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Service sub -should he be canned and cropped - 7/24/2007 5:32:31 PM

preysub

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As a boy who has been trained and enjoys the softer service side of submission ,one wonders how much if any a boy should talk or should he tell prospective Dommes he can take when it comes to pain. this boy tends to say he is service boy and no pain slut . The question is "do you think this puts prospective Domme off considering this boy "

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RE: Service sub -should he be canned and cropped - 7/24/2007 6:04:46 PM

LadyPact

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It's really funny that you posted this. Recently, someone asked Me what I was looking for. The fast answer...... I said a balance between a masochist and a service submissive.

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RE: Service sub -should he be canned and cropped - 7/24/2007 6:17:40 PM

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Really? Usually when I ask, "what are you looking for?" the answer tends to be "the opposite of you, littlesarbonn." sniffle

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RE: Service sub -should he be canned and cropped - 7/24/2007 6:20:20 PM

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It's always nice to have greater versatility. That is, if you enjoyed and were competent in both serving and bottoming to pain, you would draw a larger pool of dominants.

However, you're you. If you want service-only relationships, there are dominants who enjoy them! There are also people who want "softer" play--easy bondage, tease and denial, sensation play...things like that, so if those kinds of things suit you, you might define yourself as a servant and sensation bottom, but not much of a pain bottom.

As for how much if any you should talk...well, you should clearly, and concisely tell people what you're looking for, up front. You should be able to hold up your end of a conversation, without either lapsing into monosyllables or rambling. After you've entered a service relationship, you and the dominant can decide how much you should talk.

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RE: Service sub -should he be canned and cropped - 7/24/2007 6:23:59 PM

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I have had service subs for just that...and been perfectly ok with it. I am a sadist...but don't want others to feel to be in my affections they have to take what I dish out.

Having said this....I couldn't be happy with just a service sub...I'd need a maso somewhere in the mix.

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RE: Service sub -should he be canned and cropped - 7/24/2007 6:33:11 PM

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thank you for your responses
i am serve sub by training and nature however do take pain when its required by a Mistress .the pai i have taken varies for being on my kneels for hours cleaning or worshiping ,to being cropped or canned on my legs ,feet,ass, cock etc
i have been canned and cropped to the point od being black and blue . my point is while i can take it when required i need to find a way of explaining how much ,or how i best put this in my profiles to attact the Domme ,given there are few in my location .

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RE: Service sub -should he be canned and cropped - 7/24/2007 6:43:24 PM

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I much prefer fresh subs to canned ones. They don't have that tinny metallic taste.

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RE: Service sub -should he be canned and cropped - 7/24/2007 7:53:50 PM

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It just shows when your scared of something you done even type it correctly.

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RE: Service sub -should he be canned and cropped - 7/24/2007 8:20:29 PM

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I can't see why it would be a problem to share that you can or would take pain... So long as you're not trying to push anything on your Mistress and are being respectful to potentials then it's simply more information for her to use in choosing and using you, if she does.

For me, I like to know simply one way or the other as it effects how I interact with my submissives.

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RE: Service sub -should he be canned and cropped - 7/24/2007 11:39:19 PM

preysub

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thanks for the input all

my question is though should one be promoting what he thinks is in demand in his profile in order to attrach attention
after all as sub/slave we are intended to do what pleases the Mistress not that which we wish or like

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RE: Service sub -should he be canned and cropped - 7/24/2007 11:43:06 PM

Jhin

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Listen, you are who you are, no worry what others want, being a bottom is about fufilling a desire of yours not being custom fit, If I was looking for a slave as of now I would not be turned off by you, I do not enjoy harming things, though I enjoy them serving me

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RE: Service sub -should he be canned and cropped - 7/24/2007 11:48:57 PM

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Not everyone is into the S&M side of WIITWD. There will be those who may look closer at your profile because you are not a pain slut.

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RE: Service sub -should he be canned and cropped - 7/25/2007 5:27:26 AM

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Just tell the truth.

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RE: Service sub -should he be canned and cropped - 7/25/2007 5:43:29 AM

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Dear preysub, Ladies and Gentlemen;

In my mind's eyes I see, honesty is the best policy. Each person's ability to handle pain is different and it is important to be faithful to your personal physical, mental, emotional and or spiritual well being.
To fudge on the truth only leads to disappointments.

