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Services - Sexual vs. Non Sexual, is one owned more tha... - 7/23/2007 7:21:58 AM

GhitaAmati

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Another spin-off of the "Sharing" thread.

Alot of people spoke out against "sharing" their slaves/subs sexually, for one reason or another. Does it make a difference to you is the service that is being shared is sexual or not? I mentioned the example of my Sir often loaning out my services as a carpenter to our local community, and he often volunteers my time for leather events and fundraisers. When our household camps together, I am expected to cook and serve for other Doms also. I actually enjoy serving dinner to our group...get alot of free gropes that way...lol

I am one of the ones who chimed in that Sir "does" share me sexually, but he also shares me in other ways. I see all of my serices and talents as his to use in whatever way he sees fit. Whether I am pleasing his friends sexually, or by building something they needed, it is all the same to me.

He doesnt do these things to "prove" to himself or anyone that he owns me, if he sees something that needs to be done, he just uses the right tool for the job, if a friend needs their Air conditioner fixed, he's probably gonna do it himself, if their car needs fixing, he'll do that himself too...but if he was to try and build someone a cabinet, id laugh to see the outcome, so he uses me since I can do that better than him....its about using the best tool for the job, sometimes its me. Same with sex.

So...is it more "OK" to share the non-sexual services of your slave? Would your sub be more willing? Why? Why would you see the two as any different? Do you own one part of her more than another part?

~~edited for poor spelling

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RE: Services - Sexual vs. Non Sexual, is one owned more... - 7/23/2007 7:27:35 AM

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He owns all of me equally and can share whichever part of me he wishes to, although it is rare that he does. It's all good. :)

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RE: Services - Sexual vs. Non Sexual, is one owned more... - 7/23/2007 7:33:19 AM

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There are differences in protections and processing and the energy involved- but otherwise, service is service is service.

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RE: Services - Sexual vs. Non Sexual, is one owned more... - 7/23/2007 8:08:43 AM

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So...is it more "OK" to share the non-sexual services of your slave? Would your sub be more willing? Why? Why would you see the two as any different? Do you own one part of her more than another part?

There is no "More OK". What happens in your relationship, no matter what it is, ( and before the exactists come out yes it has to be consentual). is OK.
Sharing in sexual ways or service ways is fine as long as that is what works.
I think its great that he shares all your talents with others its a nice well rounded situation and to me it shows he is proud of you and wants to show you off. This shows not only what a great sub/slave you are but also what a great Dom/Master he is.
You are an extension of him, your actions reflect on him. If you didnt have good talents, good attitiude and a good mindset then he would look the fool or worse.
I also share my slave with others but because of the area we live in there are very few who I can share her with which leaves talents going unsed not to mention the need for her to be shared.
We were just talking last night how great it would be to be able to have a formal dinner where the Doms would be served by the subs. I do miss that type of interaction greatly.
So be happy and try not to feel that one type of sharing is better then another or right or wrong. Any type of sharing, for the right reason, is wonderful.

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RE: Services - Sexual vs. Non Sexual, is one owned more... - 7/23/2007 8:34:04 AM

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I don't think it makes a difference. Owned is owned and I agree with LA service is service is service.

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ORIGINAL: GhitaAmati

Another spin-off of the "Sharing" thread.

Alot of people spoke out against "sharing" their slaves/subs sexually, for one reason or another. Does it make a difference to you is the service that is being shared is sexual or not? I mentioned the example of my Sir often loaning out my services as a carpenter to our local community, and he often volunteers my time for leather events and fundraisers. When our household camps together, I am expected to cook and serve for other Doms also. I actually enjoy serving dinner to our group...get alot of free gropes that way...lol

I am one of the ones who chimed in that Sir "does" share me sexually, but he also shares me in other ways. I see all of my serices and talents as his to use in whatever way he sees fit. Whether I am pleasing his friends sexually, or by building something they needed, it is all the same to me.

He doesnt do these things to "prove" to himself or anyone that he owns me, if he sees something that needs to be done, he just uses the right tool for the job, if a friend needs their Air conditioner fixed, he's probably gonna do it himself, if their car needs fixing, he'll do that himself too...but if he was to try and build someone a cabinet, id laugh to see the outcome, so he uses me since I can do that better than him....its about using the best tool for the job, sometimes its me. Same with sex.

So...is it more "OK" to share the non-sexual services of your slave? Would your sub be more willing? Why? Why would you see the two as any different? Do you own one part of her more than another part?

~~edited for poor spelling

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RE: Services - Sexual vs. Non Sexual, is one owned more... - 7/23/2007 8:45:50 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: GhitaAmati
So...is it more "OK" to share the non-sexual services of your slave? Would your sub be more willing? Why? Why would you see the two as any different? Do you own one part of her more than another part?

