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Valyraen -> RE: A day in the life of a Master/Slave? And maybe if your good...a Dom/Sub too. (7/31/2007 9:48:02 PM)
An average day for Kitten and I? Well, since she's waiting on school to start up in the fall, and I'm waiting to start my new job at roughly the same time, we've got a ton of free time, so... We game. I don't mean kinky, sexy games. I mean we both plop down at our computers and click things. We interrupt gaming for snuggles, food, catering to the whims of our two cats (actually... she caters, I just pet the fuzzy little bastards), and spontaneously going out to do stuff. Then, we come home, troll our respective forums, and game some more. Every so often, we have sex, or scene... ooh, so exciting! yawn God, if I were someone else reading this, I'd have gone to read something interesting about ten lines ago.

SexyRed -> RE: A day in the life of a Master/Slave? And maybe if your good...a Dom/Sub too. (7/31/2007 10:45:50 PM)
Hmmmm...well I go to work where I am a slave to my company and clients Then I go home and I have to serve my cat, who is a complete Domme. Then, tragically without a current partner, I go to bed alone and wonder why it is so NOT fun to be a slave.

mitda -> RE: A day in the life of a Master/Slave? And maybe if your good...a Dom/Sub too. (8/1/2007 2:41:59 AM)
LOL. no kidding. -mitda http://quietknowledge.wordpress.com

RPutnamJr -> RE: A day in the life of a Master/Slave? And maybe if your good...a Dom/Sub too. (8/1/2007 3:44:15 AM)
Yeash, when I had a life... My submissive would wake up at 6am...wake my ass up...then she'd head off to the kids rooms waking them up and getting their clothes out for them to wear (she didn't trust my taste in style...I don't match properly). Then she heads for the shower, while I groggedly drag myself out of bed and put some pants on, heading to the munchkins rooms, where I find them back soundly asleep, having to get them up again. Then I dressed them in the clothes laid out for me to dress them in. By this time she's out of the shower and getting dressed just in time to help me put on their shoes and jackets prior to dragging them out the door by 6:30am. Then I'd head back to bed, because its too damn early to get up, while she and the munchkins head to work (she worked at a daycare and thus took them to work with her). At 9am I would get up and shit, shower, and shave then head off to work stopping at the breakfast place right next door to pick up some breakfast prior to heading into work, assuming I had time and didn't hit the snooze alarm too soon. And if I was late who cares I owned the business. At 5pm she and the munchkins would start heading home, stopping to see grandpa and grandma along the way if she felt like it for an hour or heading directly to our store to check up on me and do all the work I decided I didn't feel like doing that day. Then at 7:30pm ish we would all load up and head home. I'd fix dinner, yes I did the cooking while she washed up the kids and got them somewhat ready for bed. Then we'd eat at the dinner table while the kids sneak food to the dogs, who were more than happy to steal the food if you were not watching them or the kids at the time. Then she would do the dishes after sneaking the dogs more food at the dinner table...kids get in trouble for it and then she turns around and does it too...yeash. Then I would feed the dogs the left overs, feed the fish, and if I was lucky remember to feed the rabbit on the side of the house...poor rabbit always forgot about him until one day he just disappeared...thank God...I always felt bad about fogetting to feed him and refill his water dish. When I'm done eating she does the dishes while I watch TV, the kids, play with them, read to them, etc. By 9pm she and the kids run off to bed. I follow at 10pm finding my son fast asleep in our bed and our daughter asleep in her bed. Then if I'm lucky I get him off to his bed without waking him up because he wants to sleep with mommy (so do I and its only a queen size bed, but he wins out all the time and usually gets more cuddling in the process...thank God when he got old enough to want to watch the TV in his room and mommy's bed became less important than Barney on the TV...I just turned off the TV and VCR in that case prior to going to bed...unfortunately then my daughter got old enough to realize that he had a TV in his room and then wanted to always sleep in his room rather than his...but hell it was better than my room so who cares). Then I'd go to sleep just to start the routine over the next day. Now for variety...on Sundays since our washer was broken...I would take the laundry to the laundrymat and do it at 9pm at night when everyone else went to sleep having quiet alone time with myself. And on Sundays we would not open our business because of going to church and being a family fun day, time to take the kids to the zoo, grandparents house, shopping, or whatever we did not get done during the week. On Saturdays, we were off buying all the merchandise we could not find for our business in the mornings, then opeining our store. For rest she would go home early on Saturday but for some reason she would always take our son and maybe our daughter (usually left her with me at the store being only 1-2 at the time), then she would go home and do yard work, pull out the baby pool or whatever (like she thought she could get some rest taking a 3-4 year old home with her instead of leaving him with me, but hell he wanted to go so she let him. And if we were really lucky...grandpa and grandma would take the kids for us for the night so we could have some adult fun time. Unfortunately they always took the kids on friday night when we had to be up early the next day for our store, so it was not much help. Wish they would have taken them on Saturday night then we could have slept in somewhat, except for having to go to church. And if we were really lucky then we might even get a weekend of adult fun if we could sneak away from both work and the kids. Now that I don't have a life anymore... Things are alot more simplier and fun...go to work, come home, go to work, come home, go to work, come home...hell they even call me into work on my days off. What the hell...might as well go into work, have nothing better to do. I do use the excuse of having my kids every other weekend just so I can have a weekend off every other week. By the way my kids live 1000 miles away now, so honestly I don't get to see them every other weekend, but work doesn't know that, but I do have to keep up the lie for them. And yes I aligned it with the weekends that my latest sub who has a daughter sends her daughter off to her father's house so we could both have some adult fun. Time to pull out the whips and chaines, paddles, etc. Now though that is not an issue anymore because she has decided to get in touch with her dominant side...so much for switches. Should take the switch to her if you ask me...not worth the BS though. And yes yesturday was my day off and work called...what the hell...wonder if they will call me today too...have the day off again. Also I don't cook often much anymore...nobody to cook for and enjoy eating at the dinning room table. So its fast food and the TV like when I was in college again, but without the parties and drinking. And Dammit I forgot to do what I meant to do earlier today after reminding myself to do it again. But there is always today. I forgot...the dog is gone now, the cat is gone too, and the fish are all gone. And yesturday I killed all the fleas that my ex-sub's dog left me when he moved out...now he lives with my boss. The cat lives at my best friend's house. And the fish I got rid of years ago wtih the ex-wife. Welcome to the real world...

