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puella -> RE: A good Dom (7/30/2007 6:57:02 AM)
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The problem I see with this argument is one that goes much deeper than that which the original question probes.
If you are a dominant by nature or a submissive by nature, 'becoming' a Dom or sub for a period of time to test out toys and methods will not suddenly place you in a better space for learning. I do not think you need to 'become' something you are not to learn about it or understand it... the fact of the matter is if you are not a submissive by nature simply being flogged by some Dom is NOT going to recreate that experience for you as a submissive experiences it.
I am not a masochist. Yet when my owner uses tools on me I become effected. I can even receive great pleasure (much to my surprise) because what is happening is effecting that most organic and submissive of parts of me which is responding to the moment, rather than me getting a pleasurable response from the pain itself. There is more to the experience of, lets say, being flogged, than just the placement and impact of the flogger… it is not so simple.
I have every confidence that my owner is using implements on me which he has taken the time to learn about. I do not feel that simply having been flogged provides a practical education on how TO flog. I have been flogged... by people who did it well and people who, in my opinion, did not... having been flogged does not guarantee that I can reproduce the 'good' flogging with any more of a certainty than the bad.... I know my owner, who has not submitted to a flogging knows exactly what he is doing when he picks up his tools.. and will pull from me what ever experiences and responses he wants from me with them, not because he has submitted, but because he is a responsible, intelligent and diligent man who knows the potential dangers of his pleasure and has taken the time and effort to actually master himself, his craft and his slave.
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