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Submitting to Someone Else - 6/27/2005 6:08:25 PM

fourpeas

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So,

wondered if any subs out there have this experience.

My dom was joking with me today (JOKING) about sending me to a professional Domina where I live and having me be spanked so that he could hear me on the cell phone and watch with a video conference.

Now...

I'm a bit nervous about that and I'm sure glad he was joking, but I have a feeling he may not be joking in the future if you know what I mean... yeeeks...

We still have to talk about it, but I was wondering if any other subs have this experience and what it means to you and how you dealt with it. I have a problem with it and it makes me terribly, horribly, sick to my stomach nervous. I know that my Man with the Plan would never send me to a place like that if I told him I truly could not handle it. He is already very conscious of the fact that I do not desire to have another man's hands on my body at all.

I get nervous because I have never even met a single person in the lifestyle outside of him and I do not know that a meeting with a professional Domina would be the best way to get that started. Let me know if anyone has any experiences.

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RE: Submitting to Someone Else - 6/27/2005 7:28:19 PM

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We still have to talk about it, but I was wondering if any other subs have this experience and what it means to you and how you dealt with it. I have a problem with it and it makes me terribly, horribly, sick to my stomach nervous. I know that my Man with the Plan would never send me to a place like that if I told him I truly could not handle it. He is already very conscious of the fact that I do not desire to have another man's hands on my body at all.

I feel this is something that should be discussed prior to submission. If it is one of your limits then it should be obided by. Of course y ou said he was joking, more than likely he mentioned it to see your reaction. If you were ok with it...then he would do it.

I've never had the situation arise myself. My dom is a bit of a control freak when it comes to anyone touching me in any way.
Yet, at the same time we have played with others on a limited basis. Nothing like you are talking about though.

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RE: Submitting to Someone Else - 6/27/2005 7:48:44 PM

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ORIGINAL: fourpeas

. I have a problem with it and it makes me terribly, horribly, sick to my stomach nervous. I know that my Man with the Plan would never send me to a place like that if I told him I truly could not handle it. He is already very conscious of the fact that I do not desire to have another man's hands on my body at all.

I get nervous because I have never even met a single person in the lifestyle outside of him and I do not know that a meeting with a professional Domina would be the best way to get that started. Let me know if anyone has any experiences.

I feel the same way about someone else touching me. It was both of our choices in the beginning that nothing would ever happen like that. Neither one of us likes to share. But I guess with spanking, you wouldn't have to be touched by the other Dom, just make sure you discuss it with him, and hopefully it will never happen.

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RE: Submitting to Someone Else - 6/27/2005 8:36:38 PM

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Having another Man's hands on me....spanking me....tying me up....using me for a Demo in one form or another, i could see Thorns "possibly" allowing this...............maybe. He would however require His presence when this would be happening. There is alot of difference in scening and exchanging body fluids(that would never happen).

Considering you said that he would send you to a professional Domina, would you react the same way since it was a woman? just curious.

As far as the title of the post goes: Submitting to Someone Else. Not happening. I could bottom to them for a bit...but never submit to another. No way, no how...notta happening.

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RE: Submitting to Someone Else - 6/27/2005 8:47:52 PM

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Hmm, thank you Smilezz for that distinction... Yes I would bottom for another person but I would not submit. I hadn't thought about that slight distinction, choice of words, and what that means.

My Dom knows that I am more open to playing with women than men.. However he also knows that when I am attracted to women I am always attracted to very girly girls who are even more femme and submissive than myself. (gasp!) SO yes, I would react differently to a woman. A man's hands on me is something I don't think he'd ever let happen, and we've talked about that. However he's also told me that at some point it would please him for him to see me being aggressive with another girl.

That's fine by me... evil wink...

At any rate, I don't enjoy the idea of bottoming for a woman at all. that idea has definitely never turned me on. But if it involved her hands NOT on my bare ass, I would probably be okay with that. Being spanked is just such a luscious feeling that I don't really want anyone else but my Man with the Plan to experience it... ya know?

The thing that would make me feel comfortable, although not turned on or enjoying being topped by a woman, is that I know that he has several good friends who are Dominas, some of them pros. I would trust him to find someone that either he directly knew or someone he knew, knew. That makes me feel a bit more comfortable.

Hmmmmmm indeed... I know he is just seriously kidding. I think that if he were to send me to a professional Domina he would just get even more turned on and/or envious than he already is, and that would not be a good situation all across the boards. wink. We'll see though.

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RE: Submitting to Someone Else - 6/28/2005 6:16:13 AM

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OH girl, I hate the thought if My Master said that because He does what hesays what He means and for another to touch my Body"tears" I just don't want to think about it. whatever you have to do to learn beside being sent there.. DO IT.

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RE: Submitting to Someone Else - 6/28/2005 8:47:21 AM

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I get nervous because I have never even met a single person in the lifestyle outside of him and I do not know that a meeting with a professional Domina would be the best way to get that started. Let me know if anyone has any experiences.

The Owner does this regularly, send me to a friend as a gift, or allow me the pleasure of being topped, or humiliating me by having to grovel to others to play with them.

He can do this for a few reasons- he trusts ME to know when someone is wrong or dangerous to play with, and I trust MYSELF enough to know that I can judge such things.

Professionals might actually be a great way to start, they are used to dealing with newbies and generally have good connections to the greater scene.

It would be expensive though.

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