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5 spanking questions for all subs out there - 7/24/2007 10:44:44 PM   
coolhandluke450


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Status: offline 		Giving spankings has long been a favorite activity of mine, so its natural for me to have a few questions for subs about it.  Its good to "compare notes" so to speak and make sure when I do something for effect it's actually getting that desired effect...  Hopefully this isn't too many questions, but feel free to answer any of them if you don't want to answer all of them.  Thanks for the input in advance......

1.  Its not usual practice, but I always assumed if I let a sub keep a thong/g-string on the entire time while I spanked them it would significantly lower the humiliation aspect for them.  Is this the case, and does this have any other effects?

2.  When the dom takes the time in between every couple of smacks/strokes to rub/massage the cheeks does this increase the eroticism of it but lesson the punishment aspect of it?

3.  As for as the communication aspect while delivering the strokes themselves:  Do you prefer a continuing lecture/verbal beration over simply having you "count the strokes?"  (I've always assumed they did)

4.  Other than hair pulling, what are other activities you've enjoyed a dom engaging in with you while you were OTK or in another position typically thought to be exclusive to spanking?

5.  Have you ever been in bondage while OTK?  If so, which set up worked best?  (handcuffed in front, hands tied behind the back, etc.)  Personally, I've found that tieing the hands being the back can make balance a little bit tricky (not that it can't also make it fun)
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RE: 5 spanking questions for all subs out there - 7/24/2007 11:04:45 PM   
witchywoman313


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Status: offline 		1.  I guess it all depends on the context of the spanking if your intimate with the girl your spanking having the panties off and giving her a rub or touch now and then can increase the errotic nature of the spanking of course you could do the same thing with panties off.  for the most part I'm not more humiliated without panties,  the position itself can do that all on its own.  very snug thongs can have an interesting feel if they are tugged up higher read snugged into the crack.

2.  Yes, it increases the errotisism, it gives the sub a feeling of beeing cared for a bit, it also can make further spanks more of a shock, and break things up a bit, it also has a diffent emotional feel thats hard to put into words but is very desirable.

3.  Counting the strokes can be more of a "punishment" it makes the sub have to be more "there" pay attention more, less floating off.  The berating is good as well.

4.  Touching in general, playing with the genitals ( hey there there anyway) grabing a nipple now and then

5.  Handcuffed or tied in front but so that the sub can use hands for ballance is good hands behind the back takes more trust in the Dom's abilities of balance.  I also find that sitting on the bed with the sub lieing on the lap to be a great position and one that lends itself more to bondage.

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RE: 5 spanking questions for all subs out there - 7/25/2007 12:57:40 AM   
ProlificNeeds


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Status: offline 		*Keeping in mind my spankings were more of playful punishments than -real- punishments.

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1.  Its not usual practice, but I always assumed if I let a sub keep a thong/g-string on the entire time while I spanked them it would significantly lower the humiliation aspect for them.  Is this the case, and does this have any other effects?

It lowers the humiliation, and the eroticism (for me) if allowed to wear any kind of clothing other than perhaps a fetish item.(bondage garment or a corset I know is especially liked or was picked out by him)

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2.  When the dom takes the time in between every couple of smacks/strokes to rub/massage the cheeks does this increase the eroticism of it but lessen the punishment aspect of it?

I definitely found a stroke and pat was multi-purposed, it made the act definitely more personal, intimate even, it always gave me a sense of how much he enjoyed tormenting me, along with a sense of... this was for his amusement and it would go on as long as he liked. It sometimes even comes across as a bit possessive (in a good way).
I also found it kept me more sensitive to the sting of each successive blow, without rubbing of some kind I found I lost some sensation after half a dozen smacks or so. Perhaps it was just the alternating of pleasure and pain that made it feel more distinct, I'm not sure.

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3.  As for as the communication aspect while delivering the strokes themselves:  Do you prefer a continuing lecture/verbal beration over simply having you "count the strokes?"  (I've always assumed they did)

I find counting distracts from the... intensity?(not sure if that's the right word, but I can't think of a better one), I like the litany of lewd or derogatory comments, sometimes even corrupted praise, rhetorical questions or even just amused laughter at my predicament. My favorite was being mocked for liking spanking, with threats of worse punishment if I didn't start squeezing out a few apologies or tears, combination annoyance/amusement from the Dom in question.

