AquaticSub
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ORIGINAL: kossack The problem is, men can make a woman's life hell if she agrees only to coffee one time. Even coffee in a public place if he has her first name and knows where she works, or has her cell, or she has a magazine with her address on it (I rip out the addresses of whatever I'm reading) or he sees her workplace ID. Hell, I had a guy (vanilla) call me over and over and over because he saw my phone number on the bag I was using for my skates at the time. I'll tell a guy the sort-of vicinity I live in "downtown" but not the subway line I live on or restaurants in my neighborhood or what my local bookstore is, etc. This constant armoring for the most casual encounters wears me down. It is true that I need to go slower and enmesh less quickly (which I'm really good at with men I'm not as attracted to!), but everything I'm talking about was with men I only saw once or didn't see at all, and it can do a surprising amount of damage. While you are right, continuing to see those assholes doesn't make it better. The more you see them the more they find out about you and the more damage they can do and will do if they are that type of asshole.
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Without my dominance you cannot submit. Without your submission I cannot dominate. You are my equal in this, though our roles are different.-Val It was ok for him to beat me but then he tried to cuddle me! - Me Member:Clan of the Scarlet O'Hair
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