OnyxDelphi -> RE: A day in the life of a Master/Slave? And maybe if your good...a Dom/Sub too. (2/4/2008 9:04:16 PM)
Lmao!

greyangelus -> RE: A day in the life of a Master/Slave? And maybe if your good...a Dom/Sub too. (2/4/2008 9:16:01 PM)
Wow, sounds like fun, wheres the dotted line at? Why are you pulling out the knife..... oh, blood duh, I forget these things are always signed in blood. You know after reading all that, I just want it more than I previously did. I take this to be a Good Sign.

SimplyMichael -> RE: A day in the life of a Master/Slave? And maybe if your good...a Dom/Sub too. (2/4/2008 9:36:39 PM)
Oh, you know the usual, have her change my CM password and not tell me so I can't waste time on here, or look up something for school that I was too stupid to check on, grant permission to masturbate because she has some free time, tell her to get the hell off the PC because it is 3am, or to wake up because I just made her breakfast in bed. Power exchanges that last TEND to be those that operate on a far more subtle level but often more pervasively than people realize.

AquaticSub -> RE: A day in the life of a Master/Slave? And maybe if your good...a Dom/Sub too. (2/4/2008 9:48:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Valyraen An average day for Kitten and I? Well, since she's waiting on school to start up in the fall, and I'm waiting to start my new job at roughly the same time, we've got a ton of free time, so... We game. I don't mean kinky, sexy games. I mean we both plop down at our computers and click things. We interrupt gaming for snuggles, food, catering to the whims of our two cats (actually... she caters, I just pet the fuzzy little bastards), and spontaneously going out to do stuff. Then, we come home, troll our respective forums, and game some more. Every so often, we have sex, or scene... ooh, so exciting! yawn God, if I were someone else reading this, I'd have gone to read something interesting about ten lines ago. It's still true. We spend a lot of time gaming with each other. I get him beer while my health regenerates. Sometimes, I shake things up and do my homework. [;)]

Zaide -> RE: A day in the life of a Master/Slave? And maybe if your good...a Dom/Sub too. (2/4/2008 11:40:34 PM)
Ok ..this topic has got me thinking and I have a serious question here. I hope this doesn’t get me flamed or offend anyone. I mean no disrespect. Where does it start and where does it end for most people so to speak. I mentioned in my introduction that I enjoy to ‘play’, but once the play has finished that’s the end of it for the day session or whatever. Once the collar comes off , I take orders from no man.!!!! I lived with a man who would not get up off his ass once he got home from work. Ironically it was a vanilla relationship. Despite the fact that I worked longer hours , I was expected to do everything around the house. It caused a lot of conflict and arguments. S* really hit the fan when I started my Masters (Degree that is hehhe I thought I had better clarify that just in case). Oh he was happy for me to do that, because it would put me in a position where I would earn more money. But it also meant that I would have to spend most of my time after work attending lectures and studying. Even so he rarely lifted a finger and by this stage I refused to budge. I was ready to pack my bags. The house work just didn’t get done and when he complained I told him to employ a cleaner if it bothered him so much. How do most subs/Doms , resolve conflict about these kinds of issues. How are household tasks etc distributed? I realize this is going to be different for everyone, but I am really curious where the line is drawn or if there is no line drawn. Is there a code of ethics so to speak.