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4.  Other than hair pulling, what are other activities you've enjoyed a dom engaging in with you while you were OTK or in another position typically thought to be exclusive to spanking?

Tickling, which doesn't last long as I end up on the floor in the fetal position.

As for #5, I was never restrained, I was expected to hold position or suffer consequences. (Of course, if he intentionally pushed me over the consequences usually just involved laughing at me.)

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RE: 5 spanking questions for all subs out there - 7/25/2007 3:37:35 AM   
Viridana


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ORIGINAL: coolhandluke450

Giving spankings has long been a favorite activity of mine, so its natural for me to have a few questions for subs about it.  Its good to "compare notes" so to speak and make sure when I do something for effect it's actually getting that desired effect...  Hopefully this isn't too many questions, but feel free to answer any of them if you don't want to answer all of them.  Thanks for the input in advance......

1.  Its not usual practice, but I always assumed if I let a sub keep a thong/g-string on the entire time while I spanked them it would significantly lower the humiliation aspect for them.  Is this the case, and does this have any other effects?

2.  When the dom takes the time in between every couple of smacks/strokes to rub/massage the cheeks does this increase the eroticism of it but lesson the punishment aspect of it?

3.  As for as the communication aspect while delivering the strokes themselves:  Do you prefer a continuing lecture/verbal beration over simply having you "count the strokes?"  (I've always assumed they did)

4.  Other than hair pulling, what are other activities you've enjoyed a dom engaging in with you while you were OTK or in another position typically thought to be exclusive to spanking?

5.  Have you ever been in bondage while OTK?  If so, which set up worked best?  (handcuffed in front, hands tied behind the back, etc.)  Personally, I've found that tieing the hands being the back can make balance a little bit tricky (not that it can't also make it fun)


1. spanking isn't a humiliation to me but more the equivalent of a foot massage after a long hard day. So I can't really answer that.

2. Spanking isn't used as a punishment in my relationship but however I do like gentle stroking over the area when into the session and the area is getting really sore. If I get a little stroking and a few seconds break I can take more.

3. I don't like any verbal communicatin during sessions. Since spanking to me is neither humiliation nor punishment, verbal abuse is pointless. I don't count the strokes either. I just enjoy the scene in silence.

4. I just enjoy the spankings. nothing more nothing less

5. Bondage is fine. It depends on what position you are in and if you are lying down, sitting down or standing. I prefer though untied and the position varies accordingly to what area of my body is to be flogged.

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RE: 5 spanking questions for all subs out there - 7/25/2007 3:59:26 AM   
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ORIGINAL: coolhandluke450

1.  Its not usual practice, but I always assumed if I let a sub keep a thong/g-string on the entire time while I spanked them it would significantly lower the humiliation aspect for them.  Is this the case, and does this have any other effects?


Spanking is not humiliating to me. If it was, I wouldn't be participating in it at all. Thong on or off is moot. Some venues require them to stay on due to legalities, some don't, and whatever happens in private is private. So tell me, does spanking have to be humiliating to you? Cause to me, it's the way we share different aspects of how we feel toward each other. And that's all good.

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2.  When the dom takes the time in between every couple of smacks/strokes to rub/massage the cheeks does this increase the eroticism of it but lesson the punishment aspect of it?


Spanking is not punishment to me either. So even as the first hit is thrown, there is eroticism. That increases throughout the session. Stroking changes things up a bit which allows me to "catch up" to what he's doing and I can go farther, take more, become more turned on. Orgasms during spankings is not uncommon for me, so that in itself kinda shoots the whole punishment aspect of it right in the ass so to speak. I belong to someone who does this because it makes him feel good, because it's thrilling, exciting and just plain fun. If I didn't like what he was doing and merely endured, he wouldn't be doing it.  So again, the idea of punishment is moot for me.

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3.  As for as the communication aspect while delivering the strokes themselves:  Do you prefer a continuing lecture/verbal beration over simply having you "count the strokes?"  (I've always assumed they did)


Again, lectures, verbal beration, etc... moot. And I don't count either. I am his canvas. He paints his artwork on my body as he sees fit. It's not about punishmment, making me feel bad or some misplaced idea that I should be contrite about something. If he needs to correct me, we talk. We don't mistake our play with any other issues we may be having in our relationship. Verbally berate me and as soon as I can, I'm picking up my stuff and going home. We won't be going out again.

