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lilybitinmo -> a Sir issue (6/27/2005 9:39:54 PM)
Hi there. I have a calling my Sir, Sir issue. On-line I can easly call him that. in person it is a fight to call him Sir as he would like me to. We have tried many things but some how my mind is fighting it. I do know he is my Sir and when he cues me I hardly faulter but I still have a probblem when we are not sceneing or when he cues me... Am I just strange. I want to call him that I have even expressed it in the journals I write that I long to but when I am with him I just can't. My Ma'am has a major probblem with it and I understand why she does and I have a probblem with it. I also when it does come out they say that is comes out scared or even angry and I am not angry with him more so with myself for forgeting yet again. I am moving in with them at the end of the summer at the moment I am only here part time usually when I am off work. Sorry I have probbley typed too much but oh well can any one help. I would greatly appreciate it so would my Sir. Thank you. Happly their little one

proudsub -> RE: a Sir issue (6/27/2005 9:46:22 PM)
It sounds to me like you need to make yourself call him Sir until it becomes a habit and you won't even have to think about it. Keep in mind you are doing it to please him.

Gauge -> RE: a Sir issue (6/27/2005 10:11:06 PM)
quote: Hi there. I have a calling my Sir, Sir issue. On-line I can easly call him that. in person it is a fight to call him Sir as he would like me to. What is the issue here? You were asked to call him Sir. Do so. Get used to the idea until you can say it without thinking. If I understand your profile correctly you have already submitted to him, he is your Sir. Address him as such.

perfection20005 -> RE: a Sir issue (6/28/2005 6:11:38 AM)
Its just like calling Him by his given name. Call Him "Sir" all the time, you'll get used to it. perfection

sub4hire -> RE: a Sir issue (6/28/2005 7:51:04 AM)
Lucky you're not in the military. You call everyone you meet Sir and Ma'am. I'd suggest just as the others did....keep calling him Sir until you're comfortable with it. Hopefully he wants something more of a generic name down the line. That way you are'nt someplace and say Sir....and 40 people turn around.

EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: a Sir issue (6/28/2005 8:36:26 AM)
Pretty much what they said, practice practice. However, if there's a deeper emotional issue, then I'd bring it up. Do you think there's another deeper reason to why it's harder other than simply not something you're used to doing? Some people I find it quite easy to call sir or maam to and others I find it nearly impossible. It's almost always about chemistry. The more the other person MAKES it an issue, the more it BECOMES an issue. So I'd say, don't worry, just practice. Your dom can remind you quietly and simply and over time it should become natural.

flirt -> RE: a Sir issue (6/29/2005 10:14:20 AM)
Not wanting to sitr the hornets nest i will clarify again that opinions belong only to you.................. Using Sir or Master has meaning to me. i will address a Dominant as Sir if He has my respect and inside i feel He is a Dominant. If i use Sir in another type setting, vanilla........Sir has a different meaning to me but i still don't call anyone Sir that does not deserve it. i don't call anyone Master ever, except my own. It took some time to get used to that as well but soon was natural. i concentrated on what the word Master meant to me and it got easier. To me it is not just a title and is not like using a name. my Master required me to address other Dominants in our group as Sir and therefore i did but i can say that the feelings inside of me when addressing some were totally different than with others. If your Sir wants you to address Him as Sir then as others have advised, just do it. If it feels wrong to you then look at some possible reasons why. Being a quiet and shy type makes such things as that difficult for me at first but working on them usually eliminates the problem. flirt

imtempting -> RE: a Sir issue (6/30/2005 1:49:55 AM)
I was told taught to just use my Mistress full name. Nice and easy

pandoravampire -> RE: a Sir issue (6/30/2005 6:51:03 AM)
I had the exact same problem. Forgetting to use his title and address him correctly. I have been working hard on this with His assistance. Im pretty good now, and have improved so that today, ive only forgotten once. We live together, so talk a lot. He assists me, by no longer responding unless ive addressed him correctly, i can be talking away, and i realise, that he's not interacting with me, im being ignored! That hurts! So i remember. Also, i wrote pages of lines of the word Sir, and wore a bangle of my choosing, to 'remind' me. All of the above helped me. good luck, it can be so frustrating to continuously fail at such a simple task. Worry about your intonation, and emotive content of your pronunciation later.

AnnieGirl -> RE: a Sir issue (6/30/2005 7:39:20 AM)
Lily, Perhaps your resistence to using the term "Sir" is a subliminal indication that you don't want to be a slave/sub, although your assurance in what you want indicates the opposite. Have you considered the fact that you may want to be a defiant slave and receive punishment? A resistence to calling your Master "Sir" may be a sign of that. I think the worst advice I can give would be to tell you to keep trying without discussing it with your Sir first. Sit down with him and explain that you aren't sure why you have a resistence to calling him "Sir", but you would very much like to get past it. If he is a Dom worth anything, he will listen. Don't force what won't come naturally, love. Annie

sub4hire -> RE: a Sir issue (6/30/2005 7:43:50 AM)
quote: Perhaps your resistence to using the term "Sir" is a subliminal indication that you don't want to be a slave/sub, although your assurance in what you want indicates the opposite. Have you considered the fact that you may want to be a defiant slave and receive punishment? A resistence to calling your Master "Sir" may be a sign of that. How does Sir equate to dominance of any kind? If we were all brought up in the 50's and 60's we probably would have called our parents Sir. A father clearly is not your dominant at least in the same way.

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