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Kittykitkat19 -> Slave to him or to myself (7/27/2007 2:27:28 PM)
I am a strong indpendant women I know what I want out of life and they type of master I would want for a long period of time. But I have found a man who I want to please who it hurts me when I don't please him, I still put my school and my daughter first that has not chaanged. Yet I can't deny this man anything. If it was any other man I would not let them do certin things that I dislike but I am willing to learn to like them for him. He is just a man a vanilla really but I want to submit to him, I already feel like I am his and no other. I have never felt this way before and still am slightly new to the life style if any one has any questions or think they can be of help to me please message me I would be most greatful.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Slave to him or to myself (7/27/2007 2:29:24 PM)
I'm not sure what your question really is. I'd say just take it slow and keep expectations in line with reason and reality.

Kittykitkat19 -> RE: Slave to him or to myself (7/27/2007 2:49:07 PM)
ok Are masters just that or are they husbands fathers boyfriends and such as well, do you love your master in the way you would love these type of men, even if say you master were poor and that is not the kind of man you want to marry but you could couldn't deny him service.. ack I can't put into words what I want to know

slaveish -> RE: Slave to him or to myself (7/27/2007 2:50:18 PM)
Give yourself time to get over the "honeymoon". He is a man, like all other men and he will have his good days and bad, as will you. Don't lose your common sense in the heat of the moment, don't neglect your current friends for his sake, and do not isolate yourself. Other than that, enjoy. ~smiling~

slaveish -> RE: Slave to him or to myself (7/27/2007 2:52:12 PM)
Masters can be anyone. You don't have to want to marry him, don't have to want to procreate with him. Whatever the dynamic is, it is yours and his to decide. There aren't any rules you have to follow (within the community) except the rules you make together.

BRNaughtyAngel -> RE: Slave to him or to myself (7/27/2007 3:05:27 PM)
You say he is vanilla. The one thing you may find is that he is perfectly willing to have you submit to his will, but he may not want or even be prepared to give you the other side of the equation - dominance. And if you are into the S&M aspects, and he isn't.... are you willing to forego that? Every relationship dynamic is different, depending on those involved, but if he is an unwilling or unknowing participant in your D/s desires, things aren't likely to go very smoothly.

Kittykitkat19 -> RE: Slave to him or to myself (7/27/2007 3:13:03 PM)
He knows about the lifestyle and showed great interest in it when I spoke to him about it I think he just might have some natural dom traits just the way he asks for things and thanks me, the little things he dose like just patting my head

BRNaughtyAngel -> RE: Slave to him or to myself (7/27/2007 3:43:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kittykitkat19 He knows about the lifestyle and showed great interest in it when I spoke to him about it I think he just might have some natural dom traits just the way he asks for things and thanks me, the little things he dose like just patting my head Well as long as you both go into with your eyes wide open, and communicate about your desires and needs as a person, as well as your desires and needs for the relationship, then you can learn together. There are books that may help you, websites, this message board and there's always your local BDSM community. Good luck to you both!

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