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4.  Other than hair pulling, what are other activities you've enjoyed a dom engaging in with you while you were OTK or in another position typically thought to be exclusive to spanking?


spanking, whips, canes, pulling my hair, pressing himself against me as I orgasm, stroking, paddles, flogging, cats, and these really nasty sticks. It's ALL good.

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5.  Have you ever been in bondage while OTK?  If so, which set up worked best?  (handcuffed in front, hands tied behind the back, etc.)  Personally, I've found that tieing the hands being the back can make balance a little bit tricky (not that it can't also make it fun)


I am able to do more, go farther, take more, when I'm bound. It's a mindset more than anything. Hands away from my body, either in front or raised over my head. We have this neat leather strap that binds my feet close together so I'm unable to "soften" the blows by spreading my legs. A lovely little tool.

Interesting how much of spanking is presumed to be universal when in actuality, people's preferences are quite varied. You presume we like humiliation and punishment, yet at least for me, this couldn't be farther from the truth.

juliet

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RE: 5 spanking questions for all subs out there - 7/25/2007 4:05:09 AM   
WickedWench


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Status: offline 		1. I don't experience spanking as humiliation. Spanking is what we do when we're relaxing on the settee watching tv or chatting.

2. Spanking isn't used as punishment in my relationship because I like it. Sometimes it's enjoyable to be stroked between strokes, but I enjoy him giving me a good beating too. Either way spanking is always done for fun here.

3. No counting strokes and no lecturing (well, maybe the odd mock lecture) here.

4. I didn't know there were positions thought to be exclusive to spanking. We do all kinds of things in all kinds of positions, including spanking.

5. Just while OTK? I've had my hands tied or cuffed behind my back and I have been in a straight-jacket.

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RE: 5 spanking questions for all subs out there - 7/25/2007 4:30:44 AM   
Daddysjezzy


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Status: offline 		1.  I dont find being spanked humiliating so what Im wearing or not wearing is irrelevant most of the time.  Im so focussed on the sensations of the spanking that I dont really think about anything else.

2.  Taking time out to rub my skin can increase the eroticism or it can draw out the length of time of punishment depending on what Master is trying to do.  Sometimes its more painful waiting for that paddle to hit your skin than the actual blow.

3.  I love counting the strokes and having to say thank you for each and every one and ask for another.  In terms of punishment having to say thank you for it is particularly galling.  And asking for more is truly the icing on the cake.

4.  We both love rough anal sex during a spanking.  Oh sorry I just noticed you specifically asked about OTK. 

5.  I had my breasts bound during OTK.  I was also spanked by handcuffed naked to the back of a pick up truck in a public place but again that wasnt OTK.

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RE: 5 spanking questions for all subs out there - 7/25/2007 8:05:25 AM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		Spanking isn't humiliating to me. Nor is it punishment so he doesn't lecture during it except for roleplaying naughty school girl. I normally don't have to count the strokes because he doesn't want to have to get to a certain number, if he wants to stop at 17 he just will. Yes, rubbing between is nice, lessens the sting and allows me to breathe before the next swat. I'm often tied up, he's had my arms tied to my sides, my legs tied together and me bent over the bed so he can spank. Arms and legs tied to the four legs of the coffee table, more positions available if you don't stick to OTK.

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RE: 5 spanking questions for all subs out there - 7/25/2007 8:27:36 AM   
mercifulsiren


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ORIGINAL: coolhandluke450

Giving spankings has long been a favorite activity of mine, so its natural for me to have a few questions for subs about it.  Its good to "compare notes" so to speak and make sure when I do something for effect it's actually getting that desired effect...  Hopefully this isn't too many questions, but feel free to answer any of them if you don't want to answer all of them.  Thanks for the input in advance......

1.  Its not usual practice, but I always assumed if I let a sub keep a thong/g-string on the entire time while I spanked them it would significantly lower the humiliation aspect for them.  Is this the case, and does this have any other effects?

