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RE: Do you service others for your Masters enjoyment - 7/23/2007 10:10:15 AM

daddyscherry

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ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel

This is a subject that has been on my mind for a while now.

I realize everyone's relationships are different...... some are married to each other, some aren't, some live together, some don't, etc etc...

So for those who are a regular part of each others lives, are the owners discreet about who they share their girls with? Or does is matter? Do you limit it to others in the lifestyle? Or does it matter?

I know everyone is different, but I'm just wondering if a dominant allows his buddies to use his girl, how does this affect non-sexual interactions with the guys and their significant others in other social situations?

I mean..... would you allow your girl to service a friend or friends that you socialize with regularly? I'm wondering how awkward it would be to have her give your buddy a blowjob, then the next day, the two of you show up at the company picnic and the buddy is there with his wife/girlfriend who knows nothing of what went on?

Can she be the slut he shows off to his locker room buddies one moment, and the lady he shows off in public to those same locker room buddies and everyone else, the next moment?

I hope what I'm asking is making sense.

This is a great question, one i had while i was getting involved early on with my Daddy....i had heard stories ofo sharing so i expected that i would service his buddies whenever he wanted me to.

my Daddy said that he wouldn't want to share me with people that we would see regularly as that could cause issues and i was kind of grateful at that....especially after getting to know them and their SOs....

i 've often wondered if that issue came up how i'd deal with it, even though i know my Daddy wouldn't put me in that kind of spot...i just know that i couldn't do something, like a bj to a guy that i know has a wife or gf....even more if i know her and am friendly with her...it would be horrific to me.

So atleast here, my Daddy would be discreet and not have issues like what you mentioned arise. This isn't to say that others wouldn't do things the opposite though.

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RE: Do you service others for your Masters enjoyment - 7/23/2007 10:14:27 AM

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LOL owned! See how your Master feels about you entertaining some higher up from Disney World. Now that's a place that could use a good discount...... and it could give a whole new meaning to the "happiest place on earth".

LOL I think you're onto something!!!

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RE: Do you service others for your Masters enjoyment - 7/23/2007 10:17:33 AM

GhitaAmati

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ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel

This is a subject that has been on my mind for a while now.

I realize everyone's relationships are different...... some are married to each other, some aren't, some live together, some don't, etc etc...

So for those who are a regular part of each others lives, are the owners discreet about who they share their girls with? Or does is matter? Do you limit it to others in the lifestyle? Or does it matter?

I know everyone is different, but I'm just wondering if a dominant allows his buddies to use his girl, how does this affect non-sexual interactions with the guys and their significant others in other social situations?

I mean..... would you allow your girl to service a friend or friends that you socialize with regularly? I'm wondering how awkward it would be to have her give your buddy a blowjob, then the next day, the two of you show up at the company picnic and the buddy is there with his wife/girlfriend who knows nothing of what went on?

Can she be the slut he shows off to his locker room buddies one moment, and the lady he shows off in public to those same locker room buddies and everyone else, the next moment?

I hope what I'm asking is making sense.

It makes perfect sense.....and the answer is yes, it is possible.
The majority of the guys (and girls) Sir has shared me with, I see on a day to day basis in social situations. Most of the time we just hug and sometimes there is a peck on the cheek involved. If one of his friends decides to grab my ass during that hug, Sir often jokingly pouts that no one ever grabs his ass....so some other girl nearby will oblige him. Of course we happen to have a rather open group of friends in that manner....Id say there are about 15-20 of us that casually swap partners, even if its just who we sit next to in a resteraunt..not just sex. We often show up to business things with an extra couple in tow, and no one really ever questions it...My mom walked into my living room one day while I was sitting on another guys lap and she looked at me a little weird but never questioned it. Ive had co-workers of Sir come over to him and ask, "but I thought she was your wife" and point over to me instead of the chick he's got his arm around at the moment, he just answers "oh yea, she is" people just shrug and make funny looks at us.

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RE: Do you service others for your Masters enjoyment - 7/23/2007 10:25:08 AM

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I'd do it in a heart beat if Himself wanted me to, however, he's a selfish, stingy, greedy bastard who doesn't share his human toys.
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Ditto, Celeste. Same here. One of His favorite sayings is "Mine, Mine, Mine."

