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RE: Courtesy from Master to slave? - 6/26/2005 6:14:25 PM

SwPuno

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I'm very new and still learning the classifications and customs so many of you may decide, perhaps rightly, I don't have anything valid to say about this yet, however...hey, where'd everybody go?...well, for those still here, since you did ask for opinions from my newbie perspective I agree with those above that good manners are still appropriate and even welcome and it definitely does not lessen my respect for the dominant party.

I feel that I am a human being first and a submissive after that so I appreciate being acknowledged as one, perhaps I'll learn differently over time. And while I agree with LadyAngelika above that this can and should be context sensitive, in a simple, pleasant situation it usually angers me when I am treated like I don't deserve some basic respect if I've done nothing wrong. I'm still sorting out whether this is an issue I need to deal with or my switch side (over)asserting itself or what but at this point that is my reaction to being briskly ordered around or not at least occasionally acknowledged for things I do in a desire to serve, obey, and please.

If you truly feel I'm off base here let me know and I will accept your comments accordingly, learn from them, and let my trainer know.

As for tasking someone who does not belong to you, I'm assuming that there is/was some history to this relationship that we were not informed of. I think the sub in question may have come from a background where such respect or courtesy was not given and expects the same or worse treatment from a dominant.

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RE: Corutesy from Master to slave? - 6/27/2005 8:44:50 AM

Hissweetshiv

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I don't see courtesy and manners as a weakness. On the contrary, i have seen more than enough of the "do it now bitch because I said so" types and far prefer a polite request. My Master can give me orders - anyOne else can ask nicely and hope for the best lol. He Himself is polite and frequently requests rather than ordering, and i respect Him more because He doesn't feel the need to thump His chest at every opportunity.
That being said, there is nothing wrong with making a request of someone you don't know, within reason. There is no breach of etiquette in "would you speak to me privately please" anymore than there is in a polite refusal. There would be a breach, however, if the request was to, for example, see her naked on webcam. Those individuals always earn an ignore from me and that's the end of it, no matter how polite the request.

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