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BDsbabygirl -> His Birthday Gift - Ideas? (8/1/2007 3:14:36 AM)
My Dom's birthday is coming up and he still hasn't told me what he wants so it seems I'll have to figure something out on my own. My question is -- when it's your birthday, Christmas, anyothergiftgivingday, do you prefer something relating to the D/s lifestyle or do you prefer something that you just need, like tools or a book you've been wanting? I'm actually leaning towards one of each. I'm pretty sure I know what non-BDSM-related gift to get but am hard-pressed on coming up with anything pertaining to this lifestyle. Any ideas? I have thought of a credit card-like card that says "Master Card" LOL but what exactly would it be for? Since he's my Master, he doesn't need a card that says something like "entitles bearer to 1 blowjob" as he can get that at any time he desires. Thanx in advance to all who respond.

Babybass -> RE: His Birthday Gift - Ideas? (8/1/2007 3:36:47 AM)
I have bought Master belts before - he likes to use them to tie me up and punish me and then he can wear them with his suit to work! He likes that they have two uses and wearing them reminds Him of the fun we had together!!

vagabondduo -> RE: His Birthday Gift - Ideas? (8/1/2007 3:42:17 AM)
May i suggest something from thie site? http://www.cafepress.com/ussdominant Not many people know there was a real naval ship named Dominant. On this site they still sell t shirts, hats, mugs, etc with the ship's insignia.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: His Birthday Gift - Ideas? (8/1/2007 7:24:05 AM)
I prefer it to be something useful and something he's been desiring for awhile. Kinky or not really isn't relevant unless I know he'll be opening it in front of family. If you really want to go kinky- What toys does he want that he doesn't have? What about a leather vest or hat?

earthycouple -> RE: His Birthday Gift - Ideas? (8/1/2007 9:27:17 AM)
I reiterate what I've said before. If my slave (or husband) for that matter feels he has to come to a website full of people he doesn't know to come up with gifts to give me I'm going to be terribly offended when I find out because he obviously either doesn't know me very well or he doesn't care to give any thought to the gift. Having said that: I recieve gifts of all types and I enjoy and love them all because the men in my life took time to think and come up with something he knows I will love it. I have over the years gotten hand made paddles, purchased paddles, violet wands and implements for said wand, fire play implements etc. I have also gotten gifts such as building a room in my house, Godiva, books, gift cards, and furniture (non bdsm). My husband is famous for bringing me "found" gifts for my toy bag such as ping pong paddles from yard sales. What it boils down to is they think about me, my wants, my likes and my desires when they purchase gifts for me.

EclipseAbove -> RE: His Birthday Gift - Ideas? (8/1/2007 9:57:11 AM)
I'm not an easy person to get gifts for because if I every need or want something, I go out and get it myself. So, the people in my life have a very difficult time figuring out what to get me. What has worked best is when they simply ask me for what I would like. Perhaps you should try the same and just ask him.

MrDiscipline44 -> RE: His Birthday Gift - Ideas? (8/1/2007 10:06:51 AM)
I say you get him another woman. But not just any woman. One that will get to know his likes and dislikes, what he has and what he would want and most importantly, go out and fuckin get it and not ask a bunch of strangers (who don't know him and don't care to) what to get him. I mean, how impersonal can you get?

proudsub -> RE: His Birthday Gift - Ideas? (8/1/2007 10:26:45 AM)
A gift certificate for an adult store always makes a nice gift.

michelleryder -> RE: His Birthday Gift - Ideas? (8/1/2007 10:32:37 AM)
Isn't it the thought that counts? Think that means your thoughts not everyone elses.