AquaticSub -> RE: A day in the life of a Master/Slave? And maybe if your good...a Dom/Sub too. (2/5/2008 1:30:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Zaide Ok ..this topic has got me thinking and I have a serious question here. I hope this doesn’t get me flamed or offend anyone. I mean no disrespect. Where does it start and where does it end for most people so to speak. I mentioned in my introduction that I enjoy to ‘play’, but once the play has finished that’s the end of it for the day session or whatever. Once the collar comes off , I take orders from no man.!!!! For me, it doesn't end. For you, it can end whenever you want it to. quote: I lived with a man who would not get up off his ass once he got home from work. Ironically it was a vanilla relationship. Despite the fact that I worked longer hours , I was expected to do everything around the house. It caused a lot of conflict and arguments. S* really hit the fan when I started my Masters (Degree that is hehhe I thought I had better clarify that just in case). Oh he was happy for me to do that, because it would put me in a position where I would earn more money. But it also meant that I would have to spend most of my time after work attending lectures and studying. Even so he rarely lifted a finger and by this stage I refused to budge. I was ready to pack my bags. The house work just didn’t get done and when he complained I told him to employ a cleaner if it bothered him so much. How do most subs/Doms , resolve conflict about these kinds of issues. How are household tasks etc distributed? I realize this is going to be different for everyone, but I am really curious where the line is drawn or if there is no line drawn. Is there a code of ethics so to speak. For us - whatever makes the most sense. In our case, even with me at school I'm the one at home the most and pulling in the least amount of money. He contributes more cash, I'm at home more, I do most of the chores. However, I have a bad back so he lifts all the heavy things, goes to the store with me when we need to buy litter (we get the jumbo bags), does bug catching duty and helps me with any computer problems I can't handle on my own. He also helps me proof my papers and other things. We just adjust slightly every semester with the different class schedule and we'll adjust again when I get a job. Things are pretty damn boring and "vanilla" from the outside.

Zaide -> RE: A day in the life of a Master/Slave? And maybe if your good...a Dom/Sub too. (2/5/2008 1:50:52 AM)
Thanks AquaticSub , I realize the post makes me look pretty damn ignorant, but I don’t hear people ask these questions. Many people I speak to and books I read, mags etc make out like they are living this absolute lifestyle.. and it is one of the reasons I have never joined a forum like this before. I love your signature by the way.

AquaticSub -> RE: A day in the life of a Master/Slave? And maybe if your good...a Dom/Sub too. (2/5/2008 1:55:16 AM)
There are very few, if any, absolutes in BDSM/the lifestyle/whatever you want to call it. Find what works for you. BTW, if you are interested you may be able to look through some old threads on this topic using the search function. I think it's been addressed a few times, though I'm rubbish at finding old threads. I'll be sure to pass the compliment onto Valyraen. [:)]

