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MasterMataeo -> RE: Unusual Submissive Fetishes (7/27/2007 6:41:19 AM)

oh how does the saying go,,:::   Try anything once,, Twice if you like it,, Three times to make sure,, and well Four makes it a habit,, and i beleive if you cant stop thinking about it  it becomes a Fetish,,,




LaTigresse -> RE: Unusual Submissive Fetishes (7/27/2007 11:02:56 AM)

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ORIGINAL: kittinSol
Siighhhhhhhhhhhhhhh... how I wish I could be yours, Tigresse.


TO THE FARM!!!




ErusDespicienta -> RE: Unusual Submissive Fetishes (7/27/2007 12:40:14 PM)

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ORIGINAL: GhitaAmati

Ok, this gets me too....let me first say that Ive never done anything sexuall with an animal...oh...except that one time I went horseback riding with a plug in..but thats different...

All these people who talk about how its wrong to do K9 sex because the dog didnt consent, did they really go ask the cow permission to kill and butcher it the last time they had a hamburger?? (and yes...im a rare steak eating, compleatly non-vegitarian sub) Say you are against killing animals to eat...did you ask that chicken permission before stealing its eggs for your morning omelette?? What about the ant spray you just bought, did you ask the insects if its ok for you to spray raid on their homes??


There is a standing ovation over here !!!!! 




lighthearted -> RE: Unusual Submissive Fetishes (7/27/2007 8:33:36 PM)

I have a thing for men's armpits.  they fascinate me, I don't know why.  don't really think that qualifies as a fetish, but if I had a little more leeway...hehe...who knows?




Rafters -> RE: Unusual Submissive Fetishes (7/28/2007 7:10:59 PM)

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ORIGINAL: lighthearted
I have a thing for men's armpits.  they fascinate me, I don't know why.  don't really think that qualifies as a fetish, but if I had a little more leeway...hehe...who knows?


Blame your hormones interacting with his Pheromones

http://www.abc.net.au/science/news/stories/s888984.htm
http://www.salon.com/health/sex/urge/world/2000/04/17/sweat/index.html

Allegedly the perfume biz, recruits professional "people sniffers". Who snort the armpits of a queue of sweaty test subjects as before, after or control [:D]




lighthearted -> RE: Unusual Submissive Fetishes (7/28/2007 7:43:26 PM)

not sniffing...just looking and touching.  which is equally odd, I suppose.




Padriag -> RE: Unusual Submissive Fetishes (7/28/2007 8:34:00 PM)

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ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty

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ORIGINAL: goddessAVA
What I have witnessed in my very limited experience watching M/f interactions seems to be more about tpe, bondage, physical torment, mental control, not the goofy raunchy stuff I described-just curious.


I think, for the most part, you are correct.  This may be because, in general, women are more focused on submission as a feeling, where men focus on submission as an act.  Also, I think, perhaps, that men in the lifestyle are a bit more aggressive in persuing their kinks, wheras a woman will seek to do what they think will please their dominant.

Very good observation, I agree.  Men seem more likely to fixate on objects then women from what I've observed, with one exception.  I've met a number of women with food fetishes, ice cream, strawberries, bananas, etc.  Knew one girl who could almost have an orgasm just eating strawberries, another who had this thing about doing kinky things with candy (like making a flogger from licorice laces then flogging her with it and eating it afterwards, I kid you not).  Have also known several women with foot fetishes, specifically sucking on toes.  Never have figured out the reason behind that pattern.

On a side note regarding a certain other topic.  I've noticed that people will come up with a surprising array of rationales to explain away something that makes them uncomfortable.  People find something disturbing, and subscribe to endless rationales for why its wrong, should be banned, etc.  And just as that gets applied to certain taboo fetishes within the lifestyle, the same "reasoning" has been applied to the lifestyle itself from those outside it (those who find this lifestyle disturbing), whether that be feminists who cannot fathom the idea of a woman submitting to a man for any reason, or a court that cannot comprehend someone wanting to be tied up and whipped or spanked.  Yet people consent to these things and we can observe the evidence of that consent easily... that where individuals engage in something willingly and without coercion, they have consented... regardless of species.  That some things are very unusual and/or taboo, I do not dispute.  That some things are beyond what some of us can or would find enjoyable I also do not dispute.  That something is wrong simply because it disturbs you, that I dispute.