Playing with other sub/slave/vanilla females is great but no other men and no dommes. That's the rule and the bottom line............luci

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RE: Do you service others for your Masters enjoyment - 7/23/2007 10:30:50 AM

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ORIGINAL: daddyscherry
This is a great question, one i had while i was getting involved early on with my Daddy....i had heard stories ofo sharing so i expected that i would service his buddies whenever he wanted me to.

my Daddy said that he wouldn't want to share me with people that we would see regularly as that could cause issues and i was kind of grateful at that....especially after getting to know them and their SOs....

i 've often wondered if that issue came up how i'd deal with it, even though i know my Daddy wouldn't put me in that kind of spot...i just know that i couldn't do something, like a bj to a guy that i know has a wife or gf....even more if i know her and am friendly with her...it would be horrific to me.

So atleast here, my Daddy would be discreet and not have issues like what you mentioned arise. This isn't to say that others wouldn't do things the opposite though.

Thank you cherry. I didn't want to hijack Donaldnola's thread, but my question was related to his topic, so I thought I would throw it out there.

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ORIGINAL: GhitaAmati

It makes perfect sense.....and the answer is yes, it is possible.
The majority of the guys (and girls) Sir has shared me with, I see on a day to day basis in social situations. Most of the time we just hug and sometimes there is a peck on the cheek involved. If one of his friends decides to grab my ass during that hug, Sir often jokingly pouts that no one ever grabs his ass....so some other girl nearby will oblige him. Of course we happen to have a rather open group of friends in that manner....Id say there are about 15-20 of us that casually swap partners, even if its just who we sit next to in a resteraunt..not just sex. We often show up to business things with an extra couple in tow, and no one really ever questions it...My mom walked into my living room one day while I was sitting on another guys lap and she looked at me a little weird but never questioned it. Ive had co-workers of Sir come over to him and ask, "but I thought she was your wife" and point over to me instead of the chick he's got his arm around at the moment, he just answers "oh yea, she is" people just shrug and make funny looks at us.

I can understand your situation Ghita. It sounds a bit more along the lines of a sort of open relationship or swingers maybe?

I'm really thinking more along the lines of the significant others of the buddies not knowing about the interactions between the owned girl and their hubbies/boyfriends. Or even if the guy was single, was there ever that uncomfortableness afterwards? Do these guys think the girl is easy or cheap or whatever and think they can treat her differently afterwards?

I assume (yea I know) that lifestyle people would be more openminded about such things...... that's why I wondered if owners had some sort of parameters about who they shared with, etc.....?

Thank you both for your responses!!

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RE: Do you service others for your Masters enjoyment - 7/23/2007 10:37:39 AM

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In the pre-HIV times things were so much simpler, and yes I had Dominants share me with others sexually as well as in BD/SM scenes. I also shared submissives of mine for whom this was not a hard limit.

Now I will not share my partner sexually with anyone unless I KNOW the person is totally safe to fluid bond with. I share her in safe play at times.

I do not have a Master ( female or male) myself at this time, but if I did my limits would still be negotiated as my partner's are.

When we find the female slave we are looking for that we both share, all sexuality with her will be safe (no fluid exchange) until we know our new partner is safe to bond with and until she knows we are safe for her to bond with.

There are people we know with whom fluid bonding will be safe and my partner and I both know neither of us will try any fluid exchange without each other fully knowing what is happening. If I give her to a woman or man and tell her to sexually Please them, she knows that I know this will be safe for her.

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RE: Do you service others for your Masters enjoyment - 7/23/2007 10:44:43 AM

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ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel

This is a subject that has been on my mind for a while now.

I realize everyone's relationships are different...... some are married to each other, some aren't, some live together, some don't, etc etc...

So for those who are a regular part of each others lives, are the owners discreet about who they share their girls with? Or does is matter? Do you limit it to others in the lifestyle? Or does it matter?

I know everyone is different, but I'm just wondering if a dominant allows his buddies to use his girl, how does this affect non-sexual interactions with the guys and their significant others in other social situations?

I mean..... would you allow your girl to service a friend or friends that you socialize with regularly? I'm wondering how awkward it would be to have her give your buddy a blowjob, then the next day, the two of you show up at the company picnic and the buddy is there with his wife/girlfriend who knows nothing of what went on?

Can she be the slut he shows off to his locker room buddies one moment, and the lady he shows off in public to those same locker room buddies and everyone else, the next moment?

I hope what I'm asking is making sense.

BRNaughtyAngel, yes what you're asking makes sense, and it's a good point to bring up. for my Master and i these sorts of issues don't really come up, since i don't really wear multiple "faces" if you will. i am always his slave, even people who aren't aware of our lifestyle inclinations, have an awareness of the sort of dynamic we have (Him in control, me always deferential and powerless). so i never have to pretend to be anything other than who i am.