softness -> RE: A day in the life of a Master/Slave? And maybe if your good...a Dom/Sub too. (2/5/2008 2:07:17 AM)
as i am tragically single ... I discussed this with a dear Friend ... this is how we decided it would go if we were together 24/7 5.50 am .... alarm goes off we trade exotic sexual favours vs cruel tortures for who gets 10 minutes extra in bed and who gets the icecold bathroom 6.00 am .... after obviously losing said discussion i return freezing cold from the unheated bathroom get back into bed to snuggle Master awake ... he is not impressed ... 6.03 am ..... get evicted from bed and attempt to make some breakfast ... fail ... 6.10 try once again to get back into bed ... wake up sneaky over sleeping Master .. get drawn into leading by example debate 6.15... get dressed into frumpy middle aged work clothes ... parade up and down in calf length skirt, flats and highly erotic cardigan for Master .... 6.30 ....have the make up vs time for a cup of tea debate 6.35 ... start packing school bag ... 6.40 ... replace laddered control top tights that i ripped on school bag ... get mocked by master who hasn't realised he has shaving foam on his ear ... decide not to tell him 6.50 ... go out into freezing rain and howling wind to wait at bus stop 7.40 .. arrive at work wet through, tired and realise left essential lesson resources at home ... swear ... 8.30 ... first children arrive screaming into room ... take deep breath 3.30 ... last children run screaming from room ... release deep breath 4.00 .. go back outside into driving rain and howling wind carrying heavy box of marking ... find no seat on bus 5.45 .. arrive home still wondering why the rush hour at night takes longer than the rush hour in the morning 6.00 ... jerk awake on the sofa .. coat still on, keys still in hand 6.30 ... Master arrives home and performs same keys/coat/sofa trick .... lay next to Master and ask about each others day ... play paper scissors stone for who cooks dinner ... inevitably lose 7.30 ... after eating meal sit down to work .... me on dining table marking books ... him on sofa reading files ...TV on in background being ignored 11.00 ... watch the 10pm news on 4+1 and kid ourselves into thinking we didn't just work unpaid for a further 3.5 hours 11.30 ... i have bath and wash my hair as Master finally reads his morning paper 11.45 ... have a few precious minutes together .. perhaps but probably not make love ... no play on a weeknight .. we're British dontchaknow .. get nostalgic for when it used to be all whips and nipple clamps before bed and not checking who put the cat out and who locked the back door Just because its not kink 24/7 .. doesn't mean its not 24/7

Justme696 -> RE: A day in the life of a Master/Slave? And maybe if your good...a Dom/Sub too. (2/5/2008 3:55:41 AM)
when I am lazy it is just sex and movies

wisteriaV -> RE: A day in the life of a Master/Slave? And maybe if your good...a Dom/Sub too. (2/5/2008 4:09:30 AM)
UMM NAWWW

handsoverhead -> RE: A day in the life of a Master/Slave? And maybe if your good...a Dom/Sub too. (2/5/2008 4:35:34 AM)
Today: 2am wake up call when cat walks on my head. Lie very very still and pretend to be asleep. Cat walks on Sir's head. Sir gets up and locks cat out of room. 5am alarm. Roll over and groan. Sir lets cat out. Showers, makes coffee, dresses, kisses me goodbye at 6 (another groan.) 6.30am alarm. Let the cat in. Feed the cat breakfast. Load of washing, quick walk, quick pedicure, check emails, shower, breakfast, make lunch for both of us, leave for work. Sir comes home at lunchtime. Has lunch, checks emails, sleeps, does dishes, plays with cat, goes back to work. Leave work at 5'ish, go to the supermarket, get the clothes off the line, feed the cat, lie on the couch, chat on phone, make dinner, eat dinner. Drink soda because Sir has banned me from alcohol for a month ("because he can...") Sir gets home. Tell him dinner is on the stove. Get him a drink. He eats. Plays with cat. Cuddles on the couch. I get a cuddle too. Long discussion re cat's behavioural issues. Sir goes to bed early. Beg to come to bed and watch tv. Request denied. Cat goes with him to the bedroom and they both fall asleep. Watch tv inthe living room. Lurk in collarme and decide to respond, for once. Idly wonder what it would be like to be a cat.

Dnomyar -> RE: A day in the life of a Master/Slave? And maybe if your good...a Dom/Sub too. (2/5/2008 4:47:04 AM)
Wake up at 5 am. Shower and get dressed. Push the button on the phone and listen to the messages of my 11 submissives. I limit them to 3 min each so I can get them all in. Fix breakfast and sit in front of the computer. I look at the pics. I have my subs send me 1 new nude pic of themselves every week day. Shut the computer off and go to work. Get on CM and come here between work jobs. Go home stop at the gym and pick up the mail. Usualy there are one or two of the subs there with dinner ready for me. Eat dinner and talk about what has transpired that day. The subs clean up the dishes and I send them home. Read the paper. Get on the computer and clean the messages from it. Settle into a good book and go to bed. Friday nights and weekends I use for play time. My women play well together so I dont have to go thru that hassle. Start all over again on Monday.

