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SayaNereida -> RE: As a sub, have you 'dominated' your Dom on his request.... (8/1/2007 7:29:22 AM)
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xolarkinxo, as far as not being comfortable, I know a few reasons and suspect a few more and I’ve talked to him about every one of them; just so we both know where my head space is and may go; nothing traumatic, just life training for the most part.
sirjandlily, we have talked many times about our likes and dislikes of this relationship dynamic, even before we began experiencing it. He’d never do a writing assignment, LMAO it takes weeks to get responses from emails and he’s sitting on the computer. He prefers talking, most of the time. He will send me erotica, particularly bdsm scenes now to give me an idea of what he likes or thinks I may like; but we still talk about it.
junecleaver, trying to do what he likes is part of the problem for me, although I do plan to try; he enjoys pain. It’s not causing pain in general that is a problem; it’s the amount he expresses as a desire. He’s a patent man, and is willing to give me the time I need to accomplish what he wishes; as well as recognizes that no matter how much I try I may not be able to do so.
Celeste43, definitely not aiming for subspace, we both know my comfort and experience won’t allow for it right now. That’s why he wants me to ‘practice’ though.
Goddess, it doesn’t sound silly at all, at least not to me. While I am submissive, a submissive and submit to him, it is not a 24/7 arrangement and it certainly takes a mindset for me. For this I have a slave bracelet to wear if I need the mindset, I don’t need it often at home; so I just wear it in public.
The names we call each other change, when I top he calls me ‘My Lady’, I cannot get comfortable with anything else; he’s tried.
I have no Domme wear, at least nothing that would help ME with the mindset.
Update, we played some on Tuesday night. I used a flogger; his only ‘complaint’ is my lack of rhythm, but said I improved from the first time and he was pleased. I even managed to surprise him and do something that he has stated he hadn’t tried but wanted to very much. So while I didn’t/couldn’t take him to sub space, he did say that what I did was ‘mind blowing’ and that he VERY much enjoyed it.
We are definitely having fun and I’m even looking forward to topping again…just a little. Seeing that look on his face of absolute pleasure and yes even the winces of pain was a HUGE turn on for me.
Thanks again everyone for advice and the kind words.
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