kossack -> RE: Lockerroom Talk (7/27/2007 7:00:21 PM)
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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael kossack, Discovering someone is an asshole over coffee IS the point and would prevent most if not all the issues you raised in your OP. Going slower and taking time before you enmesh someone into your life is another good lesson. The problem is, men can make a woman's life hell if she agrees only to coffee one time. Even coffee in a public place if he has her first name and knows where she works, or has her cell, or she has a magazine with her address on it (I rip out the addresses of whatever I'm reading) or he sees her workplace ID. Hell, I had a guy (vanilla) call me over and over and over because he saw my phone number on the bag I was using for my skates at the time. I'll tell a guy the sort-of vicinity I live in "downtown" but not the subway line I live on or restaurants in my neighborhood or what my local bookstore is, etc. This constant armoring for the most casual encounters wears me down. It is true that I need to go slower and enmesh less quickly (which I'm really good at with men I'm not as attracted to!), but everything I'm talking about was with men I only saw once or didn't see at all, and it can do a surprising amount of damage.
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