RCdc -> RE: A day in the life of a Master/Slave? And maybe if your good...a Dom/Sub too. (2/5/2008 5:00:49 AM)
This is Darcy The alarm goes off at 7am, as per my command (or perhaps because it's a programmable piece of electronics, but I like to think it, like everything else is my life, is subject to my whims) and I leap out of bed. In my mind I do, anyway, the reality being that the mind is willing but the flesh frankly can't be bothered. However, after listening to Chris Moyles prattle on for the best part of half an hour I resist the urge to end it all then and there, and instead hall my ass out of bed, after having carefully ensured that the loaded organic gun that I usually wake up with has been rendered harmless. On goes the kettle as I wander around naked, figuring that if the house across the back can see what I'm doing, which would require a telescope, then they're entitled to the pleasing sight of my lithe, muscular, lily-white English arse perambulating from kitchen to bathroom. Shower goes on, Darcy gets in, makes sure everywhere is thoroughly cleaned, some places more thoroughly than others, and Darcy climbs out, smelling of Sonic Death Monkey (no, not some weird liquidised monkey jizz, but rather a delighful shower gel from the lovely people at Lush Cosmetics). Clothes go on, water goes in coffee cup (along with coffee, of course), Cheerios go in bowl, milk on Cheerios, bowl, coffee cup and Darcy transport to living room, Darcy eats, drinks, contemplates being Mary but decides against it, and the whole procedure is reversed, with the exception of the Cheerios and coffee leaving their new home in my stomach. Then it's into the car, off to work (oh joy of joys), spending an inordinate time wondering just where some of the other drivers on the road got their licenses, deciding on Toytown as a probable answer, eating a couple of Babybel cheese snacks (yeah, I'm weird, I know [;)]), negotiate roadworks on M1 motorway that are scheduled to continue until just after the Second Coming, wonder whether the posted speed limit of 50 miles per hour is actually possible as I crawl along at approximately a third of that. Perform work functions, pausing at a convenient point to call *the.dark* and have my life brightened immeasurably just by hearing her voice, do more work, rue choice of career, fantasise about other options, fantasise about other things that leave me in danger of needing a men's room and/or a cold shower. Repeat car journey in reverse. Marvel at inability of other drivers to display even the most rudimentary coutesy to me or anyone else. Wish fiery, horrible deaths on a good half a dozen of them. Listen to Radio 4, hopefully catching What's My Line, get home, shut world out. Eat, write, then speak with *the.dark* who brightens the room even through the telephone line.Wish it was the weekend so we were together, wish it was June so that we'd be together all the time, engage in some filthy one-in-a-bed action, fall asleep. Wake up. Repeat.[:D] (You may have noticed a lack of beatings, floggings, restraints, gags, handcuffs, fisting, felching, snowballing, head, pussy-eating, fingering, fucking, licking, sucking, watersports, and other Conservative Party manifesto items in the above, but that's because they don't define who I am, they're just things we do when we're together [;)].)

Willowmoon -> RE: A day in the life of a Master/Slave? And maybe if your good...a Dom/Sub too. (2/5/2008 5:37:45 AM)
Hmmmm lets see It varies depending on the day. On days that I am at uni I get up, shower, have breakfast, make Master's coffee and toast, wake Master up then head off to the bus stop. I get home about 7pm where Master is already home and has usualy done the dishes. We cuddle for a little while and talk about our days then I go and watch some tv or play on the computer while he does his stuff. Our housemate cooks every night so we relax until dinner time. Once dinner is over we may play world of warcraft together or watch a movie together. We waste time until our housemates have gone to bed and are asleep if by that time I am still awake we often have a small play session before bed. Days that I am not at uni but Master is at work I study, do housework, catch up with friends for coffee or lunch, play on the computer. When Master is almost home he sends me an sms so that I can be ready kneeling ready to preform our greeting ritual when he gets home the rest of the evening goes like what I have already mentioned. On a non uni day that Master is home the morning is still pretty much the same except we eat breakfast together and may shower together. Housemates go to work and we try to take advantage of having the house to ourselves. On those days I do housework (usualy naked), study and work on assignments, make Master coffee or food and obey any other orders he may give me. We often have a play session in the afternoon and then once the housemates get home go bac to our regular nightly routines. If we are sleeping in my bed I don't have to ask permission to get in the bed but if we are sleeping in his then I do have to ask permission. (We were housemates before we were Master/slave so both have our own rooms) There is no line between play and normal day to day life with him. He is still Master even when he is not whipping me or tieing me something. He is still Master even when we are doing vanilla things its not something that we turn on and off. We have rules that I follow such as asking to eat/drink anything or go the bathroom (yes even when i am at uni or he is at work I have to sms him to get permission) Willow

MadRabbit -> RE: A day in the life of a Master/Slave? And maybe if your good...a Dom/Sub too. (2/5/2008 6:12:12 AM)
Awww....geez.... I'm totally crushed.... Here I thought we had all these people on these boards living "THE lifestyle"... And all of you seem to just be like...normal people... Edited to Add : This must be where all the fakes and wannabes hang out.

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