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How does a male slave/sub or pet present himself - 7/24/2007 6:07:28 AM   
aSlavesJourney


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Status: offline 		Hello I was just wondering how a male slave/sub and or pet should present himself on a wbsite such as this one so to catch the eye of a Mistress and to also be considered real and not a fake as I keep ready a lot of the Mistress seeem to be being contacted by fakes and people who are false
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RE: How does a male slave/sub or pet present himself - 7/24/2007 6:23:55 AM   
thetammyjo


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Status: offline 		Personally I'm most impressed by folks who participate on the forums and who present themselves as the person first and the Ds or SM or BD orientation second. Have a picture that looks like you as a person, an attractive one or a fun one. Personally I find smiles more attractive than poses of that are supported to say "slave" or "submissive". I also prefer someone with a real name and not just a handle. It doesn't have to be your meatlife name if privacy and safety are a concern but something in your signature like "Bob" or "Ted" or "Sue" or some other name makes me feel like there is a "real" person behind the title.



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RE: How does a male slave/sub or pet present himself - 7/24/2007 6:27:26 AM   
aSlavesJourney


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Status: offline 		thanyou for the input TammyJo :)

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RE: How does a male slave/sub or pet present himself - 7/24/2007 6:36:14 AM   
Jacobthm


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Status: offline 		Ok here's what generally will compell me to spend more that 2 seconds on someones profile.

1) The picture. Otherwise well, it's all text. For all I know the 21 year old sub who lives to serve is Ron Jeremy. The more candid (unprofesionally done) the picture looks the better. If I even suspect that it's just some random pic that the person stole online I don't bother. Also there was a google video a while ago about the "myspace angles." Post a pic that accuratelly shows who you are or at least have a second picture on your profile that does. Everyone wants to look perfect. Very few of us are.

2) Readability; (Is that even a word?) If your profile consists of small, or difficult to read text my eyes glaze over after the first sentence. Also break up your paragraphs! A long heartfelt speech is still tiring and will be skipped if it's just a colum of text.Break it down Barney style so your readers can digest individual ideas.

3) Journals; Yes some of us actually read them! Shocking eh? By reading someone's journal I can get a better idea of who the person is I'm looking at.

Anyhow that's my .02.


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RE: How does a male slave/sub or pet present himself - 7/24/2007 6:41:31 AM   
aSlavesJourney


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Status: offline 		thankyou for the reply's guys :).. Umm I am not sure if my profile is ok and I have uploaded my pic of which I took with my webcam so I guess I just have 2 wait for it to be approved

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RE: How does a male slave/sub or pet present himself - 7/24/2007 7:23:28 AM   
chiaThePet


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Status: offline 		Wear the "I Am Not A Fake" tee shirt

Be yourself, be honest with yourself and others, know why you are here and
what it is you seek. Be as respectful and courteous as humanly possible, but
know that you can stand up for what you believe in your heart. Do not let
image, ideology, and the opinions of others define who you are. Be aware
that there are common understandings involving issues, but no rule book
carved in stone by which you "must" abide. Look, listen and learn before
crossing the street into unknown territories, those who have come before
you may in fact have good life lessons to share which will enhance your
journey. Sometimes the beauty of being a submissive will encompass and
uplift you, sometimes you will feel as though you've make the biggest
mistake of your life, remember, here as in the world, life is most often
what you yourself make of it. Remember the voices and words of your
elders of days gone by, the morals and manners which they spoke of,
remain as genuine today as when you were a child. What you think you
know, you may not know at all, embrace the opportunity to learn and
grow, we are never finished learning. It is alright to be weary and question
those whose paths you cross, it is unfortunate, but there will be wolves
in sheeps clothing. Take your time as you explore, impatience will most
always rob you of opportunity. Search here for topics and queries which
your heart and head hungers for, there are many wise voices and words
which can enhance and uplift your understanding. As a submissive, you
are a treasure, never let anyone convince you otherwise.

Running around butt naked offering jello shots might bode well for you also!
Always, always, keep your sense of humor, the ability to smile through it all
can be the greatest achievement you will ever behold.

chia* (the pet) 

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RE: How does a male slave/sub or pet present himself - 7/24/2007 9:07:37 AM   
undergroundsea


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From: Austin, TX
Status: offline 		Don't know about here but this is what I did at a party recently!

I got one of those flat carts and put a large silver platter on it. Actually, it was just a flat piece of wood but nothing that can't be fixed by can of silver spray paint, right? So I rested one knee on the platter and used the other leg to propel myself forward as if skateboarding. I then made my way towards a domme. After gaining a little momentum, I pulled myself completely up on the platter and kneeled on it. As I approached the domme I was trying to impress, I spread my arms and said, tada!

One thing to keep in mind is that you have to judge the momentum carefully. I overcompensated for the carpet and was going a bit too fast. So I slammed into the chair next to her. I think this freaked her out a little because she got up and walked away. And so I tried to follow her. But I must have hit a fold in the carpet or something because I had this crazy fall off the platter skateboard. And then the dungeon monitors rushed over. And I had scrapes on my elbow and knee so they put band-aids on me. And as I was falling off, I caught a splinter on my...some other spot. I was too embarrassed to get a band-aid there and have learned that I should at least wear a thong next time. I think the DMs were worried about me because they insisted I go home and get some rest. And so I didn't get to really complete my presentation of self. But hey, next time right? The dungeon monitors told me the next party is in June of next year. It's funny. Usually they have the parties on the third Saturday but from the date they gave me it seems next year they will be having the party on the second Tuesday. Anyway, that will give me plenty of time to sand down the platter--it just doesn't fit the look of a silver platter to have splinters popping out.