2.  When the dom takes the time in between every couple of smacks/strokes to rub/massage the cheeks does this increase the eroticism of it but lesson the punishment aspect of it?

3.  As for as the communication aspect while delivering the strokes themselves:  Do you prefer a continuing lecture/verbal beration over simply having you "count the strokes?"  (I've always assumed they did)

4.  Other than hair pulling, what are other activities you've enjoyed a dom engaging in with you while you were OTK or in another position typically thought to be exclusive to spanking?

5.  Have you ever been in bondage while OTK?  If so, which set up worked best?  (handcuffed in front, hands tied behind the back, etc.)  Personally, I've found that tieing the hands being the back can make balance a little bit tricky (not that it can't also make it fun)


1.  Personally, I don't really care.  I've never found it humiliating to be nude while I'm being spanked.  To me, it makes no difference what so ever.

2.  For me, rubbing/massaging seems like they're warming up the spot, which makes it hurt more, and seem more erotic because I like the pain.

3.  I prefer being told what I did while I'm being punished.  It's a reminder of what not to do again.

4.  If you're going to spank me, take away my hands so that I can't fight back, because I will.  It's just instinct for me.  Make sure that my hands are busy or bound in some way.  This way you can punish me and there's nothign I can do but take it.

5.  Personally, I've not really been bound, for punishment or otherwise, so I really can't answer this question for you.

PS... The role of Siren is now temporarily being played by her partner Erato.


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RE: 5 spanking questions for all subs out there - 7/25/2007 8:43:03 AM   
eratosservant


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RE: 5 spanking questions for all subs out there - 7/25/2007 9:48:05 AM   
CrazyC


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ORIGINAL: coolhandluke450

Giving spankings has long been a favorite activity of mine, so its natural for me to have a few questions for subs about it.  Its good to "compare notes" so to speak and make sure when I do something for effect it's actually getting that desired effect...  Hopefully this isn't too many questions, but feel free to answer any of them if you don't want to answer all of them.  Thanks for the input in advance......

1.  Its not usual practice, but I always assumed if I let a sub keep a thong/g-string on the entire time while I spanked them it would significantly lower the humiliation aspect for them.  Is this the case, and does this have any other effects?

Maybe because i am a nudest at heart...it really doesn't matter. Only because i just experienced though...getting spanked by someone i am not interested in....i will keep my panties on.

2.  When the dom takes the time in between every couple of smacks/strokes to rub/massage the cheeks does this increase the eroticism of it but lesson the punishment aspect of it?

Rubbing for me makes me be able to take the spanking alot longer. It also seems very affectionate so it does make it more erotic.

3.  As for as the communication aspect while delivering the strokes themselves:  Do you prefer a continuing lecture/verbal beration over simply having you "count the strokes?"  (I've always assumed they did)

Nope. I like being talked to be degraded to an extent, but not the whole time. It would actually be irritating.

4.  Other than hair pulling, what are other activities you've enjoyed a dom engaging in with you while you were OTK or in another position typically thought to be exclusive to spanking?

OTK? I have had some breath play done which is erotic for me.

5.  Have you ever been in bondage while OTK?  If so, which set up worked best?  (handcuffed in front, hands tied behind the back, etc.)  Personally, I've found that tieing the hands being the back can make balance a little bit tricky (not that it can't also make it fun)

The only time i have been spanked and tied up, I was on the cross.


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RE: 5 spanking questions for all subs out there - 7/25/2007 9:54:04 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		Master has play, displine and punishment spanking since you said punishment i will answer for that one.

1.  Spanking is not a humilation for me, but i am not allowed to wear anything when i get one.

2.Sometime he takes time in between to rub or stroke, it does increase the eroticsm without reducing the punishment of it

3.For as displine i have to count the strokes, for a punishment i have to count the strokes and thank him.  I perfer the counting over any lecture.

4.No Comment

5.I can't remember ever being in bondage while being spanked

Matt's littleone

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RE: 5 spanking questions for all subs out there - 7/25/2007 10:25:00 AM   
coolhandluke450


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Status: offline 		It's been very interesting to read some of the replies here.  I suppose there are many reasons someone could be attracted to spanking, and everyone is slightly different.  I've dealt with mostly spankos, and spanking is never a punishment to them.....