He has shared me with a couple of good friends over the years, and it has never led to any awkwardness. one day, his friend is screwing me up the bum...the next, he's coming over to play basketball with my Master, only giving me a nod or a wave before they go on their way. if the person has an SO, who is unaware of their outside erotic activities, then that SO would not be considered a friend, and wouldn't be someone we socialized with anyway. if by some odd occurence we did have to socialize with that person, i'd just conduct myself as normal, again no awkwardness necessary.

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RE: Do you service others for your Masters enjoyment - 7/23/2007 10:46:57 AM

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I assume (yea I know) that lifestyle people would be more openminded about such things...... that's why I wondered if owners had some sort of parameters about who they shared with, etc.....?

I think even with us their are some parameters.....everyone in our little "group" is compleatly aware of the dynamics and relationship between each couple and each other. I wouldnt go sit down on the lap of one of Sir's co-workers and try to kiss him if he wasnt already part of our closeknit group of friends. Because yea, I think it would cause problems...but most of the time, if you explain the situaition to the people you are interested in bedding, they are generally open and understanding. And you are right, one group of kinksters seems to be more open to another group of kinksters.

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RE: Do you service others for your Masters enjoyment - 7/23/2007 10:53:37 AM

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ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel
I know everyone is different, but I'm just wondering if a dominant allows his buddies to use his girl, how does this affect non-sexual interactions with the guys and their significant others in other social situations?

Well....the last time this happened it was a total stranger. I was required to approach an employee of the hotel where I was staying and explain to him I am an owned slave, what that means, and to tell him my Master has invited him to come to our room for some entertainment.

To which he grinned and said, "Sure!"

He was a nice young man, actually. We had interacted a time or two before at the hotel and he was rather charming and flirty. Mr. Wonderful, being the lawyer that he is, had him write and sign that he was engaging in consentual sexual activities, and no one was harmed during the making of this film.....okay it wasn't filmed.

He was very gracious, happy, impressed, and offered us his employee discount from here on out. Now we call each other from time to time - me when I need a hotel reservation, and he has called a couple of times to see how I was doing. He has a standing invitation now.

The funny thing is I stay there fairly regularly and there was a time when I was late in checking out...there was a knock on the door and I grinned as I opened, saying to my Master, "Hey, it's our friend!"

It's all good. :)

lol, very convenient! ...can relate to the discounts/freebies as well. with the number of other men my Master has had me serve over the years, we've gotten great deals on everything from hotel rooms to termite removal to airfares. there is a local club owner who my Master has given free use of me...which means that whenever i am in his presence, he can use me physically in any fashion, take me any place, and need not use any precautions. so naturally Daddy and i have a free pass to all the club events, public or private, which has saved a bundle.

then there was the time Daddy took me along with him on a business meeting, i was supposed to just sit in the lobby and wait, but the potential client noticed my collar and turned out to be a lifestyle Dominant...he and Daddy got to talking, and i ended up being used on top of the conference room table, lol. and Daddy got a long-term client out of it...cha-ching! ;) lol

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RE: Do you service others for your Masters enjoyment - 7/23/2007 11:19:16 AM

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There are only a few thats allowed to be serviced by her and the would tell you there the lucky ones.As for buddies they know out side she is a lady and anything other then that they would not say anything else.She can hold her head up high and face anyone in any area if they knew are not. also if they knew she would give them a wink and walk slowly away.LOL

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RE: Do you service others for your Masters enjoyment - 7/23/2007 11:29:04 AM

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Monogamous only here. We're fluid bonded and std free and plan to stay that way.

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RE: Do you service others for your Masters enjoyment - 7/23/2007 11:55:23 AM

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There are only a few thats allowed to be serviced by her and the would tell you there the lucky ones.As for buddies they know out side she is a lady and anything other then that they would not say anything else.She can hold her head up high and face anyone in any area if they knew are not. also if they knew she would give them a wink and walk slowly away.LOL

Thank you Donald. That's great to hear.

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RE: Do you service others for your Masters enjoyment - 7/24/2007 6:10:30 AM

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I have done it and do enjoy doing it on occasion. I have done it just because it is what he wanted. I have also done it and gotten enjoyment out of it. There are only certain people this would happen with. Safety for me and him is always the number one priority. People we do this with are known to be clean these are the only ones we play with this way.

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RE: Do you service others for your Masters enjoyment - 7/24/2007 8:38:23 AM

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Do you like to service others as your master watchs you?Or have you been bound as he others come in and have there sexual way with you.

No, i would not "like" to. I would however do it and LOVE that i was bringing Him pleasure by yeilding and submitting to His will. No i have not had the experience you speak of.

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