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Jayxkes -> RE: correction and a "free" sub (6/27/2005 7:16:48 AM)
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Regardless of age, it is never easy entering a new community alone. As with all life, communication is the key, so talk to folk. Very, very few would mind if you approach them whilst they are not busy and asked for some guidence about that particular dungeon/club/munch etc. However the DMs are best placed to assist, though do approach them at a quiet time. They have other responsibilities too ;)
This is an old Dungeon Ettiqette guide I wrote some yaers ago, as it says it is not exhaustive. I suggest that you not only read it, but also look at why each point is made, that will give you a good start........
Dungeon parties / play parties can be a mind blowing, wonderful experience. They are great places to watch ‘experts’ and find new ideas and techniques. Most have a selection of dungeon equipment that most of us can only dream of fitting into our homes!
This list of dungeon etiquette is by no means exhaustive; it is a good base though!
1. DO NOT interfere with couples or groups who are doing a scene together. Not only is it bad manners to crowd them or try and push in, you can easily spoil the scene for them! If they want you, you will be invited.
2. DO NOT touch or talk to a sub during a scene, unless asked to do so. Touching or talking to a sub on the edge of sub space, even with the best of intentions, can ruin their whole night!
3. DO NOT talk to, or distract, a Dominant during a scene. Their job is to concentrate on what they are doing!
4. DO, however, feel free to talk to people who are not involved in a scene. This is a great way to meet new people; learn new techniques; check out new equipment; ask for help etc. The vast majority of people are happy to help and advise when asked at the appropriate time.
5. DO NOT walk between a Dominant and a submissive whilst corporal punishment is taking place. Whips and canes etc. are designed to hurt; you will NOT be where they are meant to land and could well end up seriously hurt! Likewise be very careful if you need to walk behind a Dominant as he / she is swinging back and taking aim. If you are hit accidentally, you have ONLY yourself to blame.
6. DO check with the Dungeon Master first if you feel concern about how someone else is playing. What’s too much for you, may be just a warm up for them!
7. DO NOT touch other people's equipment, clothes, toys, etc. If you want to borrow something, always ASK first. And make sure you return it afterwards!
8. DO NOT touch someone else’s sub, unless asked to do so by their Dominant. Remember that for some, leaving a sub in bondage and /or blindfolded etc., is all an important part of their scene. It is highly unlikely that a sub has been forgotten about!
9. DO NOT lounge around and sit on the bondage benches and dungeon furniture. Find a chair. If you are sitting on the equipment, you are preventing someone else from using it for its intended purpose!
10. DO feel free to watch a scene. The people involved are aware that they are in public and won’t mind you watching. It is a very good way to learn new techniques and get some idea of how the various implements are used.
11. DO play at your own level. There is no prize for whoever plays hardest! There are very good reasons, & no shame, in playing lightly if that is what you want to do.
12. DO have a drink ready for your sub to drink after the scene is over. Many subs find playing very dehydrating, having the drink ready means you can attend to her thirst as part of the scene aftercare. [ it also means you can send your sub to the bar to fetch the drinks!!! ;o) ]
Most importantly, DO have fun!
Jay
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