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RE: Being released - 7/3/2005 11:27:12 AM

zaynab

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for me... if my Master dumped me..... there would be nothing more comforting than the strong arms of a new Master holding me..... so i would seek that asap ~ zay

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RE: Being released - 7/3/2005 4:04:02 PM

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That sounds like you're asking to get hurt. If you're seeking out someone new just to help you get over the bad feelings of being dumped, you're starting off the new relationship on the wrong foot.

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for me... if my Master dumped me..... there would be nothing more comforting than the strong arms of a new Master holding me..... so i would seek that asap ~ zay

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RE: Being released - 7/3/2005 11:45:21 PM

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Pay attention to this advice from ravenna:

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DO NOTHING! Don't make any big decisions or major life changes, your decision-making ability is probably much more impaired than you can realize (mine sure as hell was). Be gentle with yourself, treat yourself as if you're just recovering from a major illness or a terrible accident or a death in your immediate family -- because you are! Losing your connection to your master is just as traumatic as losing a loved one; you really have lost a loved one. And don't blame yourself and conclude you're worthless, that you're not worth another master ever owning you again; i'm not saying you've succumbed to this, but it's so easy to do, darling. Please remember you're unique and valuable and someone soon will recognize you for what you are. And i am totally in favor of being with friends and "protectors," but definitely not strangers. i think the best protector is probably just an old friend who loves you no matter what, and he or she might do as little as just buy you drinks once a week and let you cry on his/her shoulder.

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RE: Being released - 7/4/2005 12:33:53 AM

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Well when I was relased I was upset and it was worse as I could tell noone the real story of the relationship so I did what most people do of my age when breaking up. I went out with a very good friend, got fairly drunk, had our deep and meaningful to the best off my abilty then did it again the next night. After that I was alot better. I still miss her but life goes on.

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RE: Being released - 7/5/2005 11:00:45 AM

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That sounds like you're asking to get hurt. If you're seeking out someone new just to help you get over the bad feelings of being dumped, you're starting off the new relationship on the wrong foot.

i agree, Sir.... but i find it too painful to be alone..... one of my shortcomings.... ~ z

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RE: Being released - 7/5/2005 4:33:10 PM

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Good afternoon flirt:
i do hope this finds you feeling much better and hoping that your taking time to heal and sort things out inside of you and your heart!
yes, this hurts my sweet one and just let it work its way through you.. learn and try to remember the good things you shared,
i have ALSO recently ( 4 1/2 months ) ago walked away from my first and only Master since being involved in this in 11 months and i was totally devistated and nearly wanted to die in side, it hurt so badly, i left him due to a very extremely jealous alpha sub and one who was so very threatened at what i had with Master.......i was gamed and provoked and i said, hey, to hell with this mess, i don't need these games and i won't compete for anyone.......it is not worth it, obviously it was a POLY thing.!
i am so grateful to be out of it now as that whole situation has gotten 10 times worse and the alpha has taken off her colar due to Him not wanting her touch anymore... her obsessions and desperations have been seen by the Master after my bitching to him about her..!
He finally see's the real truth, but in the mean time, i was the ONE Hurt mostly...
but i learned as you will to....for whatever reasons you were given, whether true or not................you will work it out.
do remain to keep in touch with close freinds and people you can talk to closely to let those feelings out! try not to dwell on the negative,it will get easier, believe me!
you might try to find yourself a sub sister for support, as i did and it helped me tremendously! i found myself reading many books on the subject of BDSM in my spare time to help me learn and grow and it gave me more perspective on what is truly important here!
i am beginning to attand social munches and opening up myself to other people and that helps too. Support is "needed" foryou now!

my sub sisters love and support has been a life saver and has helped me to think about a lot of things.......to sort it all out and to learn from the good and bad that took place!
but DO remember the good times and what you did learn with him, pat yourself on the back sweetie for having the chance to be with him for as long as you were!
allow yourself time to heal and do not rush into finding anyone else.
take the time for YOU....go out and do some fun things that YOU like, as right now, its all about YOU sweet one!
Don't let anyone bring you down, don't let anyone tell you otherwise, only YOU know the real truth as to what happened and why!
Pray to god for his guidance to help you and it will work!
i will also pray for you..........as i feel your hurt very deeply!
YOU will get better and YOU will become even stronger !!
YOU will be wiser and keener becuase of this..........!
YOU are a beatifful sub and please know that we care!!

if you need to talk further, don't hestitate to contact me via email!

kindly feeling your hurt,
may god bless you.
bunny.....

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