RE: Cheating...A Dominants Privilege?

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SimplyMichael -> RE: Cheating...A Dominants Privilege? (7/23/2007 2:08:26 PM)
Rose, Since you are in Sacramento, that puts www.pleasurebound.org and www.sindulgences.com on your doorstep plus a host of smaller groups. San Francisco is less than two hours away and opens up a door to kink few here can explore. Cat at sindulgences works hard to welcome newbies and probably provides the most handholding. www.soj.org is a big local calendar that lists bdsm events covering almost every night of the week. Say hi if you ever show up.

umisprite -> RE: Cheating...A Dominants Privilege? (7/23/2007 2:09:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rose4Mistress Thats what I am thinking. And yes, there had been a discussion of monogamy. She had told me that she wanted to be my only dominant, with the exception of my boyfriend, and that I would be her only submissive, except for her husband. I wouldn't assume monogamy unless it had been discussed, and it had. But oh well! Live and learn! But doesn't monogamy mean ONE partner? Not one partner as well as your boyfriend and her husband. If that was the case you have already journeyed toward poly territory.

LATEXBABY64 -> RE: Cheating...A Dominants Privilege? (7/23/2007 2:17:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissOchistic quote: ORIGINAL: LATEXBABY64 when someone cheats. they are just all about them.. they never respect you or anyone else.. they lack empathy and understanding of what a true sub is only people that wish to be objects should be with this kind of persona. learn about the cheating heart and avoid if all possible. past will always tell the future.. most tigers or tigress never will change there strypes What a great load of bull. no bulls have a understanding of their roles in life better then most humans do lol

NewAgeToxicity -> RE: Cheating...A Dominants Privilege? (7/23/2007 6:07:46 PM)
I personally would be hurt beyond all else, if Master decided to choose another. He is not at all poly, nor am I.. But it is in my opinion if a Dominant chose a second sub/slave than the alpha should first be spoken to, and his/her feelings be taken into consideration before sneaking about and choosing someone else.

LATEXBABY64 -> RE: Cheating...A Dominants Privilege? (7/23/2007 7:27:49 PM)
if you enter into a relationship with understanding that this is what it was suppose to be and it changes down the line do to one person getting bored or something. get out in todays Ds no one seems to get the bonding process. It is like the light went off up stairs. and we are a sexual lust feast of some sorts go forth and screw everyone or something... freaking tourist

shyinini -> RE: Cheating...A Dominants Privilege? (7/24/2007 8:24:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissOchistic quote: ORIGINAL: LATEXBABY64 when someone cheats. they are just all about them.. they never respect you or anyone else.. they lack empathy and understanding of what a true sub is only people that wish to be objects should be with this kind of persona. learn about the cheating heart and avoid if all possible. past will always tell the future.. most tigers or tigress never will change there strypes What a great load of bull. From my OWN experience, I know this to be true. If I could elaborate I would, but ripping others apart who cant defend themselves is wrong, in my book. I do believe cheating is all about one's self. There is lack of integrity all the way around. Why is this a line of bull MissOchistic ? Sir's girl who has been burned on the egotiscal, self-centered and arrogant insensitive desires of a man

BeachMystress -> RE: Cheating...A Dominants Privilege? (7/24/2007 9:05:45 AM)
Cheating is no one's privilege. (Of course, fully disclosed and agreed upon cuckolding or poly is different than cheating.) Going behind someone's back shows a lack of integrity that you don't want to see in anyone who is to be in a position of trust.

imthatacheyouhav -> RE: Cheating...A Dominants Privilege? (7/24/2007 11:31:25 AM)
No...i don't believe that ANY title gives someone the right to cheat, hide or lie.

lateralist1 -> RE: Cheating...A Dominants Privilege? (7/24/2007 12:16:01 PM)
If there was an agreed relationship one sub one Domme then by looking for others she was cheating. She was probably hedging her bets in case you didn't come through. So many subs and possibly Dommes don't honour their agreements. I have turned down loads of subs waiting for the one or two that have really taken my fancy to come and meet me. One even made a hotel reservation and still didn't turn up. Until you have actually met, sometimes more than once, you don't know whether how you think and feel is real. I spoke to someone recently who told me about his last Mistress. I asked how long they were together and he said a week. She dismissed him because he wouldn't help her move. If you find somone who means what they say and says what they mean and acts on it then you are very lucky. However it takes time to get to know someone in all their complexities. That's why I encourage potential subs to read my posts. Maybe some of us just want to do this a little too much. We let common sense fly out the window. My motto is don't commit until I'm sure and don't expect the other person to either. And until that point we are both free to continue to investigate other possibilities. I am plyamorous and I tell any potential sub/slave that there is a possibility that I may have another D/S relationship but that I will be very careful of their feelings.I can't know what will happen in the future.

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