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How Important is one's "nickname" here? - 7/23/2007 6:18:43 PM   
PAsextoy4u


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Status: offline 		I am seriously asking for feedback on how important is one's nickname here.  It is time that I change my name because this name just isnt who I am now.  The name "sextoy" and a much more explicit name, LOL was given to me by my former Master.  I used it here when he wanted me to find someone local to play with.  We didnt live close enough to be together that often, and he wanted me to have fun and play since he couldnt be here.  So I used this name because that is what I was to him, a sex toy, someone who always wanted to please Him in any way he wanted me.

Now having been released over 6 months ago, and wanting to move on, AND since most men seem to ASSume that my name means I will F*** anyone anytime just for saying "hello" I want to let go of this name, and what it meant to me.  I need to move on, and this "name" is one of the ways I still feel tied to Him.

But I have NO idea what to call myself now.  I have been thinking of this for weeks now, and nothing comes to mind and nothing seems to fit me now.   This may seem stupid to some people, but its important to me to not use this name anymore.  I was HIS sex toy, not A sex toy.  And I am attracting the worst kind of men with this name, so much so I just want to run away and forget this lifestyle.

So I would appreciate ANY positive feedback on this topic.  Are names that important here?  Does a name really tell others much about a person?  If one is not owned, then how should they name themselves?  Thank you for your help!
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RE: How Important is one's "nickname" here? - 7/23/2007 6:30:35 PM   
Faramir


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Status: offline 		I think you should go with "Enid."

No one would ever think an "Enid" would F*** anyone anytime for saying hello.

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RE: How Important is one's "nickname" here? - 7/23/2007 7:04:02 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		The question is- how important is it to you?  Obviously it's somewhat important or you wouldn't have been thinking this much and having to post about it.

How should you name yourself?  However you want.

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RE: How Important is one's "nickname" here? - 7/23/2007 7:27:04 PM   
slaveish


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Status: offline 		If your nickname bothers you now, stay away from sexual names. Think of songs you like. Think of words you like. Name yourself whatever ~you~ like.

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If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other. ~~Mother Teresa

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RE: How Important is one's "nickname" here? - 7/23/2007 7:34:38 PM   
fadedlace


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From: Louisiana
Status: offline 		I had a sexually "leading" nickname similar to yours a long time ago...and yes, with that, you mostly get sexually-charged messages from those who think you're "A" sextoy.  (At the time I had it, I was looking for sexually-charged messages, and fully aware of the reaction to the name.)  When it quit fitting me, I stopped using it.  Same with the former nickname my late Master and last Dom had for me.  Doesn't fit, you want one that fits.

You could try considering what's important to you, or something people notice about you, or a quality you see in yourself that you want to initially present, or just a mental image of something you'd like to have people think of when they see your nickname...or you could look around and be, say, ChoiceSeeds or redpoppy or peppmintpatty.

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RE: How Important is one's "nickname" here? - 7/23/2007 7:41:30 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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Status: offline 		I think many have gotten their names from loved ones,mythology,music,movies,books...whatever creates the mood or person that represents you best....enjoy the introspection of you...Tempting

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RE: How Important is one's "nickname" here? - 7/23/2007 7:51:21 PM   
earthycouple


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Status: offline 		My husband gave me "EarthyCouple" because he built this website as a gift for me.  (I have an amazing husband)

I think your name should fit who you are or who you wish to be one day.  I've always appreciated a name that makes me really think; I enjoy flair and words very much.  Eclectic.  yeah...that's what I like eclectic.

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RE: How Important is one's "nickname" here? - 7/23/2007 7:53:01 PM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		My name is great because women see it and immediately submit.

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RE: How Important is one's "nickname" here? - 7/23/2007 8:26:34 PM   
MidMichCowboy


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Status: offline 		Nicknames ... I don't take them seriously. Mine is kind of my situation ... grew up on a ranch out west and now find myself in Michigan. Personally (and I'm not judging folks) I am not into Lord this or Master That. Not into a cyber world of stuff. I just like to visit and get to know people. Once we meet in person, then it gets serious (or at least has the possibility).
Pick something that describes a feeling or a dream. Don't let it get too suggestive as the creeps will crawl out of the woodwork (unless you want the creeps).
Relax .. to those with any intelligence, its just a nickname.
Michael

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RE: How Important is one's "nickname" here? - 7/23/2007 8:41:06 PM   
Estring


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Status: offline 		You could go with NolongerPAsextoy4u.


