Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experience in Real Life?

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BIllCT -> Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experience in Real Life? (7/30/2007 2:54:02 PM)
How many have actually been in a BDSM or D/s Relationship in real life and understand that it is not all about the play, or sex, it is all about the actual relationship and making it last?. How many realize the all that is included in a vanilla relationship also applies to a BDSM or D/s Relationship in full with the additional responsibilities of the kinks, needs,desires, wants, of said relationship?

solia -> RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experience in Real Life? (7/30/2007 2:55:28 PM)
[image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m25.gif[/image] raises hand to vote I learned a lot about relationships in general when I learned about BDSM (and all the variations of it). There are many aspects that are beneficial to either vanilla or non-vanilla minded persons. That said, I have noticed that alot of people in BDSM do seem to forget that there's more going on outside of play. And in my vanilla relationships I continually have to declare that no, it is not my desire to do your laundry. There are stereotypes on both sides, extremes to both ends and I think that most of us settle down in the middle of it all somewhere. solia

MsBearlee -> RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experience in Real Life? (7/30/2007 2:57:38 PM)
D'oh! (joking...a good topic, actually; I wish more people 'got it'). You are spot on! MsB

Elegant -> RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experience in Real Life? (7/30/2007 2:58:10 PM)
......votes 'yes' to all of the above..and makes sure there are no hanging chads

DarkDaddyZ -> RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experience in Real Life? (7/30/2007 2:58:49 PM)
Preach brother, preach! Oh and to answer the poll, the answer would be Me!

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experience in Real Life? (7/30/2007 3:00:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BIllCT How many have actually been in a BDSM or D/s Relationship in real life and understand that it is not all about the play, or sex, it is all about the actual relationship and making it last?. Well I have been around awhile, and some of my relationships ARE all about the play or the sex. And some of them are about a lasting relationship. quote: How many realize the all that is included in a vanilla relationship also applies to a BDSM or D/s Relationship in full with the additional responsibilities of the kinks, needs,desires, wants, of said relationship? Bill you should really stick around awhile longer if you think that's going to be mindblowing to most of the people here.

earthycouple -> RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experience in Real Life? (7/30/2007 3:03:35 PM)
hum.....yes, I live a D/s life when I have a live in slave...go figure. Yes I have play partners on occassion who also engage in aspects of BDSM with me

cuddleheart50 -> RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experience in Real Life? (7/30/2007 3:05:40 PM)
Yes

abytchgoddess4u -> RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experience in Real Life? (7/30/2007 3:07:44 PM)
Me. ~raises hand~ And Holy Fuck is that ever a button pusher for me!

MagiksSlave -> RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experience in Real Life? (7/30/2007 3:10:01 PM)
((raises her hand)) me me me ms

krista -> RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experience in Real Life? (7/30/2007 3:10:42 PM)
Yes to all of the things listed.. i had it all...i lost it all....i hope to have it again.... regards krista joy through service

DiurnalVampire -> RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experience in Real Life? (7/30/2007 3:12:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BIllCT How many have actually been in a BDSM or D/s Relationship in real life and understand that it is not all about the play, or sex, it is all about the actual relationship and making it last?. How many realize the all that is included in a vanilla relationship also applies to a BDSM or D/s Relationship in full with the additional responsibilities of the kinks, needs,desires, wants, of said relationship? I have been in relationships that ARE all about play and sex. Kitten and I are very much a play/sex relationship only and not about making it last. Our "actual relationship" is a strictly sexual one, and we are both very happy with it that way. With Angel, its all about the relationship enduring and very play oriented, but its completely not about the sex. There is no one way, as its said all the time. For some people, it can be all about the sex and the play, but that isnt the end all be all of the possibilities of BDSM relationships. It should depend on what the people involved are looking to make it regardless of the lifestyle it falls under. DV

MsBearlee -> RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experience in Real Life? (7/30/2007 3:12:47 PM)
Actually, rather than be flip here, I think I'll include part of a note that I JUST sent to someone: Well, I'm with you on the real-time part! Online is just so much...wanking! LOL Really, what IS the point? Anyway, I guess it's a moot point, in that you are so far away, but I don't have the idea that submissives are somehow degrading, or that enjoying them as human beings is, either. Of course, all the wicked fun we do might LOOK like it is (or we might even pretend it is), but in the real world...we're all interested in being in a relationship where we are respected and cared for; are we not? Do look out for yourself and keep in mind that it IS okay to be happy and liked, even loved, for who you are. There is another young man here who is really stiring the pot and ill-received for his age and enthuasism are seen as 'do me'. In reality, what he wants is contact and experience and possibly relationship. Of course, there ARE those who want to play more and relationship-less and we (the OP and myself) must be careful not to suggest 'relationship' makes things more true and worthy; just different. As the boy said; "To each their own". MsB

spiral23 -> RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experience in Real Life? (7/30/2007 3:14:30 PM)
yep had relationships and play..but still know i got lots to learn...buts thats kinda cool!

violetaelf -> RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experience in Real Life? (7/30/2007 3:14:46 PM)
Happy to say - Me!- [sm=wave.gif] And soon to be living with Sir.. ohh can't wait.. just hate the distance. [:D]

feastie -> RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experience in Real Life? (7/30/2007 3:15:50 PM)
Yes, OP ... There are many people that know these things ... But there are just as many that it's just not that way for them, on or offline.

cuffnspankme -> RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experience in Real Life? (7/30/2007 4:48:21 PM)
Yes I have had one lifestyle relationship and am currently feeling out having another one. I know it is about more then sex and play and the more is really what I seek. Sure sex and play are nice, but its the guts of a D/s relationship that really gets me going. Of course all the aspects of a vanilla relationship apply AND the aspects of having compatible kinks, which makes it doubly hard to find someone. I like a little vanilla with my kink, I think to realisticly have a working lifestyle relationship, whether its 24/7 or weekend or what have you, there has to be a little vanilla there. I have a kid and I am sure many others do and that just throws another wrench into the mix. But, IMO, a good relationship is worth a little work and compromise and rolling with the punches life throws at you.

Lashra -> RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experience in Real Life? (7/30/2007 4:50:11 PM)
I have had 3 of them over the years. The first one lasted 8 years, the second one 3 years and my present one is 2.5 years. I hope this present one is my last one, he is a keeper. ~Lashra

Estring -> RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experience in Real Life? (7/30/2007 4:54:55 PM)
Balance is a key in maintaining a long term relationship. My slave and I have been happily married for over two years and counting. But I guess some people are not looking for long term at this time in their life, so play or sex would suffice.

DaddysSweet1 -> RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experience in Real Life? (7/30/2007 6:34:54 PM)
*Yes, been married/collared to Master 5yrs now*

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