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alwaysforward -> RE: I'm wondering if there would be interest in a new type of community event (7/29/2007 11:23:57 PM)

I think your reasons are valid.  I knew this wouldn't hit the mark with everyone, the depth and diversity of topics in bdsm are to varied but I wanted to acknowledge that first.

So, the part about business networking or other non bdsm related topics is that I feel the scene is to insular in that sense.  I'd be interested in a group that might interest people who are dominant or submissive but not necessarily into the art and culture of it.  I think the bdsm scene has become so much of a scene that there's not enough focus given to the act itself.  I'd want to encourage people put off but the ritual, the dress and the reiterated topics of play to come in and be able to participate.  To widen the pool.

Often people are so guarded because you have a space with people desperate to realize a fantasy and the people they heap that attention on.  I'd hope this would calm that by allowing a certain amount of instant gratification but still allowing for the potential of more.

It maybe that something like this exists already, if so I'm on board.  But failing that I think there is a need for this for a lot of people, myself included.

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ORIGINAL: undergroundsea

I am sure the idea would invite interest of some people but it does not resonate with me. Here are my reasons for why the idea does not call to me.

I have declined invitations to serve where all submissives serve all dominants. I prefer to serve women and do not wish to serve men. For sake of discussion, let's consider a femdom group only. The text suggests that at the end of the meeting dominants would state their financial or labor needs and the submissive would meet them in a no-strings-attached fashion. For me, service is not only for the sake of the act and the person to whom the service is given matters. The no-strings-attached service still requires a want to give such a service to whomever it is being given.

The idea of finances (pay $100-$200 a meeting and then take on financial needs of dominants) also does not appeal to me. I find no appeal in giving money to random people. Also, I could not justify going to a meeting where you pay $100-$200 when the same type of gathering occurs commonly without any such requirements. Furthermore, if one does provide no-strings-attached service of a nature that is desired, the forces of supply and demand are different than what they are in the femdom scene in general.

I am unclear about the part about business networking versus BDSM. I think because the reason the people are coming together is BDSM, a BDSM focus would more likely be wanted. Also, if I sought to join a business networking group (or a computer discussion group or whatever), I would choose demographics that were most relevant to what I sought rather than try to seek such persons within a limited pool of the population.

My two cents.

Cheers,

Sea




MisPandora -> RE: I'm wondering if there would be interest in a new type of community event (7/29/2007 11:48:12 PM)

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ORIGINAL: BeachMystress

This sounds like a great fantasy idea, but I do not believe it would work in practice.

Actually, the Club FEm in southern California did try charging for membership. It didn't work. The male subs came to the first free munch and looked over the selection of FemDom. If they liked one of them they started harassing them via private e-mail. They didn't show back up and pay money. And our Club FEm had the concept of club subs, available to all the Dominants.  If most of these men are willing to pay money, they go to a pro.

As for the rest of southern California, you do not pay for munches or discussion groups. Our Dungeons are $10, $30, $30 and $20 cover charges. (I don't know the door charge on the fifth one, as I've never been.) Just because we live in Cali doesn't mean we don't find paying $100 for a meeting outrageous.

I must have somehow missed the $100+ charge per meeting.  Hell, we can't get these cheap fools locally to pay a $5-10 cover charge on parties.  Rarely will they put up $100 plus, and that's for some really special party (think swingers with sex or a foot-centric party where they're getting personal time with someone.) If a guy can shuck out that much cash, he's seeing a pro where he gets one on one attention and can call the shots, not to be some sort of "pool slave."




MsSonnetMarwood -> RE: I'm wondering if there would be interest in a new type of community event (7/30/2007 2:04:56 AM)

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ORIGINAL: alwaysforward

So, the part about business networking or other non bdsm related topics is that I feel the scene is to insular in that sense.  I'd be interested in a group that might interest people who are dominant or submissive but not necessarily into the art and culture of it.  I think the bdsm scene has become so much of a scene that there's not enough focus given to the act itself.  I'd want to encourage people put off but the ritual, the dress and the reiterated topics of play to come in and be able to participate.  To widen the pool.



Business networking in a BDSM scene won't work - most people are very selective about who in the lifestyle knows what they do for a living and where they work, with good reason.   Privacy is a huge issue in the scene.  If you're outing your job & place of business to large groups of BDSM people, you've essentially turned around and outed yourself to your boss and co-workers, which is really NOT a good career choice for a lot of people.




nick2020 -> RE: I'm wondering if there would be interest in a new type of community event (7/30/2007 4:06:36 AM)

Hello 'alwaysforward':  From a submissives point of view. What a plan!!  Thank you for sharing that idea.  As a sub/servant it would be a dream to serve at a function with many Dominants!!

It would also allow a sub the opportunity to 'showcase' his talents and for the new comer like myself discover more of what a Dominant Female is seeking in subs, servants, and slaves.

Please keep the plan on going and perhaps it will come to fruition!!!




MasterFireMaam -> RE: I'm wondering if there would be interest in a new type of community event (7/31/2007 10:54:19 PM)

There is a group very much like this in existance. Female Artists of Domination has been in existance for 5 years. The group is run for and by Female Dominants. They encourage participation from those that serve them, but in the end, the Fem Doms make the decisions. The yahoo group can be found here. The real time group can be found in North Carolina (USA).

Master Fire




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