My fiance loved spanking simply for the erotic elements of it.  In fact, it is a treat and not a punishment for her.  We engage in a lot of role playing (cops and robbers, teacher/student, etc.) and spanking always plays a big part in it.  She liked to be talked to while doing it as it reinforces that particular role play. 
She demanded to be spanked before we'd ever even been intimate, so the first time she was nude in my presence (which was for a spanking) she was very embarassed and felt much more submissive while doing it.  After she was used to being naked in front of me (and we'd been intimate) it wasn't any more of a big deal to be naked or partially clothed for a spanking.

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RE: 5 spanking questions for all subs out there - 7/25/2007 11:07:33 AM   
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ORIGINAL: coolhandluke450

My fiance loved spanking simply for the erotic elements of it.  In fact, it is a treat and not a punishment for her.  We engage in a lot of role playing (cops and robbers, teacher/student, etc.) and spanking always plays a big part in it.  She liked to be talked to while doing it as it reinforces that particular role play. 
She demanded to be spanked before we'd ever even been intimate, so the first time she was nude in my presence (which was for a spanking) she was very embarassed and felt much more submissive while doing it.  After she was used to being naked in front of me (and we'd been intimate) it wasn't any more of a big deal to be naked or partially clothed for a spanking.


Then, I'm kind of confused. I may be wrong, but from your initial post, it seemed as if you thought/believed/presumed/whatever that most of us who are the "spankees" do this because of the humiliation/punishment factor. Your experience as related here speaks of something much different.

Now, the flip side to this (and one, I guess would lend itself to humiliation/punishment ideas) is the whole thing about role playing. For us, role playing is not even a consideration. He is who he is. I am who I am. We engage in what we do because we enjoy what it is we do - nothing more, nothing less.

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RE: 5 spanking questions for all subs out there - 7/25/2007 12:22:23 PM   
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ORIGINAL: coolhandluke450

1.  Its not usual practice, but I always assumed if I let a sub keep a thong/g-string on the entire time while I spanked them it would significantly lower the humiliation aspect for them.  Is this the case, and does this have any other effects?

Spankings aren't humiliating in the slightest for me so the addition or removal of clothing wouldn't change the humiliation level at all. The only thing that makes something humiliating for me are the words that come out of Valyraen's mouth. Depending on how he feels and what he says an activity that could be very humiliating on Monday but on Tuesday we could do the same thing while he praises me for being a good Kitten.
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2.  When the dom takes the time in between every couple of smacks/strokes to rub/massage the cheeks does this increase the eroticism of it but lesson the punishment aspect of it?

I suppose it depends on how roughly he does it. It makes me feel more cared for.
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3.  As for as the communication aspect while delivering the strokes themselves:  Do you prefer a continuing lecture/verbal beration over simply having you "count the strokes?"  (I've always assumed they did)

Couldn't answer. Valyraen doesn't believe in corporal punishment so the most I ever get for a punishment is one or two hard smacks. I never get lectured during a spanking - just whatever dirty talk he feels like saying.
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4.  Other than hair pulling, what are other activities you've enjoyed a dom engaging in with you while you were OTK or in another position typically thought to be exclusive to spanking?

Find the little man in the canoe...
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5.  Have you ever been in bondage while OTK?  If so, which set up worked best?  (handcuffed in front, hands tied behind the back, etc.)  Personally, I've found that tieing the hands being the back can make balance a little bit tricky (not that it can't also make it fun)

Nope, at least not that I recall.

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RE: 5 spanking questions for all subs out there - 7/25/2007 12:25:23 PM   
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ORIGINAL: coolhandluke450

It's been very interesting to read some of the replies here.  I suppose there are many reasons someone could be attracted to spanking, and everyone is slightly different.  I've dealt with mostly spankos, and spanking is never a punishment to them.....



Just curious - Why was the OP written in punishment terms then?

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RE: 5 spanking questions for all subs out there - 7/25/2007 1:24:25 PM   
feastie


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ORIGINAL: coolhandluke450

Giving spankings has long been a favorite activity of mine, so its natural for me to have a few questions for subs about it.  Its good to "compare notes" so to speak and make sure when I do something for effect it's actually getting that desired effect...  Hopefully this isn't too many questions, but feel free to answer any of them if you don't want to answer all of them.  Thanks for the input in advance......