Some servants will attempt to please by participating in corporal play/scenes. I do not have to give pain to a person in order to be happy with their service. If I need to whip and cane someone, there are plenty of play partners in the scene. So, there are remedies that may address situations, to which both parties can be happy about.

Just some thoughts.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

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RE: Service sub -should he be canned and cropped - 7/25/2007 6:19:59 AM

preysub

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thank you for the replys /contributions

the truth is this boy can take pain , the point is he does not seek it and will take some for his Mistress if its her wish . Its all a matter of degree pain to one may be seen a a slite tap by others
the point of this boys question is in a profile there is a limit to who one can say ,in discussion the truth is all important , thats understood ,however one beens to get into a discussion before the truth can come out . This boy is sure that the Domme present know how many sub there are to look at ,so its attracting the attention to get to that discuss that makes this crop/cane question one to ponder . the need of a sub are not as important as those of the Domme he seeks to attract . the details can come out when a relationship develops .

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RE: Service sub -should he be canned and cropped - 7/25/2007 8:00:42 AM

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It depends on the quality of service you provide and if you're looking to fulfill MY needs (ie. household chores and such) or if you're looking to be a sexual service boy. Houseboys are much more valuable to me. Sexual service boys are a dime a dozen.

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RE: Service sub -should he be canned and cropped - 7/25/2007 8:49:27 AM

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ORIGINAL: preysub

As a boy who has been trained and enjoys the softer service side of submission ,one wonders how much if any a boy should talk or should he tell prospective Dommes he can take when it comes to pain. this boy tends to say he is service boy and no pain slut . The question is "do you think this puts prospective Domme off considering this boy "

Are you desperate and just wanting to get with whomever will accomodate you, regardless of how it offends your delicate, "softer side" sensibilities, or are your limits and standards important to you? Really, you're the one that has to answer to yourself with regard to the situation you place yourself into!

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RE: Service sub -should he be canned and cropped - 7/25/2007 6:21:55 PM

preysub

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thank you for your responces
this boy is a service boy who does what pleases the Mistress and that usually means chores like house cleaning ,cooking, handy jobs etc ,however was also used a full body oral slave by his past Mistress .

as to the question of am i desperate ? we keen i would say to please and be used ,desperate is a strong word and implies i would do anything for anyone . this is not the case . the only desperation here is the small number of Dommes around in my location and the need to consider a re location.

the reason i listed this question on should service boys be caned or cropped is because i was seeking to establish if such was an attraction to Dommes and would increase the possibilities of contacts with potential Dommes
ric (preysub)

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RE: Service sub -should he be canned and cropped - 7/25/2007 9:33:10 PM

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preysub,

This may sound catty, but cattiness is not my intent. Rather, I'm just trying to be helpful. As a domme (or as any person), the biggest things that would turn me off about your OP are:

- Referring to yourself in the third person. (For example, "this boy".)

- Posting with poor grammar, missing capitalization, missing punctuation, and spelling errors.

The service versus masochist concern is valid, but to even approach this kind of talk with a domme, the discussion has to start in the first place. Perhaps I'm more picky about written communication than some, but if a person uses third-person speech and text that is full of errors, this definitely makes a negative impression. English may not be your best skill (or even your first language), but I suggest at least using periods, proper capitalization, and a spell checker. Also, after you've completed writing your thoughts, it never hurts to proof-read before posting.

Regarding the "this boy", "it likes to please", third person, objectification dynamic: I've yet to meet *any* domme who likes this. Yes, like almost all kinks, there are probably dommes who do enjoy this, but in my experience these are few and far between. You'll get a lot farther approaching dominant woman politely and respectfully just as people and as a person yourself.

Elan.

< Message edited by ElanSubdued -- 7/25/2007 9:34:56 PM >

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RE: Service sub -should he be canned and cropped - 7/25/2007 11:11:56 PM

preysub

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Thank you all for the feedback.
The third person speach was required by a past Mistress. I will stop using it now . Thank you.

ric (preysub)

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