Rafters -> RE: Unusual Submissive Fetishes (7/29/2007 12:13:52 AM)

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ORIGINAL: lighthearted
not sniffing...just looking and touching.  which is equally odd, I suppose.


It's a ticklish erogenous zone, that will invoke feelings in the person you touch there.
There is method in your choice of madness [:D]




SwitchMaleChgo -> RE: Unusual Submissive Fetishes (7/29/2007 12:57:53 AM)

I dated a woman who I thought had an unusual focus on urine. Well, actually the relationship became an unusual focus on urine but SHE STARTED IT :) ! Often I would piss in her ass and she would take it the bathroom for me. Said it was an honor for her. We were always 'in play' for that but other things became simple routine things. When I'd go to the bathroom it became automatic for her to follow me, stand behind me, and hold it for me. Said she liked the vibration of the pee coming out (something I guess I just don't feel after decades of peeing). She'd take a bath and if I had to pee I'd go in and pee in her bath water. I know none of this is all that shocking but in retrospect it seems odd because it was 'ordinary'. I might be peeing in her bath while we asked each other if one of us set up the coffee pot for the morning.




SwitchMaleChgo -> RE: Unusual Submissive Fetishes (7/29/2007 12:59:20 AM)

Oh crap. Just ignore this post. Im editing a non-relavant mistake I made. [:@]




MissAidan -> RE: Unusual Submissive Fetishes (7/29/2007 2:05:22 PM)

I have a couple of fetishes that, at least according to some of the folks locally, are a bit weird.  I'll say first that I do have a submissive side, just takes the right person to bring it out of me.  Two of them are for bodily fluids...blood (pretty much just my own), which goes hand in hand with knife play for me, and cum *blushes*.  And I have one for "humiliating" and "degrading" names, espcially during sex, to the point that not having them can sometimes interfere with having an orgasm.  Perhaps not as odd or severe as some of what male subbies tend to be in to, but odd and a bit extreme compared to the girls I know around here.  Just my two cents.




Kartusch -> RE: Unusual Submissive Fetishes (7/29/2007 2:27:40 PM)

While they may not quite be fetisihes, I do have  particular things for men's hair (underarm, facial, chest , etc..) and their calves.  I am way more likely to turn my head at a guy passing by with impressivly sculpted facial hair or large rounded calves than I ever am a societal ideal handsome man.  Not freakishly odd, but still odd enough that I get raised eyebrows from both of them when I tell them.. 




Aswad -> RE: Unusual Submissive Fetishes (7/29/2007 5:36:40 PM)

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ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty

Now I am sure someone will come into this thread with a story of some CRAZY woman who could only come when she douched with Aqua-Velva while a dominant played "Istanbul was Constantinople" on the penny whistle, but I hold that, for the most part, men have far more bizarre fetishes.


Or admit to them more readily, and pursue them more readily.

If fetishes are learned, it is also possible that a difference in sex drive causes a difference in the number of internalized sexual triggers. Of course, there is a big difference between a fetish in the sense of "only way of getting off", and a fetish in the sense of "like this in a sexual way", or "like this, period".




Aswad -> RE: Unusual Submissive Fetishes (7/29/2007 5:51:46 PM)

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ORIGINAL: goddessAVA

To me, its no better then what Micheal Vick was into-an animal cannot consent (obviously)


Just how, exactly, is mangling animals for your own entertainment the same as allowing an animal to mount a human without coercion? This argument reduces to absurdity: if an animal cannot consent in any way, then they must be prevented from sexual contact with their own kind, and thus become extinct. That position is untenable.

