenty of people real time, so this is by far not my only outlet. Plus, I'm pretty picky and I have a real good idea about what I want in a relationship. Both of these things narrow the field a LOT.

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RE: Difficulties for female dommes looking for female s... - 7/20/2007 8:05:00 PM

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I havent had any luck finding a female slave on here. I already have Angel, and I had wanted a second , a sister of sorts for him, but I havent had any interest on here. My situation is a little odd, though, since its not a situation everyone would want to be in.

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RE: Difficulties for female dommes looking for female s... - 7/20/2007 8:24:00 PM

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I have been here for a number of years now and I have never met
or dated a Domina from this site, although I think I have coressponded with quite a few, I say that because I don't know for sure if some really were women.

There are not a lot of lesbian Dominas here and the ones that are, already have lesbian subs or are involved in a lesbian poly family. Some other lesbian Dominas like to have a lesbian alpha lover but have men for slaves and that is really not the situation I am looking for.
I have thought about a lesbian "family" (poly) situation and under the right circumstances I might be open to that, but that hasn't come up for me here.

I was in a 2 year(didn't meet her here), travel back and forth relationship and although our love was strong and the dynamic worked very well, it just got to difficult with all the traveling and having to continually leave each other. My ex-Domina also had family/work related issues that interfered quite often, so I am not thrilled with engaging in another LDR, so that really shrinks the pool of possibilities for me here.

I come here mostly to interact on the boards and have pretty much given up finding someone here. Then again I know magic can happen, so I haven't totally thrown in the towel yet here at CM, I still look and respond to women who write me. I do tend to look more seriously in my area now then on-line.

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RE: Difficulties for female dommes looking for female s... - 7/21/2007 1:51:12 AM

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I've been looking for a female submissive and I'm thinking it depends on where you are. I'm in Utah, and you'd think that since many women in this area are raised to be submissive I wouldn't have a problem... but they are also raised to be vanilla to the extreme. It makes for a nice underground once people break free from their upbringing, but the underground is so hidden that it's hard to find. People don't want to risk putting their picture up I suppose. *Sigh*

Difficult, next to impossible. But I've found a few friends who have hooked me up with peices of the local community so this site has actually helped a good deal in it's own respect.

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RE: Difficulties for female dommes looking for female s... - 7/21/2007 2:23:09 AM

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We've had no difficulties getting female subs. Because we are a married couple, we are seen as "safe" and as a straight couple we are quite often approached by lesbian submissives who want to play without the complications. While some of these subs know us through the local community, the approach often comes through CollarMe. And others are just through CollarMe.

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RE: Difficulties for female dommes looking for female s... - 7/21/2007 6:08:48 AM

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I've met a few people from this site, and a fair number of people that I've first met online over the years. Regardless, every serious relationship I've had has been with people I've met real time, either at functions like munches, lectures, or referred to me by friends who are also in the scene and had met the person. I have quite a few either approached me at an event because they'd seen my profiles online, or we'd met briefly r/t, then they follow up online.

Tells you something, doesn't it?

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RE: Difficulties for female dommes looking for female s... - 7/21/2007 6:28:57 AM

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When I first came to this site I was already half involved with someone so didn't really have any expectations aside from, wow, there really are other people like me/us out there. It was kind of an educational experience.

She is gone now and I am just beginning to think about the possibility of letting someone new into my world. I am not really looking persay. I am rather content with my life and the lack of drama. I guess I am moreso just open to the possibility, if the right woman should come along that fits into my life. I certainly have no expectations of her popping up on here. Sure, it could happen, but I liken that to winning the lottery. It is not probable. When things calm down and I have more recreation time I may seek out some venues within a reasonable travel distance, increase the possibilities etc.

As far as having online expectations. Sure we have our CM sucess stories, but we have far more pissing moaning and whining about online players.... I kinda believe in the odds myself.

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RE: Difficulties for female dommes looking for female s... - 7/21/2007 8:33:38 AM

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Real female slaves who are interested in hooking up for a real connection with a lifestyle fem domme on cm? If you see any, and they live near LA, please send em on to me, as it has been needle in a haystack conditions. *smirk.

I have made several domme friends from cm.

Lack of drama, yep, the only way to go.

Lady heart also made a good point about women seeing a married couple as 'safe.' I am 'safe', but *they don't know it by looking at my profile and I miss interacting with bi and gay women. Where I live it is a small, clicky community with quite a few hot women all coupled up. If you aren't a 'couple' you aren't invited into their social circle.
We used to have a Lesbian bar in town and I always looked forward to going in there to have fun dancing and being in a room full of gay/bi women.

My experience with women has been rt meets through other friends, and by going/joining local groups that get together for all kinds of social events.

I wish I could meet some more great women from this site for friends/play and D/s. 24/7 would be a great goal, but I am quietly looking. LDRs are really not workable. Life is too short, too fleeting to waste.

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