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Torture? - 7/21/2007 4:23:57 AM   
Aneirin


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Status: offline 		What is the longest anyone has gone without BDSM play or indeed sex itself,be that with a partner or self pleasure.If what they think is too long a time,how do they feel about it?

If someone has abstained for what they believe a long period of time,may I ask was there a reason,medical or otherwise for this?
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RE: Torture? - 7/21/2007 6:10:39 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Since I started, sexual activity with another was probably six months and masturbation was probably 2 weeks.  The former due to them being sick and/or being long distance from eachother and not allowed to be with anyone else and the latter due to trying to be "good" and wait for them before finally just begging to get myself off to get a decent night's sleep.

My preference is daily masturbation with sexual activity with another 5-7 days a week.

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RE: Torture? - 7/21/2007 6:28:04 AM   
Kidsphoenixx


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Status: offline 		Before Master, there were many times when I had no sex for very long periods....as long as 12 months sometimes......what sex there was, was endured.
With Master, I do enjoy the sex, however, if I never had sex again it wouldn't bother me one iota. Master knows how I am regarding sex....that in fact I have never "wanted" it ( I have no concept of feeling "horny", it just never happens)...however, Master knows he owns my body( and I know it too), and when he claims it, I do enjoy it( multiple O's, and I have even passed out from the intensity.)......once it's over it's over....untl the next time Master touches me. lol
It'a actually kinda weird, because there seems to be a definite "gap" between my body's responses( which are instantaneous, the moment Master touches me), and my mental state.....
Given my 'druthers, I'd abstain for the rest of my life LOL


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RE: Torture? - 7/21/2007 6:42:41 AM   
BoundDragon


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Status: offline 		Hmm the longest session for having sex & play for me is 13 Hours & 37 orgasms (although multiples were tricky to count... how do you know where one stopped and another began??)
I remember we both fell asleep straight away afterwards and slept for a good 11-12 hours... although truth be told... I think I could have gone longer.

Going without sex... not so good was probably a good years worth with one of my ex's he just turned me off completely... in fact its why we finished. The thought of having any intimacy with him made me feel ill

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RE: Torture? - 7/21/2007 9:54:12 AM   
feelingrisky


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Status: offline 		13 yrs of celibacy, not even self play.  BDSM only in the most accidental way, self inflicted but not deliberatly done, which was nevertheless comforting.
The first year was the most difficult.  After that time passed uneventfully.. except for..
My son who was born 4 months into my celibate period and became the focus for my dedication for many years.  I opted not to put anything or anyone before his needs. 
Yeah.. he grew up without a dad in his life but he is far more emotionally healthy at 21, than my older offspring who still hate it when their father contacts them.

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RE: Torture? - 7/21/2007 2:59:59 PM   
ELUSIVE1


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I was trying to be 'chaste' for an entire year after I split with my first ever Master...self imposed, thought I would think more clearly without it..yeah,that lasted 8 months...got 3/4 of the way there...


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RE: Torture? - 7/21/2007 3:10:14 PM   
all4yourplsr


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Status: offline 		I'm sort of like Kidsphoenixx.  Sex is great and all but it really isn't that important to me.  I don't even know when the last time I had it was!!   As for masturbation, the last time I went without was for about a month or so while I was chatting with a Mistress here as I felt it was disrespectful to do it unless she wanted me to.  When that relationship didn't work out, I masturbated almost immediately.   LOL

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RE: Torture? - 7/21/2007 3:12:01 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aneirin

What is the longest anyone has gone without BDSM play or indeed sex itself,be that with a partner or self pleasure.If what they think is too long a time,how do they feel about it?

Without sex? A few months I guess. Without BDSM... a month or so.
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If someone has abstained for what they believe a long period of time,may I ask was there a reason,medical or otherwise for this?

I can't get myself off and either couldn't find a partner I approved of or time conflicts.

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RE: Torture? - 7/21/2007 8:30:29 PM   
trustingsub


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Status: offline 		i had been married to a 'vanilla' man for four years. i would not cheat on him because of the commitment we had... we had not been together sexually in eight months. i did so by choice, i seen no reason in doing something i did not enjoy at all! he was not that happy about it!
 
i would please myself as needed, i looked at it as i could do a better job of taking care of my needs than he could!