An animal can consent, at its own level, to these kinds of things, but it takes extra care on part of the human to discern consent from nonconsent. The way different animals give consent differs, but most animals are basically sluts; popular ones certainly are. If a male animal attempts to mount a human woman, that is just as much consent on the animal's part, as a human male trying to mount a human woman is on his part.

I mean, if a man and woman are in bed, clothes off, and he starts to attempt to penetrate, I really cannot for the life of me imagine her stopping him to ask "Are you sure you are willing to give informed consent to having sex with me? Perhaps we should stop and discuss the terms of consent, here."

If either party is not feeling coerced, and does not like something, they will let the other party know. That's how it works with humans, and actually also how it works with most kinds of animal. A dog will yelp or try to pull away, or bite, or whatever. A horse will buck and perhaps even try to crush your skull, most likely succeeding at that.

Coercion or force remains rape, regardless of species.




Aswad -> RE: Unusual Submissive Fetishes (7/29/2007 6:21:05 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MilkMaidDomme

The problem with your rationale is that animals do not possess the same thought processes that we do, therefore they are not able to reason and simply act on instinct. 


By your rationale, where does one draw the line?
The line between instinct and reason is thin, and ill defined.
Most animals reason to some extent, as shown in experiments.
The degree of reasoning, however, varies, just as it does for humans.
Our only advantage in this regard is the added sixth layer of the neocortex.

At one point, when I was pretty damn arrogant, I felt that no person with less than at least one sigma above average intelligence should be allowed to have sex. Ever. That would be as reasonable a demand as any demand that human standards of reasoning should be applied to animals. In time, I came to see the folly of both. A being puts as much into sexual contact as they can comprehend. The only consequences that could conceivably be relevant that require higher reasoning are offspring, STDs and various accidents that can happen. All of these can be offloaded on one of the parties.

Humans are creatures of instinct and habit, as much as any other animal (and, yes, we are animals, little different from apes). Did you reason your way into the lifestyle? Or did your "heart" (instincts/urges) lead you here? Does every aspect of your sexuality fit in a model devised by your rational mind? If not, then you're arguing from a very weak position if you wish to posit that these demands should be placed on others.

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I will probably end up receiving email telling me what a narrow minded b*tch I am, but it is my opinion that K9, horses, sheep, cows..whatever animal is in question,  is just another way to exploit innocent and unsuspecting animals.  [8|]


Frequently, it is. No argument there. Particularly when the human is male.

Similarly, a lot of human sexual relations are just another way for cynical men to exploit innocent and unsuspecting women. Peer pressure and other factors come to mind. But from nature, we are set up in a certain way. While you can expect humans to act like divine, omniscient beings, that's just setting yourself up for disappointment. And coddling them by "protecting" them from "inappropriate" relations is just depriving them of freedom.

But let's stick with horses, for instance, as you mentioned those.

There are two options: either they cannot consent, period, and should not be allowed to engage in relations with other horses, but rather be condemned to extinction because it is the moral thing to do, or they have a concept of consent that is adequate to their needs and concerns. In the latter case, they have the ability to apply this concept. If one assumes extinguishing every species that cannot be proven to have a human capacity for consent is unviable, then we are left with an option that implies that they can judge for themselves, as no western morals I am familiar with allow a guardian to determine that sex shall occur.

Now, if they can judge for themselves, that leaves the matter of communication.

In the instance of horses, they are huge, prone to kicking, and quite able to crush bone and even skulls, if they wish. In fact, they often do so if frightened, provided the people around aren't smart enough to stay out of the way up front. Horses are skittish. There is simply no way you can get behind or under a horse without either exercising so much force that it is clearly rape, or otherwise leaving it with the option of harming, injuring or killing you at its own discretion. If you've been with horses (in the regular sense, I mean; riding, caring for, that sort of thing), then you already know this.