Cheers,

Sea

ps Don't mind the silliness ;-)

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RE: How does a male slave/sub or pet present himself - 7/24/2007 10:26:46 AM   
MisPandora


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Status: offline 		Presenting one's self in an intelligent fashion, to include punctuation, grammar and well-thought out messages - whether in a forum, email or profile.  That captures my attention.

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RE: How does a male slave/sub or pet present himself - 7/24/2007 10:40:20 AM   
MiladyElaine


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Status: offline 		you're a nut, Sea!

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RE: How does a male slave/sub or pet present himself - 7/24/2007 2:06:22 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		Be yourself. That way, you'll attract someone who likes you for you.

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RE: How does a male slave/sub or pet present himself - 7/25/2007 3:48:50 AM   
Saint


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Status: offline 		Easy answer to this. A picture of a large checkbook with the ability to back it up through large tributes and a ballgag should do wonders for presenting yourself. Otherwise no amount of posting, kindness, or whathaveyou will get you very far without that crucial element of money in your bank account.

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RE: How does a male slave/sub or pet present himself - 7/25/2007 3:52:23 AM   
Jhin


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Status: offline 		Now now don't be so negative, I like a boy who not only presents himself with dignity and respect for his body and mind but with effort, enough effort to take a clear fully visable photo, a well thought out introduction, a open mind, and a list of his wants and needs. I want to hear about what you want, before I'll tell you what I'll give.

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RE: How does a male slave/sub or pet present himself - 7/25/2007 5:14:50 AM   
PairOfDimes


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Status: offline 		Yup, participating in the forums is good.

Present what you want and what you offer very clearly and concisely at the outset, then elaborate on it in the rest of the profile. Subtly try to persuade readers why, precisely, you would be well-matched for them--this is even more important when you send emails to specific people. If you're interested in a relationship that involves emotional intimacy as well as play, you might do well to include some information about your non-kinky interests and habits. Take care to proofread for spelling, grammar and punctuation--use complete sentences!! Avoid cliches, like "living to serve," and "whatever you want."

I'm not sure about being contacted by fakes--I think most of the people who have contacted me are real people. (I would hope that a "bot" would have better taste and language!) Some have simply been rude, or presumptuous, or have represented themselves poorly, or were otherwise incompatible with me.

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RE: How does a male slave/sub or pet present himself - 7/25/2007 8:53:14 AM   
MisPandora


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Jhin

Now now don't be so negative, I like a boy who not only presents himself with dignity and respect for his body and mind but with effort, enough effort to take a clear fully visable photo, a well thought out introduction, a open mind, and a list of his wants and needs. I want to hear about what you want, before I'll tell you what I'll give.

And some of us abhor the grocery list subs who pretend we're McDommes.  To each his/her own....

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RE: How does a male slave/sub or pet present himself - 7/25/2007 1:34:13 PM   
stockingluvr54


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Status: offline 		All you really can do is present yourself as honestly, sincere and as real as you are capable of which is hard at times, especially if you're not a master of communication like myself. These women get lots of mail from potentials and it's kinda like walking through a mine field....one wrong step and BOOM....you're done! Reread everything you type and try and see if there's anyway the Lady can read something else into it or misinterpret it because she just might and probably will? I just lost a helluva potential because of something I said or did? THINK for a long while before you punch that send button! I think the hard part is getting to that intial phone call so be real careful and tread lightly.....I know I will in the future...jmo

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RE: How does a male slave/sub or pet present himself - 7/25/2007 2:35:57 PM   
earthycouple


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Status: offline 		I like someone who portrays himself as a person first and a submissive second.  When we talk, at first esepcially, it lingers on things like family, hobbies, recently read books, etc.  The bdsm compatability comes later for me.  Show me that my body is not why you have an interest.

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RE: How does a male slave/sub or pet present himself - 7/25/2007 3:37:47 PM   
Stephann


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From: Portland, OR
Status: offline 		Approaching the net the way you would approach a bookshop probably won't work.  You're not likely to 'buy' the woman (unless you're only interested in a business transaction.)  I'd dig out that book of vanilla dating secrets you've let get dusty and brush it off.  Be friendly, be polite, and be yourself.  Understand that, for good or ill, you're in competition with nine other guys.  Take heart from the fact that those other nine guys are struggling just the same as you.  Be patient; it won't happen overnight or in a week.  Don't abandon vanilla channels; everyone started off vanilla at one time or another.  Lastly, don't forget to improve yourself; lose that extra weight, take cooking classes, learn massage, keep your house clean, and generally make your life better.  Do things that make you happy and increase your confidence; people will see that you're happy and confident, and want to know what makes you special.

Good luck,

Stephan


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RE: How does a male slave/sub or pet present himself - 7/26/2007 6:30:12 AM   
WyckedMystress


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quote:

  ORIGINAL: MisPandora

And some of us abhor the grocery list subs who pretend we're McDommes.




Can I get fries with that??

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RE: How does a male slave/sub or pet present himself - 7/26/2007 6:44:57 AM   
MySweetSubmssive


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From: Lehigh Valley, PA
Status: offline 		Be more than your BDSM desires.

Know who you are and what you are looking for in BDSM.  Read a dominant's profile carefully to see if they are looking for something similar.  If so, get in contact with a letter.  If not, don't.

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RE: How does a male slave/sub or pet present himself - 7/26/2007 6:59:44 AM   
chiaThePet


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quote:

ORIGINAL: WyckedMystress

quote:

  ORIGINAL: MisPandora

And some of us abhor the grocery list subs who pretend we're McDommes.




Can I get fries with that??


Can i SuperSize that?

And in a tragic chain of events, the chia* pet

was trampled by a bevy of Big Beautiful Women.

chia* (the pet)

< Message edited by chiaThePet -- 7/26/2007 7:03:48 AM >

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