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RE: Torture? - 7/21/2007 8:37:15 PM   
Jacobthm


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Status: offline 		Longest I've gone without sex (with another person) is 2 1/2 years.
After a while you sorta get used to it.
I definitelly don't ever intend to "get used to it" again.

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RE: Torture? - 7/21/2007 8:52:55 PM   
missjan


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Status: offline 		longest for me was 2 years after my divorce to a vanilla Man.


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RE: Torture? - 7/21/2007 8:59:25 PM   
fadedlace


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Status: offline 		3 years, 5 months, 6 days...

It blows whale chunks.

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RE: Torture? - 7/21/2007 9:05:24 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		Without sex, 7 months while i was married yet separated. Without BDSM, several years while i was involved with Vanillas.

Angels longest without masturbation was 5 weeks on my command. He has never had sex.
Kittens was a little over 4 months withough masturbation, and 2 years without sex.

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RE: Torture? - 7/21/2007 9:07:48 PM   
raeanha


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Status: offline 		went 2+ years three separate times during the 18 years I was with my now ex.  His breathing in the same room with me, his snorning.. and more... were constant reminders of being rejected. It's not anything I ever got used to.

It's been about a year and half now since I got stubborn about wating an emotional connection.
Normally, self pleasure is a two or 3+ times a day thing (depending on time constraints). I don't believe I'm capabe of acheiving climax without at least fantasizing about loss of control, so that, in that sense, I don't think i've ever gone without the lifestyle.

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RE: Torture? - 7/21/2007 9:16:18 PM   
domiguy


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Status: offline 		5 years...But I banged the sitter the day after my fifth bday...Since then jerking off and a sexual partner have been a constant.

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RE: Torture? - 7/21/2007 9:24:55 PM   
subnaturale


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Status: offline 		the longest for me with NO sex (with another or masturbation) was over 2 yrs...

and i do not intend to get used to no sex ever again either....


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RE: Torture? - 7/21/2007 9:27:59 PM   
LongTerm24C


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Status: offline 		7 years, but then I found out the Catholics were fools.

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RE: Torture? - 7/21/2007 10:01:43 PM   
switchsecrets


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Status: offline 		it's been a little over a year now since i've been with anyone. been searching for that right one, but that hasn't worked out yet. in the past, i'd meet someone and have fun together and next thing you know we're in a relationship and in about a year i'd start getting pressured for marriage. then, i started to examine the relationship deeper and decided against the marriage, so then rather than string someone along, i split up. i hate to dissappoint someone and hurt their feelings and it makes me feel like crap too. this has all been relatively vanilla relationships. so, now i give too much forward thought into dating and therefore, haven't.  after discovering bdsm online, i'm interested in finding someone in the lifestyle that i have chemistry with and people in the vanilla world don't interest me anymore, unless i was to see certain traits. ideally, you find the right match and you build a longterm/lifetime commitment, but a no-strings attached friendship is a possibility too. as far as masturbation goes, usually every day. orgasm denial would kill me!

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RE: Torture? - 7/22/2007 3:05:41 AM   
adoracat


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Status: offline 		i'm still sharing a bed with my husband.  aug 29 is one year since we were intimate.  i dont think he even realizes its been that long.  (we're poly, he has a g/f)

Sir and the vanilla relationship he allows me to have take up the slack...when they can visit.  that is a couple of times a month.

the longest i went without BDSM after i first experienced it?  2 years.  that Sir became worse disabled, and i wouldnt ask it of him again.  10 months between when the second Sir got sick and i met DaddySir in febuary of this year.

kitten....who some days hates her life, and other days adores it.

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RE: Torture? - 7/22/2007 5:33:41 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aneirin

What is the longest anyone has gone without BDSM play or indeed sex itself,be that with a partner or self pleasure.If what they think is too long a time,how do they feel about it?

If someone has abstained for what they believe a long period of time,may I ask was there a reason,medical or otherwise for this?


The longest period of time I didn't have any BDSM was 47 years.  The longest period of abstinence for me was 18 years and 10 months.

Edited to say, "wait, you said sex without pleasuring yourself.  I was jerking off in the womb.  I was afraid of leaks, so wanted to keep the fluid gradient up, just in case."

< Message edited by ready4srvce4all -- 7/22/2007 5:55:47 AM >

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