1.  Its not usual practice, but I always assumed if I let a sub keep a thong/g-string on the entire time while I spanked them it would significantly lower the humiliation aspect for them.  Is this the case, and does this have any other effects?

In my relationships, spankings are a tool of eroticism ... they are reserved for good girls only, so there is no humiliation to them at all.  I have to earn my spankings.

2.  When the dom takes the time in between every couple of smacks/strokes to rub/massage the cheeks does this increase the eroticism of it but lesson the punishment aspect of it?

Rubbing or caressing is nice between swats, but as it hasn't anything to do with punishment, it doesn't do anything but increase the eroticism of it.

3.  As for as the communication aspect while delivering the strokes themselves:  Do you prefer a continuing lecture/verbal beration over simply having you "count the strokes?"  (I've always assumed they did)

Again, not punishment, so there won't be any lecture or counting the strokes.  Well, I take that back ... there are times when I've had to count strokes just to keep me in this plane and not flying off to another.

4.  Other than hair pulling, what are other activities you've enjoyed a dom engaging in with you while you were OTK or in another position typically thought to be exclusive to spanking?

OTK is a great time to insert a small buttplug or other toy, or play with the pink parts, what-have-you.

5.  Have you ever been in bondage while OTK?  If so, which set up worked best?  (handcuffed in front, hands tied behind the back, etc.)  Personally, I've found that tieing the hands being the back can make balance a little bit tricky (not that it can't also make it fun)

Hands cuffed or tied in front.


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RE: 5 spanking questions for all subs out there - 7/25/2007 1:34:29 PM   
MagiksSlave


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ORIGINAL: coolhandluke450

Giving spankings has long been a favorite activity of mine, so its natural for me to have a few questions for subs about it.  Its good to "compare notes" so to speak and make sure when I do something for effect it's actually getting that desired effect...  Hopefully this isn't too many questions, but feel free to answer any of them if you don't want to answer all of them.  Thanks for the input in advance......

1.  Its not usual practice, but I always assumed if I let a sub keep a thong/g-string on the entire time while I spanked them it would significantly lower the humiliation aspect for them.  Is this the case, and does this have any other effects?

2.  When the dom takes the time in between every couple of smacks/strokes to rub/massage the cheeks does this increase the eroticism of it but lesson the punishment aspect of it?

3.  As for as the communication aspect while delivering the strokes themselves:  Do you prefer a continuing lecture/verbal beration over simply having you "count the strokes?"  (I've always assumed they did)

4.  Other than hair pulling, what are other activities you've enjoyed a dom engaging in with you while you were OTK or in another position typically thought to be exclusive to spanking?

5.  Have you ever been in bondage while OTK?  If so, which set up worked best?  (handcuffed in front, hands tied behind the back, etc.)  Personally, I've found that tieing the hands being the back can make balance a little bit tricky (not that it can't also make it fun)


From the threads you have started Im a bit confused, I dont know if you are talking about real punishment for doing something very wrong  which neather Dom nore sub should or do enjoy (if its an actual punishment it means that both have failed in some way and it isnt a fun thing, or something eather want to do ) or play punishment role play in which case both parties enjoy it... Im thinking your talking about the secent one...... At least in question 2.. when you talk about if it is less of a punishment, I know for me haveing my bottom rubed during a punishment or really anything comferting during a punishment does nothing to minamise the punishment at all, the fact that Im beeing punished is all that matters so no matter how hard or mean the actual punishment is doesnt really make a difference, the only thing something like haveing my bottom rubed between strokes really ever does is re astablish a connection between Master and myself, makes me know that even though im beeing punished things are still ok and Im still cared for... but thats for an actual punishment, play punishments I dont see how it would really make much of a difference it is what ever both enjoy.

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RE: 5 spanking questions for all subs out there - 7/25/2007 1:36:42 PM   
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Just so that everyone knows, that post up there was me.  There was a mix up as to who was logged in.  Sorry about that!


what post was you???

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RE: 5 spanking questions for all subs out there - 7/25/2007 2:53:44 PM   
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