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salilus -> RE: A Show of Respect (7/25/2007 3:38:46 PM)
Thank you all for the honest answers This is my... issue... I think: most of what I've read here are things I do out of love and courtesy and not out of respect for a person. To me, there are different levels of respect, that are reserved for specific individuals. I wouldn't for instance, give the same respect to my best friend that I give to a college professor. And, I wouldn't give the same level of respect for a goofy, happy-go-lucky college professor as I would for one who was cool, calm, and in control of himself. By the way, I have asked this of my owner; I know what he expects of me. The question is out of curiousity. Your sarcasm is noted and appreciated, however. ;)

slaveluci -> RE: A Show of Respect (7/25/2007 3:50:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: salilus This is my... issue... I think: most of what I've read here are things I do out of love and courtesy and not out of respect for a person Just a thought but love, courtesy, and respect don't have to be mutually exclusive[;)]. I really thought hard about my answer to you before I posted it. As you asked, I didn't mention "getting naked" and I specifically didn't mention anything sexual. I mentioned things that I only do for Him and they are all done out of respect....respect for Him as my Owner and respect for His wishes - all of them. Evidently, I don't know how to differentiate between love, courtesy, and respect as you are indicating? I really tried[&o]. Sorry if it didn't help...............luci

TopinPa -> RE: A Show of Respect (7/25/2007 3:51:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross I'll actually ask them questions and listen to the answers. I can totally respect someone with good communication skills...it's so imporant

kyraofMists -> RE: A Show of Respect (7/25/2007 4:00:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: salilus How do you show your respect to your top/owner/dominant/master/mistress/insert-honorific-here? What things do you do or say that make it utterly clear that you respect them? I show my respect to him and our relationship by being obedient. The most disrespectful thing that I could do to him is disobey. Knight's Kyra

IvyMorgan -> RE: A Show of Respect (7/25/2007 4:21:10 PM)
Someone I/we respect gets to see al of me/us. (And I'm not meaning that in a taking my clothes off sense, I have DID.)

MadRabbit -> RE: A Show of Respect (7/25/2007 4:54:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: salilus How do you show your respect to your top/owner/dominant/master/mistress/insert-honorific-here? What things do you do or say that make it utterly clear that you respect them? Yeah...what L.A. said. The main difference between people I respect and people I dont is the lack or prescense of listening and not just simply waiting for their next turn to speak. I think of disrespect and respect to be kind of like emotions. You can sense them in people threw body language and mannerisms and the way they can act. Much like you can sense when someone is anger instantly, you can kind of sense respect or the lack of it in people as well. Its not a science. If someone has genuine respect for me, I will be able to tell. And if they dont, well...you can forget about obedience and listening.

sleazybutterfly -> RE: A Show of Respect (7/25/2007 5:04:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: salilus Thank you all for the honest answers This is my... issue... I think: most of what I've read here are things I do out of love and courtesy and not out of respect for a person. To me, there are different levels of respect, that are reserved for specific individuals. I wouldn't for instance, give the same respect to my best friend that I give to a college professor. And, I wouldn't give the same level of respect for a goofy, happy-go-lucky college professor as I would for one who was cool, calm, and in control of himself. By the way, I have asked this of my owner; I know what he expects of me. The question is out of curiousity. Your sarcasm is noted and appreciated, however. ;) Was I sarcastic and I didn't realize it? I mean don't get me wrong, I can be..but usually I realize it.[;)] Assuming that was a fast reply and not to me.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: A Show of Respect (7/25/2007 6:00:12 PM)
And it's one of my favorite things in life that I don't have to actually listen in order to make someone think I'm listening. I have no problem making someone falsely believe I respect them in order to make my life easier. Unless I actually respect them, then it's important that they know the truth. And interestingly enough, the one's I actually respect tend to be the ones who can tell the difference pretty darn easily.

BossyShoeBitch -> RE: A Show of Respect (7/25/2007 7:38:15 PM)
I agree wholeheartedly with LA, Domiguy, Luci, et al.. I listen, I try to my level best to really hear everything he is saying to me (and with my life, it's really hard to do that sometimes!) I seek out (and follow) his advice. Not because of a label but because he is by far, one of the most insightful and level headed people I have ever known (I have only known one other person as insightful as he and I lost them many years ago). quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross And it's one of my favorite things in life that I don't have to actually listen in order to make someone think I'm listening. I have no problem making someone falsely believe I respect them in order to make my life easier. Unless I actually respect them, then it's important that they know the truth. And interestingly enough, the one's I actually respect tend to be the ones who can tell the difference pretty darn easily. ROTFLMAO!! How true![sm=biggrin.gif][sm=biggrin.gif]

MadRabbit -> RE: A Show of Respect (7/25/2007 7:48:42 PM)
At one point in my life, I didnt respect anyone, not even myself. Coincedentally, I didnt listen to anyone, not even myself.

salilus -> RE: A Show of Respect (7/25/2007 8:30:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sleazybutterfly quote: ORIGINAL: salilus Thank you all for the honest answers This is my... issue... I think: most of what I've read here are things I do out of love and courtesy and not out of respect for a person. To me, there are different levels of respect, that are reserved for specific individuals. I wouldn't for instance, give the same respect to my best friend that I give to a college professor. And, I wouldn't give the same level of respect for a goofy, happy-go-lucky college professor as I would for one who was cool, calm, and in control of himself. By the way, I have asked this of my owner; I know what he expects of me. The question is out of curiousity. Your sarcasm is noted and appreciated, however. ;) Was I sarcastic and I didn't realize it? I mean don't get me wrong, I can be..but usually I realize it.[;)] Assuming that was a fast reply and not to me. Yes, it was just a fast reply. I just think sarcasm, while common, is rather cute... even when I do it.

