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ProtagonistLily -> RE: Being Way Too Picky? (6/29/2005 3:14:28 PM)
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This is a great topic!
I waited a long time between my last Master and the man I am seeing now, mostly because my last Master left me ready for a psyche ward by the time he finally let me go. For me, it was very important for me to work on the things that allowed me to be susceptible to someone who brought little joy and a lot of self criticism into my life. Unfortunately, in many ways, I was one of those 'broken girls' that we hear about sometimes.
I took time to get myself back together, over three years in fact. But nobody's perfect and I certainly am not. But I'm a hell of a lot better than I was and those who stuck by me through that miserable time in my life have seen the growth.
When I found the man I'm seeing now, I wasn't really looking. I knew what I wanted in a Dominant, but I wouldn't classify myself as actively seeking. Although I'd come across his profile here (and had dismissed it and him for a variety of reasons) I ended up meeting him at my local organization's munch. I've been in the scene where I live a long time and I feel it's important for me to be available for new people.
Although he made me laugh, was rather pleasant and intelligent, I just didn't think that we had much in common that would draw us together. But it seemed that time and time again, when I was at functions with my organization, we'd run into each other, and we'd chat, and he always made me laugh. He's new in the scene, and we were able to form a friendship that allowed him to ask questions.
Over the next several months, we began to email occasionally and actually looked forward to seeing each other at functions. We've been seeing each other for almost a month now, though we've known each other for quite a bit longer than that.
So, you never know. Being in the scene you know age, race, body type (trust me on that one) don't really mean that much. When you find someone you connect with, everything seems to fall into place.
Hon, don't settle; you and I have scene what happens when we or our friends do. Let time do it's thing and maybe someday soon, you'll be suprised like I've been.
Warmly,
Lily
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