It is clear that, in this scenario, the human party is at risk, and depends entirely on the horse trusting said human and agreeing to the interaction in question. But the human party has the capacity to give informed consent, we will assume. So, in the end, you either get a human who didn't get any, in some state of health that may or may not be similar to the one they started out with, or you get a human and a horse who are both happy about what happened.

From talking to people who do this kind of thing (I do not, FYI), it takes a lot of time to "court" most animals.

And, note, I do not condone coercing or forcing an animal to do anything that isn't necessary to retain its health (e.g. taking it to the vet), nor harming, injuring or killing one in any way, nor exposing one to risk of such things. Yet if one relates to them at their own level, rather than holding them to human standards (which would be demonic, as any dog owner whose dog has "felt responsible" for domestic problems beyond the scope of its comprehension will tell you), then it becomes apparent that there are a wide range of relations and activities an animal can enjoy.

Taking them for a stroll is only one of the options.

Which ones are available, depend on your own inclinations.




Aswad -> RE: Unusual Submissive Fetishes (7/29/2007 6:23:59 PM)

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ORIGINAL: proudsub

I'm sure there are quite a few on these boards with that interest, but it is against the TOS to discuss it, that's why it is seldom brought up.


A reasonable prevalence estimate is about 15% among women.

That said, the mods seem able to distinguish between what's on the theoretical side of the line and what's on the legally dubious side of the line. No reasonable community outlaws debate as to what should and should not be allowed in the world, and CM tends to do a good job of toeing the line without exposing themselves to legal risk.




sapphirepleasure -> RE: Unusual Submissive Fetishes (7/29/2007 6:29:52 PM)

I can't believe this thread hasn't been pulled.  What happened to the TOS?




curvyslavegirl -> RE: Unusual Submissive Fetishes (7/29/2007 6:32:30 PM)

I've never understood while intellectual discussion about any topic is banned. Personally, I believe that things that are banned from action should NEVER be banned from discussion. Otherwise who is that overseer who gets to decide what is right and wrong? Are we meant to just assume that because someone once decided that a topic is "bad" that we should just assume they were correct and not revisit the topic? No matter how odd or perverse I find something, it always should remain in the vocabulary of possible discourse.




Aswad -> RE: Unusual Submissive Fetishes (7/29/2007 6:45:09 PM)

Perhaps the mods decided there's a difference between discussing abstract issues (morality, psychology, statistics, etc.) and actually crossing the line into bestiality. The former is legal, the latter is not, so closing down topics that touch the latter makes sense (good of the many, i.e. keeping CM up), while closing down topics that are about the former is detrimental without serving a purpose.

I don't get the impression the rules are arbitrary, just that they are phrased broadly enough to avoid argument if something is too close to the line for comfort.

In this case, I think the thread has stayed on the right side of the line so far.




Aswad -> RE: Unusual Submissive Fetishes (7/29/2007 6:55:00 PM)

Very well put, curvyslavegirl. [sm=applause.gif]

The following section was particularly insightful, IMO, and bears repeating:

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Personally, I believe that things that are banned from action should NEVER be banned from discussion. Otherwise who is that overseer who gets to decide what is right and wrong?


Exactly. These are the checks and balances, and the means by which society reminds itself why something is wrong, or determines that it isn't, depending on the prevailing mindset of the day. Forgetting this quickly leads to a terminal lack of social hygiene, and regimes that are effectively theocratic in nature, in any society.

Being able to discuss something is not the same as doing it, or even condoning it.
It is just covering the grounds for views about something.

The reason why most boards put these things in the TOS (I used to put in similar clauses myself, back in the BBS days) is because the law prohibits sexually explicit materials, including writing, dealing with zoophilia. Sometimes, the line can be fuzzy, so one leaves a bit of leeway in order to avoid arguments when something gets shut down. The point is still usually just to avoid having people cross the line.

Posting experiences, hints, tips and the like would be crossing that line in many jurisdictions.

Posting debate about the morality and legality of it in abstract terms is not.




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