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SirDraco7 -> RE: Long-term asexual/service-only relationships? (7/31/2007 3:06:04 PM)
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Service only?
Well, perhaps this will rock the boat a bit, but this is what I think about most 'relationships' like this: Garbage.
Now, I said most, not all. There are exceptions where this works and where the people are happy.
As earthly couple said it's sensuality that matters in my opinion.
I say this because without sensuality, the Dom is just using the sub. Free labor basically. Not much different than a Pro-Domme saying "pay my bills" except it's "Cut my lawn".
Like I said there are exceptions. But more and more, if I read or see a profile seeking 'service only' it's a pro Domme, or it has the attitude and tone of a Pro Domme.
Yes the subs should know better, but shouldn't the Dommes know better too?
My sugguestion is that you avoid those relationships at all costs. They will do you more harm than they are worth. Espesially if you are looking for something more.
If you are service only chances are they will have someone else to be intimate with, be it vanilla, or be it another sub.
And if you are looking for something more, no sense wasting your time with someone who is lazy.
::shrugs:: Maybe it's me.
If you are treated like a servent, and are being used like a servent, then you should be paid like a servent. I don't care what they say or call it. "sub" is not "servent" swap the words around but what they are changes not.
If there is senuality, then you become more of a submissive and less of a servent.
PLUS.
If you are looking for something more, make sure she understands such.
The truly good ones will be supportive and perhaps even help you.
The not as good ones would be irriated and upset because they would have to do housework again when you leave.
::shrugs:: Just my abrasive, but honest thoughts.
Sir Draco
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