BDsbabygirl -> RE: His Birthday Gift - Ideas? (8/1/2007 4:18:09 PM)
Thanks everyone; I have asked him and he has yet to respond. As we've been together less than three months, I'm not yet confident enough to give gifts the way I usually do; with the person's likes and desires in mind. The non-BDSM gift is something he off-handedly mentioned that he'd like a month ago, so I'm having no problem there except for actually find said item (and with only a week to go!). As for a BDSM-style gift, I have no idea. I haven't been doing this that long so I don't even know what there is to pick from, less alone what he'd like and, again, he ain't sayin'. I have surfed the web in the hopes that something interesting would catch my eye, something that just speaks to me about him, but I have yet to find it. That's why I tried here; thought someone might have a novel, unique idea. shrugs Guess maybe I'll go with that "Master" Card...leaves to look online for "novel business cards" or "novel credit cards" or "Create you own" business or credit cards

PairOfDimes -> RE: His Birthday Gift - Ideas? (8/1/2007 6:50:27 PM)
Think about things he admired or remarked on, or things he does that could be made easier or more pleasant with an added possession. Does he routinely complain of cold feet? Get a pair of those heated sock thingies. Did he drool over a friend's new gadget? Buy him an identical one. These things apply whether the thing is kinky or not, really--I don't have a kinky vs. non-kinky gift preference, but I do have preferences within those categories.

windchymes -> RE: His Birthday Gift - Ideas? (8/1/2007 7:06:02 PM)
Just wondering how the lemons were that some people in here got to suck on for their birthdays? [:'(] You're being uncomplimentary to the dozens of people in here who have a lot of fantastic and original ideas that they love to pass along to newbies. What's wrong with asking for some suggestions? Maybe he's one of those guys who already "has everything". I think men are notoriously hard to buy for because they tend to just go buy something when they want it. Some people, like myself, aren't real great at coming with with novel ideas, but I'm great at carrying out the ideas once someone plants the suggestion. Geez, people, lighten up a little. To the OP, I saw in your list of "Loves" in your profile that you like amusement parks. Assuming he does, too, how about a couple passes to Cedar Point, and if you have the time and money, an overnight stay in the Breakers, and maybe even a trip out to Put-in-Bay? [:)]

octavia -> RE: His Birthday Gift - Ideas? (8/1/2007 7:42:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: windchymes Just wondering how the lemons were that some people in here got to suck on for their birthdays? [:'(] You're being uncomplimentary to the dozens of people in here who have a lot of fantastic and original ideas that they love to pass along to newbies. What's wrong with asking for some suggestions? Maybe he's one of those guys who already "has everything". I think men are notoriously hard to buy for because they tend to just go buy something when they want it. Some people, like myself, aren't real great at coming with with novel ideas, but I'm great at carrying out the ideas once someone plants the suggestion. Geez, people, lighten up a little. ... Im with you on this one, was going to post pretty much the same thing here. I see nothing wrong with being willing to take the time and put in the effort to try and get him a thoughtful gift. I would be flattered if a new partner cared enough to do some research to try and please me with the gift they chose . I also know that sometimes I can be hard to buy for. Not all men know where to find the coolest, latest, greatest, belly dance stuff. One who found a site with a forum and asked questions... OMy!!! heavenly. You go girl!! [;)] btw, I love your "mastercard" idea. You could take it a step farther and have it symbolize your "gift of submission"[:D][:D][:D]

earthycouple -> RE: His Birthday Gift - Ideas? (8/1/2007 7:51:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: octavia [Im with you on this one, was going to post pretty much the same thing here. I see nothing wrong with being willing to take the time and put in the effort to try and get him a thoughtful gift. *I would be flattered if a new partner cared enough to do some research to try and please me with the gift they chose* . I also know that sometimes I can be hard to buy for. Not all men know where to find the coolest, latest, greatest, belly dance stuff. One who found a site with a forum and asked questions... OMy!!! heavenly. In my opinion research does not include asking a bunch of people I do not know what someone should purchase for me. I remain solid in that I would be offended if my Sig Other did this. This is in NO WAY negating what people on these forums have to offer. It is simply suggesting that strangers can't determine a personalized gift for me.

