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rough...but safe sex - 7/30/2007 12:57:58 PM   
saucymanx


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I'm toying with entering the bdsm scene IRL for the first time but am scared shitless. I'm into really rough
sex and rapescene play but...how in the world can one have safe sex in such a scenario? The condom
could come off, ect...what, wear two condoms? lots of lube? It doesn't help that I've not had sex in
over a year and am tighter than a slide knot.

Any suggestions?

-saucy
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RE: rough...but safe sex - 7/30/2007 1:13:12 PM   
anguissette62


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quote:

ORIGINAL: saucymanx

Hi folks,

I'm toying with entering the bdsm scene IRL for the first time but am scared shitless. I'm into really rough
sex and rapescene play but...how in the world can one have safe sex in such a scenario? The condom
could come off, ect...what, wear two condoms? lots of lube? It doesn't help that I've not had sex in
over a year and am tighter than a slide knot.

Any suggestions?

-saucy



Nice advertisement disguised as a post, saucy.  Sit back and watch the offers come in!

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RE: rough...but safe sex - 7/30/2007 5:28:04 PM   
Phin


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Status: offline 		Ya know, I could help ya with that *licks my eyebrows*

in all seriousness, be sure trust is there before you engage in this type of play. the easy solution to the "tighter than a slide knot" problem is have sex before the scene. If you are trusting this guy to "rape" you then you should trust him enough for some old fashined vanilla fukin

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RE: rough...but safe sex - 7/31/2007 8:05:57 AM   
saucymanx


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Status: offline 		We're not there yet, and I'm not advertising, LOL!

I've been lurking on the net bdsm scene for years but am looking for a one woman master. I don't
do polyamory. I don't do swapping...looking for a LTR and training since I know nothing, I just have
this inner compass I'm following.

I'm just wondering if it's possible to do this safely, is all.

sm

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RE: rough...but safe sex - 7/31/2007 4:39:23 PM   
Phin


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Status: offline 		It is possible. You just need the trust and understanding that protection will be used. most condoms can take the abuse of rough sex. Trojan has never failed me.

Oh and to the idea of two condomn? I have tried it and sex feels like someone else is getting laid while I am doing the work

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RE: rough...but safe sex - 7/31/2007 4:56:10 PM   
sireninchains


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Status: offline 		Two condoms is actually less safe, fwi, the friction between the two condoms makes for danger. Just wear a condom, go on BC if you want, thats what I do and between the two of those I have never had a problem.

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RE: rough...but safe sex - 8/1/2007 5:40:22 PM   
aparootsa


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Status: offline 		Practice, practice, practice . . . and then scene.  The kind of closeness and security in the relationship that will enable you to have such and intense kind of scene without too much risk of emotional damage doesn't come quickly by any means, so the preliminaries to the scene could easily include some rough action.  This practice will also teach him how your body works, and vice versa, so as to get maximum fulfillment from the scene.  As in life, don't get raped by a stranger.

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RE: rough...but safe sex - 8/1/2007 7:01:24 PM   
Phin


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ORIGINAL: sireninchains

Two condoms is actually less safe, fwi, the friction between the two condoms makes for danger

I had not heard that before, but makes perfect sence

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