Master owns me equally, but does not share me sexually. He has no problem sharing me nonsexually, but He has declined quite a few requests. Still i have been loaned out to our good friends as a chef for their anniversary, and for massages at various times. i have been ordered to clean the home of one who was fighting cancer, and to take meals to another. i have been instructed to prepare and deliver all kinds of baked goods for a Pride booth, and on other occasions for several auctions. There are plans for me to be loaned out as the cook for a large theme party for Dominant friend of Master's.
In my mind, when it is Master's idea it seems more like serving Him than when i volunteer of my own desire. (Though these requests must also be cleared through Master first.)
i am reminded that i am owned when people who in the past approched me to arrange such things, now speak directly with Master.
For me, i do see sexual service as different than non sexual service because of Master's boundaries about sexual service.

Master's dorei

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RE: Services - Sexual vs. Non Sexual, is one owned more... - 7/23/2007 8:49:05 AM

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In my mind, when it is Master's idea it seems more like serving Him than when i volunteer on my own.
i am reminded that i am owned when people who in the past approched me to arrange such things, now speak directly with Master

Smiles, cause I feel the same way....

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RE: Services - Sexual vs. Non Sexual, is one owned more... - 7/23/2007 10:56:46 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: GhitaAmati

Another spin-off of the "Sharing" thread.

Alot of people spoke out against "sharing" their slaves/subs sexually, for one reason or another. Does it make a difference to you is the service that is being shared is sexual or not? I mentioned the example of my Sir often loaning out my services as a carpenter to our local community, and he often volunteers my time for leather events and fundraisers. When our household camps together, I am expected to cook and serve for other Doms also. I actually enjoy serving dinner to our group...get alot of free gropes that way...lol

I am one of the ones who chimed in that Sir "does" share me sexually, but he also shares me in other ways. I see all of my serices and talents as his to use in whatever way he sees fit. Whether I am pleasing his friends sexually, or by building something they needed, it is all the same to me.

He doesnt do these things to "prove" to himself or anyone that he owns me, if he sees something that needs to be done, he just uses the right tool for the job, if a friend needs their Air conditioner fixed, he's probably gonna do it himself, if their car needs fixing, he'll do that himself too...but if he was to try and build someone a cabinet, id laugh to see the outcome, so he uses me since I can do that better than him....its about using the best tool for the job, sometimes its me. Same with sex.

So...is it more "OK" to share the non-sexual services of your slave? Would your sub be more willing? Why? Why would you see the two as any different? Do you own one part of her more than another part?

~~edited for poor spelling

For my owner there is definitely a difference. He doesn't mind (assuming it doesn't take away from him) loaning for non-sexual related shtuff, but he doesn't share sexually (it wouldn't bother me if he wanted to share me sexually).

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RE: Services - Sexual vs. Non Sexual, is one owned more... - 7/23/2007 11:21:14 AM

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The basic difference between sexual and nonsexual service is the risk factor. If you're volunteered to clean someone else's home, or sit there all day to let the cable repairman in, there's no risk of STDs involved. There's no worry about flashbacks to nonconsensual sex, no worry about lasting emotional trauma. I doubt many of us have nightmares from running a vacuum cleaner.

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RE: Services - Sexual vs. Non Sexual, is one owned more... - 7/23/2007 5:34:21 PM

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Ditto to what Celeste said.
My Master does not share me sexually, and not risking me to emotional abuse
or std's does not make me any less of a submissive.

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RE: Services - Sexual vs. Non Sexual, is one owned more... - 7/23/2007 10:47:18 PM

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Chiming in from a Dominant side.....I will share for non sexual services, but no one gets to touch My kibbles and bits. Nope no one but Me. Don't have to have a reason for it ...just the way it is because I said that's the way it is. No one drives My car either, or drinks My ginger ale.

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RE: Services - Sexual vs. Non Sexual, is one owned more... - 7/24/2007 9:28:32 AM

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my Master believes, as others have said, that service is service. the bottom line is i'm his property, and he can loan me out to help paint a house or to be a fluffer in a 10-man gangbang, doesn't really matter, service is service. i understand that some feel that sexual service is more risky than domestic or other forms of service, but i would disagree with that. i would say that sexual service may have some unique risks associated with it, but there can be risks in any form of service. also for some slaves like me, non-sexual service is the most difficult and draining.

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RE: Services - Sexual vs. Non Sexual, is one owned more... - 7/24/2007 9:54:08 AM

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I definantly agree with you prop, non-sexual service can often be harder to do than sexual, emotionally and physically sometimes.

I see alot of folk here who talk about the "risks" of sexually sharing. What about the risks of driving a car? Or standing out in the sun without sunscreen on? What about my example of building items in my workshop for members of the local community, arent their risks whenever I put my hand anywhere near a turning saw blade? Every activity has risks, and so we take procautions wherever we go, we wear our seatbelts and drive defensivly, we put on makeup with builtin sunscreen, I keep my tools in good working order and use a guard on sawblades, there are procautions to sex also....we make our choices and learn how to go about it in the safest manner possible. Just because my grandfather cut off two of his fingers making a kitchen table for my mother once, doesnt mean Im never going to use a saw again, but I have learned to never use a planer without a guard, no matter how long you've been building furniture.

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