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TiNeedsHouseboy -> RE: Mistress's your thoughts & views on this online Etiquette (7/5/2005 1:46:38 AM)
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ORIGINAL: sudja remarked:
While I like and concur with your belief that "getting to know somebody" is a good first start in building any relationship, vanilla or D/s or M/s or whatever....
What I don't quite "get" is the entire "application" process. It just seems very dry to me.
Yours is more of a personal matchmaking type - with interests, etc., which does make more sense than most to me.
But the folks who post (or have in their profiles) "Taking applications now" just .... make me shake my head for a lot of reasons.
Sorry for the delay in responding. I've had my hands full. (No houseboy, as is apparent from my profile.... and no, that wasn't intended as a joke.)
My profile reflects more of a "personal matchmaking" process because I'm seeking a serious, long-term relationship, not a series of kinky scenes.
As part of this reply, I wanted to track down a Jack Rinella quote for you about the notion of applications. Since it's intertwined with the notion of petitioning, here's one of Jack's essays on the topic, which you might find intriguing:
http://leatherviews.com/cols/column.asp?id=571
Jack and I have significantly different life goals. (He's a bisexual Switch, with a preference for dominance, men and sadism. When Jack dreams, he dreams BIG!!!! He dreams of owning 17 slaves, plus maybe including a lover in his poly household, plus perhaps having a Master to top him. At the present time, Jack has one long-term slave, Patrick, plus he just passed the six month mark with a second slave, who's moving into his household.) Still, as one online buddy noted, Jack is "quite the force" in the BDSM community. If you don't already read his weekly free e-zine, I highly recommend it. You can sign up for it by clicking the "Free E-zine" tab at the top of the page on the LeatherViews site.
I don't request that someone immediately petition me. I do, however, expect a detailed, WRITTEN essay-type, self-description/introduction, designed as complementary (NOT complimentary.... I don't want some sycophant; I loathe insincerity) to my profile. In my experience, the endless inundation of attempts to bypass this requirement have been mind-blowing!
Anyone who expects to enter my life must be able to intellectually amuse and captivate me. Without the ability to engage me cognitively, a guy will never make an emotional dent. Without that dent, I have no interest in attempting or cultivating any type of D/s dynamic.
In addition, if someone is willing to invest time in creating a personalized, detailed reply, there's a higher probability that the guy's motivation is genuine.... as opposed to the parade of losers, wankers, posers and wannabes, who can't/won't step into real-time.
A precious few have invested that effort to win my attention. Sadly, I've caught each of them lying through their teeth. That's unacceptable and the "getting to know you" process grinds to an immediate halt. IMO, anyone who lies from the get-go will end up bypassing the length of Pinocchio’s nose by a yardstick!?!
BTW, since you read my profile, I tried to read yours. Did you deactivate it (and if so, why?), or have you not written one yet?
~ Ti ~
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