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RE: trouble having an orgasm - 7/28/2007 12:30:32 PM

TemptingNviceSub

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Ach! I have never understood why the arrival was of such utter importance, when the journey can be sooo delicious...enjoy the loonngg journey,that is the stuff of fantasy!...Tempting

While I agree with you that the journey is soooo delicious, I also believe that after taking a long lovely journey, I should arrive at some spectacular destination.

While the destination would be spectacular..if you dont arrive that day, does that then mean the journey was unenjoyable?...Tempting

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RE: trouble having an orgasm - 7/28/2007 10:36:16 PM

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you pretty much have gotten all the answers you need to your question but, if you'll indulge me, i would like to reiterate some points and add a little bit. Stress, overthinking things, trying too hard to cum, overusing toys, and any number of other things could be contributing to this problem (if it is in fact a problem and not a one or two time occurence). Here are some solutions. RELAX. Try not to focus on the orgasm and instead enjoy the ride, don't expect an certain "type" of orgasm or get disappointed if you don't have one. Beating yourself up about failure to orgasm and stressing out will increase your chances of not having one. Try taking a nice bath or shower with your Dom beforehand. Play music. Get yourself relaxed and centered before you start anything sexual (i know this one is hard when you're horny). BE PRESENT. Life can be very hectic and one's mind can wander even during very pleasurable experiences. you don't want to be thinking about your "to-do" list or analyzing the relationship while trying to get off. When you find your mind wandering during ______ (fill in the blank with whatever it is you do to get off) focus on being present and experiencing the sensation. MASTERBATE. But do so with your hands, not with toys. Sensation created by hands can be replicated by a man, sensation created by a vibrator cannot. Try to cum as often as your Dom allows when not in His presence as i think you're having performance anxiety in front of Him. In summary: don't panic about this small problem, enjoy the journey, relax. Good luck.

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RE: trouble having an orgasm - 7/29/2007 12:16:52 AM

twistedkytten

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Adderall does make O more difficult to achieve, however, it seems at least for me, that the release is a great deal stronger. Keep in mind many medications even asprin as a blood thinner affect sexual activities.

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RE: trouble having an orgasm - 8/4/2007 5:04:54 AM

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I so appreciate all your comments. I am sorry that I have not responded before now, but I'm not allowed on these sites until the weekend and then only with specific limitations. I think I have worked out my kink. It seems as though the vibrator may have been the problem as some of you mentioned. I do want to clarify that my Dom and I have only met as friends, we work together online and on the phone. That will hopefully change soon. But he gave me permission to cum last week, but only in the shower. So I got comfy on the floor of the shower and tried my best as I was so horny and desperate for a release. Of course, I didn't use my vibey and had an incredible orgasm. So the last few times I was given permission, I used my hands instead and it's been a fantastic release, yah! Dom is out of town for 4 days and gave me permsision to touch myself twice and cum, said to use the permission wisely. So funny, he knows that I would have ran upstairs and got off twice without that little comment. I have one more left and then he is back in town tomorrow night. I can get off with hubby as much as he desires (yes, hubby knows of Dom, is cool with it, believe it or not!) but it doesn't satisfy my need to cum for my Dom. Even when I'm horny because I haven't received permission from Dom for a while and hubby has me cum, it's great but almost immediately, I am horny again, still haven't gotten that release from my Dom. He told me it would be like that so I don't know if it really is, or if it is because he told me it would be, power of suggestion! Anyway, thanks again for all your advice.

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