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Plain Ol' Sex. - 6/26/2005 5:18:45 PM

fourpeas

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So...

I am just posing this as a question:

How does sex move you? And in what ways?

My experience with sex is that it is something I long for and adore... yet even when I have mind-blowing, amazing, orgasmic, hot sex with someone whom I love...

... It's still just sex at the end of the day, and I don't ferel dysfunctional or anything feeling that sex just doesn't always "hit the only spot" for me. What really does it for me is pleasing my Dom. It makes me feel awesome. I get so raunchy and dirty when I am pleasing him and it is wonderful... I crave to be close to him and to be sexual with him but I just don't know if I crave it in the same way that he does. I definitely don't feel it is the primary way I show love.

I am just wanting to throw this out there and talk with other people about it.

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RE: Plain Ol' Sex. - 6/26/2005 5:38:41 PM

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I'm not a submissive, but the topic caught my eye. I'll have to say that I do engage in plain ol' sex on a regular basis, even in the missionary position with my boy on top.

It might not be the ultimate image in dominance, but it's absolutely beautiful to see his gorgeous devoted eyes staring into mine as he slowly makes love to me, his Mistress.

I know I say it often, but I very much seperate the act from the dynamic. D/s to me goes well with S&M or bondage or any other kinky act but it is inherently a very different thing. One can exist without the other.

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RE: Plain Ol' Sex. - 6/26/2005 7:07:51 PM

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quote:

I crave to be close to him and to be sexual with him but I just don't know if I crave it in the same way that he does. I definitely don't feel it is the primary way I show love.

You don't crave it in the same way he does because you are female and he is male. But who cares? As long as you are both being fulfilled in your relationship, that is all that matters.

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RE: Plain Ol' Sex. - 6/26/2005 7:53:49 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

I know I say it often, but I very much seperate the act from the dynamic. D/s to me goes well with S&M or bondage or any other kinky act but it is inherently a very different thing. One can exist without the other.

- LA

I totally agree that plain ole vanilla sex does exist outside of the D/s relationship. I love doing both with my Master, but ultimately I do whichever one is going to please my Master.
I don't think that sex is the primary reason that people fall in love or stay in love. Love is shown in many different ways and through many different acts. Sex is just one of the great benefits!!

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RE: Plain Ol' Sex. - 6/26/2005 8:12:18 PM

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I totally agree that plain ole vanilla sex does exist outside of the D/s relationship.

Actually, what I was trying to say is that plain ol' sex can exist within a D/s relationship. I never used the word vanilla because I don't really believe I am capable of vanilla because as I said, it's not about acts but about mindset.

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RE: Plain Ol' Sex. - 6/26/2005 9:44:36 PM

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Sex is a physical language. Verbal language uses words to illustrate emotions.. and similarly sex uses actions to do the same. Plain Ol' Sex, as you so eloquently put it, for me.. expresses something much less powerful than more extreme sexual acts. Therefor, I would rarely desire it over fetish sex. Still though, you could not get the same emotions from CBT for example, as you could the missionary position. I guess my point is, though it's not as exciting or passionate for most of us... normal sex is part of the complete physical language and just as necessary as BDSM.

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RE: Plain Ol' Sex. - 6/28/2005 8:27:56 AM

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I love sex, I consider sexual energy to be my "wellspring." When I feel low energy, masturbating or connecting sexually with someone recharges me.

Missionary is actually my favorite sexual position.

Ds can still occur sitting down watching TV just as much as it occurs in a dungeon with shackles and just as much as it occurs in bed in any position with or without any toys.

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