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CuriousLord -> RE: A Matter of Perspective, Or How To Deal With Those That Really Get Under Your Skin (8/1/2007 11:08:34 AM)
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I'd suggest you just do what's best for you. What do you come to the forums for?
I think everyone has their hot buttons. Depending on what these hot buttons are, and how many of them there are, it's rather easy to get some people upset. For some, it's a political issue. For others, it's a relationship sort of stance. For yet others, it's if someone's gay or not.
These hot buttons aren't entirely misplaced. We want to see ourselves in others. The source of empathy. When someone else is surficiently different in one of our core values- it's easy to get mad at them.
Not to be overly blunt, but would you mind if I used you as an example? I doubt this will be offensive, but perhaps helpful.
Seeing others being harsh seems to upset you. So, perhaps, to you, kindness and patience is important? You look down on such individuals for not exhibiting these qualities? You'd probably get mad at them- which it looks like you're trying to find permission for- though, to do so, you'd be hypocritical, so it looks like you're bottling it up a bit. But, point being- they're being in a manner you look down on. You're even making a thread specifically about it, though I doubt you want to be a hypocrtic as to directly insult them. (In short, you can't stand mean people.)
Again, I think everyone has their hot buttons. Me? I utterly despise people that don't think things through thoroughly. I define myself as a thinker- and can't empathize with people who would chose other things before reason- even happiness. When someone does something that seems contrary to reason or earnest inquary, it drives me nuts. (In short, I can't stand stupid people.)
We all have our reasons. And, to others, perhaps even a purpose.
Myself, I rather doubt many people should even talk to me, unless they either share a high value in intelligence or care for an accurate discussion on a particular issue. My views on the value of being correct and accurate are extreme- I believe in such before happiness, both others' and my own personal happiness. Therefore, if the truth isn't pleasant, I'm still not one to back off. Those who enjoy being happy should avoid such morbid discussions with me as I'm not likely to take their feelings over being sincere and honest.
You? Someone would probably want to be around you to cheer up. To smile. (Provided I do not misunderstand you at the points that cause me to believe this.) Which isn't such a bad thing. People value happiness pretty heavily, and it does serve as a rather practical means in many cases.
I think you'd be happy around other people with similar values. Who want things to be pleasant- provided I understand your position fairly well enough. Perhaps, if you sought such individuals, you'd be happy. Nonetheless, I would encourage you not to be upset at other individuals with differing core values.
Forgive me if this post is disjointed. Haven't slept in about a week now.
PS- I used myself as an example as I know myself well enough to make such statements. I used you as an example because, well, you're the one who made the orginial post- though, if I misunderstand you, I mean no offense- I'm simply guessing from the handful of posts I've seen you make before. Even if it is a misunderstanding, I hope the point comes across- the mechanism, as opposed to the conclusion.
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