octavia -> RE: His Birthday Gift - Ideas? (8/1/2007 7:57:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: earthycouple quote: ORIGINAL: octavia [Im with you on this one, was going to post pretty much the same thing here. I see nothing wrong with being willing to take the time and put in the effort to try and get him a thoughtful gift. *I would be flattered if a new partner cared enough to do some research to try and please me with the gift they chose* . I also know that sometimes I can be hard to buy for. Not all men know where to find the coolest, latest, greatest, belly dance stuff. One who found a site with a forum and asked questions... OMy!!! heavenly. In my opinion research does not include asking a bunch of people I do not know what someone should purchase for me. I remain solid in that I would be offended if my Sig Other did this. This is in NO WAY negating what people on these forums have to offer. It is simply suggesting that strangers can't determine a personalized gift for me. I understand. My point being. I would expect my SO to have the desire.. but not the specific knowledge to select a specific gift. I used the bdance example, because I have lived it. I've gotten the same damn bdance scarf that sells in the local mart.. thoughtful but.. well not all the appealing in and of itself, and I have also gotten the truly sought after scarf from morocco I wanted desperately and treasured. The friend who bought the morrocan scarf had NO IDEA where the hell to find it, or even what it was. She had to ask around the bdance community for guidance. That was the point, that just because someone seeks guidance does not mean they are being impersonal or thoughtless, rather it can mean the opposite. [:)] Or at least it did in my case. I luff that scarf.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: His Birthday Gift - Ideas? (8/1/2007 9:23:02 PM)
I'm not disparaging people asking for ideas online- but I will point out that it's rather odd for someone to have decided they've had enough time and information to figure out "this" is what they want, that this other person is who they want to be owned by and to have total authority over them...and then not be able to think of any possible significant gift to give to them? Or to know what sorts of devices they might be interested in?

earthycouple -> RE: His Birthday Gift - Ideas? (8/2/2007 5:46:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: octavia quote: ORIGINAL: earthycouple quote: ORIGINAL: octavia [Im with you on this one, was going to post pretty much the same thing here. I see nothing wrong with being willing to take the time and put in the effort to try and get him a thoughtful gift. *I would be flattered if a new partner cared enough to do some research to try and please me with the gift they chose* . I also know that sometimes I can be hard to buy for. Not all men know where to find the coolest, latest, greatest, belly dance stuff. One who found a site with a forum and asked questions... OMy!!! heavenly. In my opinion research does not include asking a bunch of people I do not know what someone should purchase for me. I remain solid in that I would be offended if my Sig Other did this. This is in NO WAY negating what people on these forums have to offer. It is simply suggesting that strangers can't determine a personalized gift for me. I understand. My point being. I would expect my SO to have the desire.. but not the specific knowledge to select a specific gift. I used the bdance example, because I have lived it. I've gotten the same damn bdance scarf that sells in the local mart.. thoughtful but.. well not all the appealing in and of itself, and I have also gotten the truly sought after scarf from morocco I wanted desperately and treasured. The friend who bought the morrocan scarf had NO IDEA where the hell to find it, or even what it was. She had to ask around the bdance community for guidance. That was the point, that just because someone seeks guidance does not mean they are being impersonal or thoughtless, rather it can mean the opposite. [:)] Or at least it did in my case. I luff that scarf. But she didn't come here saying: My SO loves XY and Z so I want to find XYand Z but don't know where to find it can you help me? She said "he needs a gift what should I do?" I have no problem asking for advice on how to find something somewhat obscure or where to find the best deal on something.

maybemaybenot -> RE: His Birthday Gift - Ideas? (8/2/2007 7:41:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BDsbabygirl I have thought of a credit card-like card that says "Master Card" LOL but what exactly would it be for? Since he's my Master, he doesn't need a card that says something like "entitles bearer to 1 blowjob" as he can get that at any time he desires. Thanx in advance to all who respond. Well.... yanno. I have made coupon books of free passes and it was so well recieved he asked for one for subsequent B days. I have made mine more pamper type coupons such as: 1/2 hour foot massage, pedicure, manicure, candlelit formal dinner for two < home made>, car wax etc. I fine tuned them to things I knew he enjoyed or liked to have done for him. Of course he could have these things anytime without the coupon, but the coupon book just made it fun. In my experience, while he had the control to demand things, he equally enjoyed things being offered up to him also. mbmbn

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