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how can i present myself to attract men? - 7/20/2007 9:48:11 PM

dosomethingtome

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Hi all,
I am a female-to-male transsexual (transgendered) person. I was born a female but take testosterone and live as and look like a male now. I still have my female genitals however and love sex with men. I know, I know, confusing..... nevertheless, what is, is. And it is that way for me. I am looking to serve a Dom. It's so hard to find someone because whenever you identify as trans, everyone assumes you are a born-male who is living as a female (male-to-female). I am the opposite. So with my pants down, you see a female. What can I do to make myself more appealing as so many are freaked out by this. I know there are those out there that are not freaked out and would love a chance with me. Ideas? Thanks!

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RE: how can i present myself to attract men? - 7/20/2007 11:48:39 PM

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If I were you i'd use something early on to catch their attention...'Backwards Trans' 'Trans with a difference'....

Something, ANYTHING to keep them reading I guess......!

Good luck

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RE: how can i present myself to attract men? - 7/21/2007 10:26:11 PM

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maybe You should not use the word transsexual? just explain exactly what You are, in detail... so that no one will have to question You on this or feel misled. i am sure there are Doms on here that are willing to accept this, if You have no luck... i am sure they have other sites that will be of better use to You in Your search.

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RE: how can i present myself to attract men? - 7/22/2007 8:20:03 PM

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RE: how can i present myself to attract men? - 7/22/2007 8:23:14 PM

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Honesty. Presenting what you just said, gets you far. Thing is, it might be harder to find men who are physically attracted to a male, regardless of what plumbing you still have down there.
Id suggest looking mainly for bi men, since they are more likely to be attracted to the looks and enjoy the sex as well.

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RE: how can i present myself to attract men? - 7/22/2007 8:48:49 PM

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Hi there,

I'd say focus first on the relationship and second on the physicality. You're going to have a rather uphill battle, no question, as men tend to be pretty set in how they like their men and women. Something I've seen a pattern with in transgendered individuals, is many often focus on their sexuality far more than other people would. Dress how you feel you should, act how you feel you should, and identify as how you feel you should (online "Female to Male transsexual" is sufficiant) just to get it out of the way. Then focus not on who you are gender wise, but who you are, person wise; music you like, books you read, film you enjoy, places you love, people you admire, ideas you have. These are the things that will attract men.

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RE: how can i present myself to attract men? - 7/22/2007 8:59:10 PM

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Here's an idea. Just be yourself. There is somebody for everybody.

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RE: how can i present myself to attract men? - 7/23/2007 6:01:03 AM

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Hi all,
I am a female-to-male transsexual (transgendered) person. I was born a female but take testosterone and live as and look like a male now. I still have my female genitals however and love sex with men. I know, I know, confusing..... nevertheless, what is, is. And it is that way for me. I am looking to serve a Dom. It's so hard to find someone because whenever you identify as trans, everyone assumes you are a born-male who is living as a female (male-to-female). I am the opposite. So with my pants down, you see a female. What can I do to make myself more appealing as so many are freaked out by this. I know there are those out there that are not freaked out and would love a chance with me. Ideas? Thanks!

There are plenty of male dominants that will engage in SM play with FtM bottoms, although I can't say that I see very many of them on this site. You may wish to create a profile on Worldleathermen.com or get involved with a local leathermen's group that is accepting of transfolk.

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RE: how can i present myself to attract men? - 7/23/2007 6:07:28 AM

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I presume you are in the pre op stage since you are already on testosterone?

I have known several post op trans in real life who after it was all over found love.
Even married to live happily ever after.

None of them had a lot of luck prior to the operation. Although all did have fun playing
around with various people.

That isn't to say you won't find someone either. I only know a dozen or so trans. There are
plenty others out there I've never met to be able to share success stories about them.

Just be yourself and be honest. That usually works.

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