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RE: How Important is one's "nickname" here? - 7/23/2007 9:09:32 PM   
LadyHeart


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Status: offline 		First impressions count. Your name is a major part of the first impression you make. I tend to view somewhat cynically messages from "Masterhairycokeightinches" and the like  ... I wonder why...?

:))
LH

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RE: How Important is one's "nickname" here? - 7/23/2007 9:16:10 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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From: Nashville, TN
Status: offline 		Mine is a name i have been using for years and has sgnificance for me outside of the lifestyle. Yes, the biting is a huge kink of mine, but the name was around before the kink was advertized
And mine has a very nice, easy, recognizable and useable acronym.

DV


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RE: How Important is one's "nickname" here? - 7/24/2007 12:37:15 AM   
Rafters


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Faramir
I think you should go with "Enid."
No one would ever think an "Enid" would F*** anyone anytime for saying hello.


Enid Blyton set the bar pretty high.
With the corporal punishment, servants and terms like Golliwogs, she's the Granny Illsa of the childrens book scene as far as the PC brigade are concerned

I picked my nick, because your mind would have to be this perverted -->

..to get the reference

< Message edited by Rafters -- 7/24/2007 12:58:48 AM >

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RE: How Important is one's "nickname" here? - 7/24/2007 1:17:23 AM   
UtterBastard


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Status: offline 		*shrug* my ex-wife suggested mine...

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RE: How Important is one's "nickname" here? - 7/24/2007 3:13:52 AM   
sleazybutterfly


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Status: offline 		Take the time now to pick something that means a lot to you.  I have tried on a couple of names here, but I always come back to this one. It doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks, if you have one you like you should keep it. 
 
Tbella

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RE: How Important is one's "nickname" here? - 7/24/2007 5:41:36 AM   
adoracat


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Status: offline 		my late fal named me adoracat...and when he ordered me to seek again because we knew he didnt have much longer, i just kept the name.  it still fits me well, so i've not had issue with it.

kitten, who still cries, but Sir wipes my tears away

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RE: How Important is one's "nickname" here? - 7/24/2007 6:31:23 AM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		My nickname came from a drow Priestess I used to roleplay, her personality and mine somewhat overlap and I just love the name. Because the lash is my favorite toy. 

~Lashra


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RE: How Important is one's "nickname" here? - 7/24/2007 6:39:29 AM   
MrSaxon


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Status: offline 		A sexually suggestive name won't just attract people who only want a fling, it scares off people who want more than just a fling.  If we see a sexual name then read a profile that's asking for romance, then we see a disconnect.

Make sure you don't pick a name that definitely doesn't reflect you in any way.  If you're a lesbian Domme, do not call yourself slave4penis.  I've seen profiles with similar names, where they've also ticked that they are looking for dominant males, and they complain that men are contacting them.

Your best bet is to pick something or a couple of things you like and go from there.  If you like blueberries and 1920s pop music call yourself blueberrypowderpuff or something.  Spankalicious is taken already, but since spanking is a major interest of yours maybe something along those lines?  It really depends what you're looking for.

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RE: How Important is one's "nickname" here? - 7/24/2007 7:12:47 AM   
SimplyMichael


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Status: offline 		Despite my often brilliant and insightful posts, not even my amazing modesty and obviously unequaled skill kept people from saying "but you are a CrappyDom"

Seriously, people would throw that at me!  Which is why I went with this name.

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RE: How Important is one's "nickname" here? - 7/24/2007 7:21:44 AM   
GhitaAmati


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Status: offline 		I used to have some more "Sexually" charged nicks....several of them I thought were just plays on words and didnt realize when I made them the connection other would make with the name....my favorite...since Im this short redneck from south georgia..was lil_cuntry_girl I thouth it was hilarious but all it got me was a bunch of horny trolls.

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