salilus -> RE: A Show of Respect (7/25/2007 8:37:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slaveluci quote: ORIGINAL: salilus This is my... issue... I think: most of what I've read here are things I do out of love and courtesy and not out of respect for a person Just a thought but love, courtesy, and respect don't have to be mutually exclusive[;)]. I really thought hard about my answer to you before I posted it. As you asked, I didn't mention "getting naked" and I specifically didn't mention anything sexual. I mentioned things that I only do for Him and they are all done out of respect....respect for Him as my Owner and respect for His wishes - all of them. Evidently, I don't know how to differentiate between love, courtesy, and respect as you are indicating? I really tried[&o]. Sorry if it didn't help...............luci I didn't say it didn't help... even though, I wasn't really looking for help, honestly. This was a question I got thinking about and had the spare time to make a random post in a bdsm themed area on the internet. I was looking for a difference in opinions because I realised my idea of respect was... unusual after talking with my owner and a close friend. I think I'm not respectful because I don't do the things that equate respect in my mind. If anything, I'm the one that can't seem to differentiate between love, courtesy and respect.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: A Show of Respect (7/25/2007 9:13:29 PM)
Maybe because too many focus on what they DO rather than what IS? I can respect someone I hate, I can respect someone I loathe, I can respect someone in ways and have no respect for them in other ways. It's not really an all or nothing concept for me. So just because I DO something for a person, doesn't necessarily mean anything about THEM. Just like my limits don't change because of the person I'm with. It's all about ME, how I perceive them, how I intake them into my life.

slaveish -> RE: A Show of Respect (7/26/2007 7:40:28 AM)
~Fast Reply~ I always always always keep in mind that I am representing Him, whether at work, at the grocery store, or wherever I am, whatever I'm doing. If a situation calls for being more patient than I would ordinarily be, I am more patient. If I have to be tougher than I would be on my own, that is what I do. I show him my respect by bringing him honor through my actions and words, even when he would not know about them.

LaTigresse -> RE: A Show of Respect (7/26/2007 7:54:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross Maybe because too many focus on what they DO rather than what IS? I can respect someone I hate, I can respect someone I loathe, I can respect someone in ways and have no respect for them in other ways. It's not really an all or nothing concept for me. So just because I DO something for a person, doesn't necessarily mean anything about THEM. Just like my limits don't change because of the person I'm with. It's all about ME, how I perceive them, how I intake them into my life. LA, I just love how you, so often, manage to write what I was struggling to even think. Then I stop and think, yeah what she wrote! In all years and all the jobs, I have only ever respected one boss. Yet I have always gotten stellar reviews, promotions, pay increases, etc etc. Another way to describe it, I often waited tables at swanky restaurants because the tips were awsome. I didn't have to respect the patrons to give them excellent service. I did it because it was my job, I did it very well, and I benefited from doing well. Service and physical tasks certainly do not, in themself, equal respect. I am reminded of that website you once posted a link to......women writing their secret thoughts about their husbands. I would imagine the greater percentage of their spouses have no clue what the women's feelings really are because their actions at home do not show it.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: A Show of Respect (7/26/2007 7:57:56 AM)
LOL True Wife Confession! I stopped reading it because it just got really whiny without any of the good shockers. You guys are giving me too much forum love! I'm grateful for it, but you know, now I really DO think I know it all ;)

LaTigresse -> RE: A Show of Respect (7/26/2007 8:07:12 AM)
Well you do know alot. I know I have gained alot of respect for your knowledge and common sense approach to a vast array of topics on here. On the flip side, I am sure someone will come along with some sharp stick trying to poke holes in your inflating head.[:D]

ownedgirlie -> RE: A Show of Respect (7/26/2007 8:54:37 AM)
As has already been stated by another, the best way I can show my respect to my Master is to obey him. Nothing shows disrespect to him and his ownership of me stronger than if I do not obey.

imthatacheyouhav -> RE: A Show of Respect (7/26/2007 10:19:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie As has already been stated by another, the best way I can show my respect to my Master is to obey him. Nothing shows disrespect to him and his ownership of me stronger than if I do not obey. I couldn't agree more....Well said ownedgirlie....

MisPandora -> RE: A Show of Respect (7/26/2007 10:48:34 AM)
Respect is demonstrated in rather simple ways in my world. My word is respected by understanding what I say or instruct, and by carrying out my instructions and doing what I have requested. If a subject doesn't grasp what I'm asking or saying, politely asking for more explanation is appreciated. You respect my words by heeding them. My time is respected by paying attention, by being attentive to what needs to be accomplished when I'm not around, and by showing appreciation of the time that I extend to you. You respect my time by being present in your service to me. I could go on, showing how respect is shown with personal space, physical self, etc. I think this should start to illustrate that it's really in the actions and inactions that someone actually respects or disrespects you. It goes far beyond the lip service that one might be extended, and is actually demonstrated as a tangible "thing".

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